AIBU – For wanting to break up with my 23 year old partner because he sleeps with a stuffed animal?

Hilarious

I hope his name is Puff and lives by the sea

He sounds lovely! As long as he isn't preferring cuddling the dragon to me, this wouldn't bother me.

I'm 55 and have a toy fox and a hedgehog in my bed it wouldn't bother me. I even married a guy who slept with a machete under his pillow, in hindsight that was a mistake

You said he's asian, @DeliciousDonuts - stuffed animals are a lot more popular/mainstream in some cultures. So I feel there's nothing to see here, really?

Note that you talk about him being "the perfect first boyfriend" which to me indicates you're already thinking that he's your starter model and are moving on in your head and heart.

Hopefully he will find someone that actually appreciates him.

So glad I am not the only one. I am 34.
Of course I can sleep without it, it’s more a sensory thing now tbh - I am used to my arm being at that angle!

He sounds lovely, and the fact he talks about it not only to you but to his pals, shows he's emotionally mature too.

But the bottom line is, if you've got THE ICK then absolutely nothing will help you and the only option is to end it. Have you got the ick?! Or are you just a bit flummoxed by the idea of the stuffed animal and now you know it's not that weird you can live with it?

My fella used to collect dragon ornaments, and I have a Tia Water Dragon made of wood in my dinning room.

He deserves better ditch hik so he can find someone who will love and appreciate him. I am afraid you're the rotten egg in your relationship and he needs to run a mile. Poor bloke is being used and gets nothing in return. You want someone who will abuse you go find him and then you'll regret dumping him.

Definitely agree with this.

I reeeaaaaallllly want to see the dragon please

Male perspective here. We mostly don't get up four hours early. Special occasion, yes, but most days, no. And we wouldn't watch TV shows we don't like. Whether this last thing would continue for ages I have my doubts, so that is something to wonder about.

What is his birth sign? its the year of the Snake this year. Maybe the dragon is his birth sign.

Dragons hold a significant and rich symbolism in many Asian cultures. In East Asian traditions, such as in China, Japan, and Korea, dragons are revered as powerful and benevolent creatures. They often symbolize strength, power, wisdom, and good fortune.

• Chinese Culture: The dragon, or "Long" (龙), is a symbol of imperial authority and strength. Emperors were often seen as dragons incarnate. Dragons are believed to control water, rain, floods, and typhoons. They are associated with yang (masculine, active) energy and are a central figure in many myths and legends.
• Japanese Culture: Dragons in Japan, known as "Ryū" (竜), are often depicted as water deities, residing in bodies of water and bringing good fortune. They are less associated with fire and more with the ocean and rivers, embodying wisdom, strength, and protection.
• Korean Culture: In Korean mythology, dragons are seen as benevolent beings that bring rain and clouds. They symbolize authority, protection, and agricultural prosperity. Dragons in Korea are often depicted with long beards and are believed to ward off evil spirits.

This world is shit and stressful, I feel like we should all get some harmless comfort where we can. He doesn't even sleep with it when you're there, so what's the problem?

Honestly I think you’d be daft to break up with him over this. Not many men would treat you how he does and you may grow to regret it. However if you just can’t get past it then that’s fine but you need to set realistic expectations for future relationships

This does rather read like something someone pulled from Reddit.

Dump him, he deserves an upgrade.
Also learn how long a foot is because I bet you it is not 20ft. Is it more than 3 times longer than his bed??

I make soft toys - mini ones mind because I have neither the time nor patience (nor money nor space) to make a 20ft dragon (which for the avoidance of doubt, sounds awesome!)... my partner (male, nearly 50) not only makes soft toys sometimes but has made a bag that is a teddybear wearing batwings... took it apart to examine where he'd made errors, then felt sad for 'murdering' the bat bear bag... so put it back together to retire it to a shelf.

Anyway you're much better off with some bland person who has no interests and doesn't dare do anything even vaguely unusual. Much safer for you.

I think he sounds lovely, and I want to see a picture of the dragon.

Have you actually seen the dragon, OP? Are you sure it’s not a euphemism?

I do want to point out that he’s not without redeeming qualities though. He drives me to work at 5-6am most days even though he starts at 9am. Prioritises spending time with me above his friends, wants to play and watch games/shows that I like (even though I know he hates them), listens to me, holds hands etc. Things I’d expect most men to do regardless.

Um... they don't, though. Most men just don't.

In my opinion, this lovely man oughtn’t let the relationship “Drag on” 🐉🐲 with this rather judgemental woman.

Puts you on a pedestal?
Does he allow you to prioritise friends sometimes?

Beware of " love bombing " look it up
But unless his bedroom is huge it is not 20 foot long soft toy.
Please take a measure tape and report back

Dc16 sleeps with a massive soft toy monkey still. Sometimes it's just nice to cuddle something and go to sleep

When my husband works away, I have a 5ft crocodile that sleeps in his spot 😅 I hate the cold, empty space and end up stuck in the duvet if I don’t 😂

I’m 56 and have a 6’ fluffy pillow called Mr MayaPinion 2. I sleep snuggled into him when Mr MayaPinion is away overnight (he travels regularly for work). Your boyfriend sounds amazing and the dragon makes him sound more attractive, not less. Life is hard and if we find things that we like and give us comfort we should grab them with both hands. If you don’t like him throw him back because he will be snapped up by someone who appreciates him and his dragon in minutes.

It’s also a real shame men are judged more severely when it comes to stuff like this than women. If he was in his 40’s+ many would say he’s a perv or at least an oddball.