Seriously, what is wrong with everyone today?!

WhatFreshHellisThese · 2025-01-08T11:45:16+00:00

1) Childminder announced they now finish at 5pm -was 530pm. They are "going to send me a new contract to sign". Hmm yeah but l am probably not signing it as l have a real job and 530pm is already waaaay to early. Time to find another childminder most likely 2) Ex announces his girlfriend has moved into my road (for context the plan was for them to live together). Particularly odd as we live in a city with thousands of other roads and no shared children 3) Drain man cancelled yet again so house still hums

LalaPaloosa2024 · 20/01/2025 05:17

sushibelt · 08/01/2025 12:14

Childminding is a real job. You are slagging off her job.

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I don’t think OP was slagging off the child minder’s job, but the new hours being proposed. Most people would struggle to collect at 5. By Saying she has a real job she means typical/average time commitments at work.

Massive overreaction to OP’s post!

Snakebite61 · 10/01/2025 12:07

WhatFreshHellisThese · 08/01/2025 11:45

Childminder announced they now finish at 5pm -was 530pm. They are "going to send me a new contract to sign". Hmm yeah but l am probably not signing it as l have a real job and 530pm is already waaaay to early. Time to find another childminder most likely
Ex announces his girlfriend has moved into my road (for context the plan was for them to live together). Particularly odd as we live in a city with thousands of other roads and no shared children
Drain man cancelled yet again so house still hums

A pointless post.

MiraculousLadybug · 10/01/2025 11:39

@WillimNot Jesus she sounds like she was a nightmare! You'd think anyone who moved in opposite a pub would do some thinking and expect it to function like a pub during ordinary pub opening hours. It's worrying how easily a pub's licence can be threatened by vexatious complainers.

WillimNot · 10/01/2025 10:57

WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 22:17

Sympathies. I used to work in a pub once upon a time and it’s hard work. I also used to live 6 doors down from a pub which l loved (great for Christmas Day as l could still cook lunch whilst at the pub, as it was a 2 minute walk). There were some NIMBY’s who lived on the road who couldn’t grasp the pub had been there long than them (think 50+ years) so why should it vanish when they turned up living there as they didn’t like living on the same road as a pub. So would try to stir stuff up for the landlord 🙄

If it’s any consolation l would LOVE a trip to the pub right now. Dry January is very over rated

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Oh in my last pub that I managed, whereas this one I'm the landlady, we had a lady move in across the road

She was renting, so must have visited before signing up.

She was the bane of my life. Every week without fail she would moan about Fridays, we had a band on each Friday, finishing promptly at 10.30pm. I would do spot checks outside the perimeter to check sound leakage was minimal if any, had a decibel metre, doors windows closed. Couldn't have done more. After getting nowhere with complaints, she decided to scream abuse in my face.

Monday morning we get a letter from the council licensing team, she had said we were still open at 4am and had loud dance music playing. We had a license cut off of midnight and no live performance after 11pm. She was lying through her teeth but things have to be investigated. Luckily we had CCTV and sent time stamps of people leaving at 11.30pm, and then hourly until 5pm showing no one in the pub. My boss contacted her landlord and she was told to leave.

It's hard work but yeah it's getting there. Sometimes money worries me, and January is dead which is disappointing.

But yes, no more dry January!

eastegg · 10/01/2025 10:21

GuestSpeakers · 08/01/2025 12:36

@WhimsicalGubbins76 you must be joking about judges and barristers 🤣

I took it to mean there is no typical finish time, could be 8pm one day, then case goes short and no prep for once so a lucky 3pm finish another day (not a regular occurrence I know, I speak as a barrister albeit not practising these days). I also hope pp didn’t mean finishing at 4.30 because that’s when Crown Courts knock off, which I think is what you were getting at!

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WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 22:17

WillimNot · 09/01/2025 17:58

I can beat that.

