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Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!

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Pippyls67 · 08/01/2025 15:24

I want to paint my kitchen red. Tried a tester pot and Dh says it looks like I’ve committed mass murder and not cleaned up after me. I think it’s jolly. Very old house, quite dark though with low ceilings and exposed beams, stone walls etc. Maybe it could he construed as ‘spooky’. Depends on your take on it I guess. I really want a deep rich colour feature wall. What colour would you go? Should I stick to my guns (excuse the pun) and stay with the red? Edited to say yes to first couple of replies- you’re right, I must consider him too. He’s not prepared to suggest a colour tho as he got free reign on his own study. Just comments unhelpfully. He’s very old tho so he says he’s fully entitled to be curmudgeonly from time to time. So up to me. Maybe on reflection this is why I want a jolly colour. Or Oh my God, stream of consciousness thinking now, am I trying to bait him for mild entertainment???? No - I’m old too - but I’m not that cantankerous. Ahh the fun of being a pair of retirees.

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Gettingslimmer · 08/01/2025 15:31

I’d find a compromise, I can’t imagine painting something in a colour my husband dislikes and wouldn’t be happy if he did that to me.

surely it’s his home too? Do you often treat each other like that.

username299 · 08/01/2025 15:31

OP red looks horrendous IMO. I've seen some stately homes where red looks good but it often doesn't work.

If your house is old, use heritage colours. You need a light colour to reflect the light.

BellissimoGecko · 08/01/2025 15:31

Is the house owned jointly? Then you compromise on paint colours. Sounds like red will be too dark/gloomy in a dark old house with exposed beans. And who wants to cook in a kitchen that reminds them of serial killers?

Trallers · 08/01/2025 15:29

In my mind I can't imagine red working in the house you describe, but hard to say without a picture. Would more of a burgundy fit your taste but be less blood-bathy for DH ?!

CheshireCats · 08/01/2025 15:28

Well I wouldn't choose a colour my partner (the other person the house belongs to) had told me they didn't like. So, no, I don't think you should "stick to your guns".
Whatever colour is picked, both parties have to be happy with it.

Hesonlyakidharry · 08/01/2025 15:26

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HPandthelastwish · 08/01/2025 15:26

Why do a colour DH doesn't like? Surely you need a compromise. I'd go for a similar tone but in green or blue.

Red 'makes' people angry and on edge, you want something calming or bringing the outside in perhaps.