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Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!

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Pippyls67 · 08/01/2025 15:24

I want to paint my kitchen red. Tried a tester pot and Dh says it looks like I’ve committed mass murder and not cleaned up after me. I think it’s jolly. Very old house, quite dark though with low ceilings and exposed beams, stone walls etc. Maybe it could he construed as ‘spooky’. Depends on your take on it I guess. I really want a deep rich colour feature wall. What colour would you go? Should I stick to my guns (excuse the pun) and stay with the red? Edited to say yes to first couple of replies- you’re right, I must consider him too. He’s not prepared to suggest a colour tho as he got free reign on his own study. Just comments unhelpfully. He’s very old tho so he says he’s fully entitled to be curmudgeonly from time to time. So up to me. Maybe on reflection this is why I want a jolly colour. Or Oh my God, stream of consciousness thinking now, am I trying to bait him for mild entertainment???? No - I’m old too - but I’m not that cantankerous. Ahh the fun of being a pair of retirees.

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Pippyls67 · 19/01/2025 14:50

mathanxiety · 14/01/2025 17:24

You could go red while avoiding the postbox/ abbatoir vibe.

F&B options:

Red family:
Romesco
Harissa
Preference Red
Incarnadine

Green family:
Duck Green
Banche
Raw Tomatillo
Sap Green

Blue family:
Pitch Blue
Drawing Room Blue

Brownish:
Chemise (a gray brown)
Deep Reddish Brown

As your existing cupboards have a golden/ yellow undertone, I'd avoid shades that have too much of a blue / cold undertone as the undertones will not be harmonious.

Very interesting list. I shall explore them all for the other rooms too. Thank you.

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LIJ · 18/01/2025 21:36

Rich dark colours ARE heritage colours.

CorsicaDreaming · 15/01/2025 22:59

@Pippyls67 - he sounds like a true romantic 🤣

Pippyls67 · 15/01/2025 22:50

Just remembered another funny anecdote about Dh and names of colours. I had a glorious ochre dress when we were first courting. He’s a farmer and he said it reminded him of something else. He called it the ‘calf scour yellow’ one for years. He liked it very much ironically.

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Pippyls67 · 15/01/2025 04:28

mathanxiety · 14/01/2025 17:24

You could go red while avoiding the postbox/ abbatoir vibe.

F&B options:

Red family:
Romesco
Harissa
Preference Red
Incarnadine

Green family:
Duck Green
Banche
Raw Tomatillo
Sap Green

Blue family:
Pitch Blue
Drawing Room Blue

Brownish:
Chemise (a gray brown)
Deep Reddish Brown

As your existing cupboards have a golden/ yellow undertone, I'd avoid shades that have too much of a blue / cold undertone as the undertones will not be harmonious.

Incarnadine is a gorgeous colour. Dh was amused at the name when we looked at it. It basically means ‘living flesh’ and he thought it might suit a house of ill repute if he ever decides to open one. He does like his little pipe dreams 🤣.

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mathanxiety · 14/01/2025 17:26

Breakfast Room Green is lovely!

mathanxiety · 14/01/2025 17:24

You could go red while avoiding the postbox/ abbatoir vibe.

F&B options:

Red family:
Romesco
Harissa
Preference Red
Incarnadine

Green family:
Duck Green
Banche
Raw Tomatillo
Sap Green

Blue family:
Pitch Blue
Drawing Room Blue

Brownish:
Chemise (a gray brown)
Deep Reddish Brown

As your existing cupboards have a golden/ yellow undertone, I'd avoid shades that have too much of a blue / cold undertone as the undertones will not be harmonious.

Davros · 14/01/2025 16:54

I need that Portmeirion watering can. That style looks lovely but I can't deny I'm disappointed not to see a glimpse of red

Pippyls67 · 14/01/2025 11:31

And again- another big thanks to folk who posted and voted. I really enjoyed participating in this thread. It was fun mentally visualising all the rooms you described so beautifully.

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Pippyls67 · 14/01/2025 11:27

For a particular personal reason I don’t want to post an actual picture of our kitchen so please forgive me. These pictures represent exactly the vibe tho. They are near as damn it.

Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!
Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!
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angela1952 · 14/01/2025 08:27

@Pippyls67 we’d love a picture please!

OliveThe0therReindeer · 14/01/2025 01:55

Excellent choices . Pic please ?