I run a pub and catch every cough and cold going. Tried to get a GP appointment for a week now as I'm pretty sure I have a very bad chest infection. GP desk witch says no, go and get Bronco Stop (despite me saying I've tried every OTC going)

There was a fight in said pub over Christmas, crap but it can happen in a town centre pub. All involved barred. Except suddenly we have had loads of official folk turn up over "anonymous complaints". Despite it being obviously malicious, I'm having to put up with pen pushers treating me like a moron. The latest was Fire Regulator. I keep "all" my fire doors locked. Considering one is the front entrance very doubtful. They were so condescending to me but changed to polite when talking to DH. Clearly I'm just a woman and dim because DH told them what I did and they listened to him.

Money is tight and it sucks. I'm starting to think this was a hugely bad idea but DH is so fucking positive (ignorant) that he doesn't see it. I'm very close to getting a job in Aldi because at least I will have an actual income

4 The amount of companies this year telling folk to do Dry January and avoid the pub. Get in the fucking bin. We do have non alcoholic and soft drinks you know. We don't force feed people Tequila and Fosters.

Sympathies. I used to work in a pub once upon a time and it’s hard work. I also used to live 6 doors down from a pub which l loved (great for Christmas Day as l could still cook lunch whilst at the pub, as it was a 2 minute walk). There were some NIMBY’s who lived on the road who couldn’t grasp the pub had been there long than them (think 50+ years) so why should it vanish when they turned up living there as they didn’t like living on the same road as a pub. So would try to stir stuff up for the landlord 🙄

If it’s any consolation l would LOVE a trip to the pub right now. Dry January is very over rated

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restingbitchface30 · 09/01/2025 22:00

A real job? You sound pleasant

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WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 21:45

Sharptonguedwoman · 09/01/2025 21:12

Absolutely like childminding but I didn’t think OP was being derogatory, just that she couldn’t change her hours.

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Exactly, l can’t keep on changing my hours. This is only a couple of months after changing my hours to accommodate the Childminder. I asked why it wasn’t mentioned then but didn’t get a proper explanation. I can’t change my hours every other month, my workplace have been accommodated and understanding but that can’t last forever

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Sharptonguedwoman · 09/01/2025 21:12

Mama3737 · 09/01/2025 21:08

@Sharptonguedwoman like... childminding?

Absolutely like childminding but I didn’t think OP was being derogatory, just that she couldn’t change her hours.

Mama3737 · 09/01/2025 21:08

@Sharptonguedwoman like... childminding?

Sharptonguedwoman · 09/01/2025 21:08

Mama3737 · 08/01/2025 12:42

A 'real job' wow. I wouldn't be handing you another contract to sign, I'd happily be getting rid!

I took it to mean a full on, full time job.

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WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 20:10

Mama3737 · 09/01/2025 19:29

@FrannyScraps yes - so true. The childminder is already working a longer day than you in order for you to be able to drop your child/ren off and get to work in your real job on time, plus working longer at the other side for you to finish work and get back to collect them. But she now needs to finish at the same time as you do, and that's an issue? Why is it okay for you to finish at 5pm and not her @WhatFreshHellisThese ?

I’m impressed by your IT skills that you know my working hours and schedule for every week. From what l know then l work just as many hours as the childminder if not more. It’s her who wants to finish work at 5pm. If it was up to me then l would work until 6pm

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WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 20:08

croydon15 · 09/01/2025 19:52

I also agree with you OP that 5.00 pm is early as lots of people finish at 5.00 pm and therefore 5.30 is a more reasonable time, of course CM can dictate whichever time they want the children collected but it's making life even more difficult for parents.

It does make life more difficult. Before children l assumed 600 or 630pm was the norm

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WhatFreshHellisThese · 09/01/2025 20:07

Bilboben · 09/01/2025 19:50

What is wrong with you that you assume everyone should play by your needs. If people cannot you the service you want move on.

That was covered on the 1st or 2nd page. Going to see one tomorrow and another next week. Both do until 6pm

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WillimNot · 09/01/2025 20:06

ToKittyornottoKitty · 09/01/2025 18:36

Sounds like you live near a crap pub and somehow think every pub is the same. Try some
more variety

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Exactly!

To be honest, operators like me hate the lazy lot who don't sort their bar out. We've spent about £30k so far to turn ours around (it was a drug den before, mates thought we were mad) and everyone now comments how clean it is, how the beer tastes crisp and cold, how it always smells lovely here and it's well stocked.

