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AmIJustAPrude · 2025-01-08T09:39:29+00:00

NC for this. I've just sent the following email to a company I ordered underwear from: *I've just received my order confirmation and was quite shocked by the accompanying image. I don't want to screenshot it to resend, so hopefully you can work out the image I mean: it is of two women/girls lying on their fronts outside wearing black pants.* *The woman (I hope) or girl on the left is very thin, which immediately made me assume she was a teenager. One of her breasts is clearly visible. * *I'm not prudish about breasts at all, but it made me extremely uncomfortable to receive an image of what appears to be an almost-naked teenage girl. Given you also sell bras, it seems totally unnecessary for her to be completely topless. * *I recommend you review the images you send out to your customers, as this has put me off using your company again. * As I say, I don't have an issue with breasts- I've breastfed in public many a time. It was mainly the fact that, based on her body shape, the woman/girl in the photo looks very young (post-pubescent, but pre-adult) and the exposed breast was completely unnecessary. So what do you think: did I overreact?

ArabellaScott · 09/01/2025 12:13

Growlybear83 · 09/01/2025 10:09

But the photo concerned wasn't exactly revealing and certainly didn't show any breasts, let alone reproductive organs. And, like many other people on this thread, I don't think the woman looks particularly young - she looks in her 30s to me and definitely not a 'young girl'. The company uses different sized women to model their clothing, more so than many clothing retailers. The woman that the OP referred to in the photo yesterday is every bit as much of a 'real woman' as anyone else who is larger or lumpier - she just has a figure that I am very envious of, and I suspect that is the case with many other people. I really don't have an issue with this type of advertising and quite honestly, if I'm buying underwear, I would rather see it advertised on a well toned, slim, and attractive woman than a fat, lumpy 67 year old like me!

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Why, though? Models are to give you an idea of how it might look on you.

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/01/2025 10:40

pointswinprizes · 09/01/2025 10:14

I don’t think anyone has actually claimed they don’t.

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We're talking about a 'thin' (??) woman in an advert.
PP wrote: 'If you're selling knickers show real women in them'.
Thus suggesting slim women don't exist.

pointswinprizes · 09/01/2025 10:14

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/01/2025 09:37

She is a 'real woman'. She just happens to be a slim one. They exist you know.

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I don’t think anyone has actually claimed they don’t.

Growlybear83 · 09/01/2025 10:09

Omarules · 09/01/2025 02:26

When the advertisers make adverts selling mens vests with views of their penises and balls in the picture then I'd say "ok" but they don't do they? It wouldn't be a selling point. Using revealing pictures of obviously young girls is? Boycott the company until they sort their warped misoginistic advertising policy out. If you're selling knickers show real women in them, afterall they are supposed to be selling pants to us ,not titifying anyone else.

But the photo concerned wasn't exactly revealing and certainly didn't show any breasts, let alone reproductive organs. And, like many other people on this thread, I don't think the woman looks particularly young - she looks in her 30s to me and definitely not a 'young girl'. The company uses different sized women to model their clothing, more so than many clothing retailers. The woman that the OP referred to in the photo yesterday is every bit as much of a 'real woman' as anyone else who is larger or lumpier - she just has a figure that I am very envious of, and I suspect that is the case with many other people. I really don't have an issue with this type of advertising and quite honestly, if I'm buying underwear, I would rather see it advertised on a well toned, slim, and attractive woman than a fat, lumpy 67 year old like me!

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/01/2025 09:37

Omarules · 09/01/2025 02:26

When the advertisers make adverts selling mens vests with views of their penises and balls in the picture then I'd say "ok" but they don't do they? It wouldn't be a selling point. Using revealing pictures of obviously young girls is? Boycott the company until they sort their warped misoginistic advertising policy out. If you're selling knickers show real women in them, afterall they are supposed to be selling pants to us ,not titifying anyone else.

She is a 'real woman'. She just happens to be a slim one. They exist you know.