Davros · 13/01/2025 22:42

Yes! Show us a picture, it sounds lovely

angela1952 · 13/01/2025 19:04

sounds great, picture would be appreciated!

Pippyls67 · 13/01/2025 18:18

Final update lovely readers - it’s painted! I went with F&B Breakfast room green on just the one wall. A cream painted dresser full of my Portmeirion on said wall. It looks gorgeous together. Dh has conceded it does rather show the crockery collection to its best advantage and it all looks ‘quite pretty’. I’m very pleased. Thank you to everyone for voting and for all your opinions and suggestions. They were very much appreciated.

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Zvifflemeyer · 12/01/2025 22:47

Elzibub · 12/01/2025 13:56

Exactly that. Had a brain fart and couldn’t for the life of me remember what they were called !!

Do you have pics of your red sparkly kitchen? I'm not a fan of red, but it's my wife's favorite color. If it makes her happy, especially since I don't find the idea offensive, I'd support it.
Then again, the kitchen is more my domain than hers. BRIGHT PURPLE AND GREEN EVERYTHING INCOMING

Zvifflemeyer · 12/01/2025 22:43

HiEarthlings · 12/01/2025 01:45

Red makes people angry? What a load of tosh! Lol! That was debunked years ago, which is why insurance companies no longer penilise red car owners. My living room has a lot of red (including a red carpet), as does my kitchen and I find both of them lovely and calming. I certainly never feel angry whilst in either room! 🤣

"Penilise"
This made me laugh. I just imagined the insurance company sneaking over your house while you sleep and drawing penises on you and/or your car.

InterestedDad37 · 12/01/2025 20:42

If he won't make any helpful suggestions, then sod him ... do what you want to ✊

WoolySnail · 12/01/2025 13:58

@Elzibub it happens to us all 😁

Elzibub · 12/01/2025 13:56

WoolySnail · 12/01/2025 10:08

We have always known them be called kick boards 🙂

Exactly that. Had a brain fart and couldn’t for the life of me remember what they were called !!

WoolySnail · 12/01/2025 10:08

Elzibub · 09/01/2025 18:17

I had red sparkly surfaces and light wood doors in my kitchen with spotlights in the wood above the floor (bottom
of cupboards - can’t remember what they are called!!) . Loved it. Make a statement you can always paint over if it doesn’t work

We have always known them be called kick boards 🙂

Towishwelltoall · 12/01/2025 08:45

You choose colours and clothes to "please" others (= is socially amicable): You choose food to please yourself (=what suits your body's requirements and tastes).

Zvifflemeyer · 12/01/2025 04:23

Pippyls67 · 08/01/2025 15:24

I want to paint my kitchen red. Tried a tester pot and Dh says it looks like I’ve committed mass murder and not cleaned up after me. I think it’s jolly. Very old house, quite dark though with low ceilings and exposed beams, stone walls etc. Maybe it could he construed as ‘spooky’. Depends on your take on it I guess. I really want a deep rich colour feature wall. What colour would you go? Should I stick to my guns (excuse the pun) and stay with the red? Edited to say yes to first couple of replies- you’re right, I must consider him too. He’s not prepared to suggest a colour tho as he got free reign on his own study. Just comments unhelpfully. He’s very old tho so he says he’s fully entitled to be curmudgeonly from time to time. So up to me. Maybe on reflection this is why I want a jolly colour. Or Oh my God, stream of consciousness thinking now, am I trying to bait him for mild entertainment???? No - I’m old too - but I’m not that cantankerous. Ahh the fun of being a pair of retirees.

If you went with it, it'd seem spiteful. If you love the color red, would you consider red accents like fridge, range handles and whatnot? Or does he dislike the color red in general for decorating. My wife's also team red but I don't think she wants red walls. Curtains, utensils and other stuff? Sure.
I'm a big fan of florescent purple/green. But that can get tacky really fast if you're not careful.

CrowleyKitten · 12/01/2025 03:55

HiEarthlings · 12/01/2025 01:45

Red makes people angry? What a load of tosh! Lol! That was debunked years ago, which is why insurance companies no longer penilise red car owners. My living room has a lot of red (including a red carpet), as does my kitchen and I find both of them lovely and calming. I certainly never feel angry whilst in either room! 🤣

I find red cosy, luxurious and intimate (by which I don't mean sexually)

minerva7 · 12/01/2025 03:09

@Pippyls67

This is a beautiful calming and relaxing shade of red. I highly recommend it.

Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!