I clean and tidy every single morning, check our lines, DH cleans them once a week, everything is always available and nice. If I'm expecting money to cross the bar, you have to make people want to be here. It's still hard (18 hour days and we've yet to take on staff) but it's what we have to do.

I'm glad there's still people happy to defend us!

Sunhatweather · 09/01/2025 20:02

Oh yay! We found the only person in the world with an actual REAL job 😁🎉 🙄
Or get other childcare or a nanny, OP.

WillimNot · 09/01/2025 19:58

devilspawn · 09/01/2025 18:34

Yeah but pub soft drinks are always flat, they're horrible. I don't think you actually taste them. And there's hardly any variety, especially of sugar free drinks. And why is everywhere only doing Pepsi Max and nothing else now

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Nope that's pubs that don't check their gas properly, shit or running out gas always equals flat drinks.
We do have Pepsi max and Diet Pepsi on draught, but we also have ginger beer, we have dandelion and burdock, we have bottles of coke and diet coke, loads of juice, as well as Heineken, Guinness and Gordon's zero. We're now looking at getting Appletise and some zero alcohol peroni.

I actually check our lemonade and pepsi gun to make sure it's fizzy, can't stand a pub that serves flat warm drinks.

croydon15 · 09/01/2025 19:52

I also agree with you OP that 5.00 pm is early as lots of people finish at 5.00 pm and therefore 5.30 is a more reasonable time, of course CM can dictate whichever time they want the children collected but it's making life even more difficult for parents.

Bilboben · 09/01/2025 19:50

What is wrong with you that you assume everyone should play by your needs. If people cannot you the service you want move on.

Mama3737 · 09/01/2025 19:29

@FrannyScraps yes - so true. The childminder is already working a longer day than you in order for you to be able to drop your child/ren off and get to work in your real job on time, plus working longer at the other side for you to finish work and get back to collect them. But she now needs to finish at the same time as you do, and that's an issue? Why is it okay for you to finish at 5pm and not her @WhatFreshHellisThese ?

Crakajak · 09/01/2025 19:26

I was there until the real job comment. I don't need to say more. I will leave it to others.

PointsSouth · 09/01/2025 18:45

FranticHare · 08/01/2025 12:13

I'm with you OP.

Child care finishing at 5pm when many jobs are 9-5 is not helpful. Of course that is her choice, but not helpful. Ex's by default are idiots. And hate waiting in for people who don't turn up!

Hope all is sorted soon.

Might be worth pointing out that the OP is an ex too.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 09/01/2025 18:36

devilspawn · 09/01/2025 18:34

Yeah but pub soft drinks are always flat, they're horrible. I don't think you actually taste them. And there's hardly any variety, especially of sugar free drinks. And why is everywhere only doing Pepsi Max and nothing else now

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Sounds like you live near a crap pub and somehow think every pub is the same. Try some
more variety

devilspawn · 09/01/2025 18:34

WillimNot · 09/01/2025 17:58

I can beat that.

I run a pub and catch every cough and cold going. Tried to get a GP appointment for a week now as I'm pretty sure I have a very bad chest infection. GP desk witch says no, go and get Bronco Stop (despite me saying I've tried every OTC going)

There was a fight in said pub over Christmas, crap but it can happen in a town centre pub. All involved barred. Except suddenly we have had loads of official folk turn up over "anonymous complaints". Despite it being obviously malicious, I'm having to put up with pen pushers treating me like a moron. The latest was Fire Regulator. I keep "all" my fire doors locked. Considering one is the front entrance very doubtful. They were so condescending to me but changed to polite when talking to DH. Clearly I'm just a woman and dim because DH told them what I did and they listened to him.

Money is tight and it sucks. I'm starting to think this was a hugely bad idea but DH is so fucking positive (ignorant) that he doesn't see it. I'm very close to getting a job in Aldi because at least I will have an actual income

4 The amount of companies this year telling folk to do Dry January and avoid the pub. Get in the fucking bin. We do have non alcoholic and soft drinks you know. We don't force feed people Tequila and Fosters.

Yeah but pub soft drinks are always flat, they're horrible. I don't think you actually taste them. And there's hardly any variety, especially of sugar free drinks. And why is everywhere only doing Pepsi Max and nothing else now