Women’s workload has increased from wfh

I think the opposite. I work from home 3 days a month and I'm really busy with work but at least I can quickly stick the washing on/ hang it out between calls and stick the oven on to warm up so I'm ready to cook as soon as my working day is done.

In terms of plates I only eat leftovers for lunch anyway and would eat that at home or at work so it's not any extra work to put the bowl in the dishwasher at home. It saves over an hour per day commute and me being at home definitely doesn't create an extra hour a days worth of work. If children are at home that is completely different.

It's the partner making all the mess if you read all the ops responses. And then she responded to say she doesn't want to talk about the actual problem, which is fine and her prerogative, so the thread has moved on a bit.

I don’t do more housework – I don’t see why I’d need to increase my hoovering. But definitely see the increase in plates and dishwasher use. That’s largely DP; when I’m on my own it’s largely unchanged, but somehow he can have a sandwich for lunch and use three saucepans, a wok, the box grater, nine chef’s knives and an egg slicer, and we don’t even have an egg slicer. He pulls his weight in doing the laundry mountain and he’s dealing with the post-Christmas recycling, so 🤷‍♀️

Well, it's just me and DS2 at home and I've been WFH for years.
I guess there is more housework, but the flexibility that wfh allows me more than compensates.
I can bring the washing in if it starts raining. I can get those interminable small tasks done in my little breaks (my workstation locks down for 5 mins every hour) such as sort laundry, put the bins out, put the washing up away, chop some veggies, open the post etc. In longer breaks I can walk to the post office or do a bit of banking.

@woolflower having been there, done that and got the tshirt, I would wholeheartedly advocate for divorce. It's been bliss for me. My kids are fine. The pros is a very very long list, and 4 years in, I don't have any cons. I know it's different for everyone though, and I'm lucky financially.

I work 4 days week plus occasional overtime, all from home. I'd like to be full time but it just seem impossible at the moment.

DH is full-time and the higher earner. However, I still earn a very good salary in a career that I spent 6 years training towards.

I have had the same kettle and mugs for nearly 15yrs now, they’re certainly not showing any extra signs of wear and tear in the last 4yrs of wfh!!! It sounds like you’re making excuses because you’re fed up with your husband taking the piss. Tell him to do his own washing up and sort the bins. I can’t believe someone would be that disrespectful, I certainly wouldn’t put up with it.

Sounds like you want to escape from him for a bit and I don’t blame you. I would look for another job as you don’t seem very happy at the moment.

Sweet lord no - the only thing that has increased for me more is cooking mainly because i was the last home due to my commute - We had a cleaner but would be stull running around doing stuff at weekends before back to work Monday. Now with WFH - we both only out now about one day a week depending on schedule. Laundry has reduced big time as not wearing as much clothes. Finish now at a nice time in evening with time to run a hoover or mop if required and cook a proper dinner or have time to sit and watch tipping point 😝My weekends are freed up - we still have our cleaner all be it not every week now - would never get rid of her. I dunno what mugs and kettles you have that are getting wear and tear - I use one mug all day just rinse it out - same as i would have done in work. Mugs i have here are years old 😅

After school club is used but doesn't start early enough and end late enough to accomodate a commute. He will not budge on asking for flexibility at work in order to do some of the drop offs or pick ups.

I've been very clear with him about the impact that has on me and our relationship, he thinks I'm being dramatic and awkward. Our relationship is pretty much dead because of it and I spend most my days weighing up the pros and cons of a divorce.

Not at all. I worked from home before the pandemic and only find that it saves me 3 hours a day. And I hardly ever get coughs and colds now I'm not picking them up on manky public transport.

Yeah, my employer are big on wellbeing. They encourage us to get up and move during meetings, take breaks and get that 5m of washing done.

I find it annoying that my husband WFH too and doesn't really do chores in breaks. So when I finish work I like to sit and chill out but he's grumbling about being busy, when I've done little bits all day.

Plus I'm now stuck in a WFH job I hate because now he's back in the office there is no one else around to school runs.

Why do you have to @woolflower when theres 2 parents who are equally responsible?
If he can do a full time ooh job then of course so can you.
Childminders, after school club if you both want to. If that's not available then you both need to work out how you're going to share the pick up fairly between the TWO EQUAL parents.

Why on earth does he never take out the bins? You need to have a proper conversation with him about him pulling his weight at home and not just doing the bare minimum whenever he feels like it.