BreezyAquaCrow · 09/01/2025 07:43

QueenRainbow · 09/01/2025 06:31

Anyone else go to the website and placed an order?
I did (sale stuff ha ha) may also have stated on the “where did you hear about us” part “other, Mumsnet” lol.
cheers OP.
love bright undies and bras/ clothes/ shoes. After all I am Queen Rainbow

Yes me too! I chose other and said ‘hilarious mumsnet thread’ 😂

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AmIJustAPrude · 09/01/2025 07:13

ArabellaScott · 09/01/2025 07:03

Tagging MN doesn't work, OP. You'd need to report the post with your name and ask them to delete via the form.

Hope you have an elbow-free day! 😊

Thank you for this! I've now done it properly.

So do I!

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ArabellaScott · 09/01/2025 07:03

Tagging MN doesn't work, OP. You'd need to report the post with your name and ask them to delete via the form.

Hope you have an elbow-free day! 😊

QueenRainbow · 09/01/2025 06:31

Anyone else go to the website and placed an order?
I did (sale stuff ha ha) may also have stated on the “where did you hear about us” part “other, Mumsnet” lol.
cheers OP.
love bright undies and bras/ clothes/ shoes. After all I am Queen Rainbow

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AmIJustAPrude · 09/01/2025 05:50

DuckDuckDuckGooseDuck · 08/01/2025 22:17

Thanks for the giggles this evening @AmIJustAPrude . Thought I'd point out that in asking mumsnet to delete your screenshot with first name, you typed your name again 😂 so you might want to get that post deleted too.

Oh Jesus wept! What was wrong with me yesterday???

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TMess · 09/01/2025 04:52

Well I’ve just bought quite a few pair so if this was an unhinged marketing ploy, it worked.

Candy24 · 09/01/2025 04:03

Startinganew32 · 08/01/2025 10:24

Omg also her breast is not even visible. That’s her other arm and elbow. And she does not look remotely like a teen.

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if that is the image I agree. Also the site is very multi body types.

ChooseYourOutfit · 09/01/2025 03:41

WishinAndHopin · 09/01/2025 03:06

YABU. Slim women exist. They are not teenagers and should not be assumed to be such. Slim women deserve to be represented in the media as well.

Even if it was a breast, YWBU. Breasts are not obscene or sexual.

But weird to not cover the breasts with a bra, being as the company wants to sell its bras presumably. At best a missed advertising opportunity, at worst, deliberately using naked women to get attention for their brand.

ChooseYourOutfit · 09/01/2025 03:37

It’s seems dodgy for them to use a photo like that instead of taking the opportunity to advertise their bras. Even more dodgy to use a model that looks young. I wouldn’t buy from them OP.

WishinAndHopin · 09/01/2025 03:06

YABU. Slim women exist. They are not teenagers and should not be assumed to be such. Slim women deserve to be represented in the media as well.

Even if it was a breast, YWBU. Breasts are not obscene or sexual.

Omarules · 09/01/2025 02:26

When the advertisers make adverts selling mens vests with views of their penises and balls in the picture then I'd say "ok" but they don't do they? It wouldn't be a selling point. Using revealing pictures of obviously young girls is? Boycott the company until they sort their warped misoginistic advertising policy out. If you're selling knickers show real women in them, afterall they are supposed to be selling pants to us ,not titifying anyone else.

LittleRedYarny · 09/01/2025 01:37

FerretChops · 08/01/2025 09:43

Not Snag is it? They're well known for their weird fetish type advertising, with either men in tights or very large women in stockings etc

I don’t think larger ladies in stockings and tights is a fetish thank you very much!

I’m a size 16/18 and I appreciate seeing my body type being used to model items designed to fit my body shape so I can make an informed consumer choice. This doesn’t not make it fetishised advertising!

LBFseBrom · 09/01/2025 01:31

Are they supposed to be on the beach?

Topsyturvy78 · 09/01/2025 01:26

My family get locked in my porch all the time. It's easily done if your not used to having a porch. My front door is a Yale lock so I've also been locked out in my nightie putting the rubbish out. Thankfully the DC let me back in. It's easily done but why would you have a key safe around the back? Why would you not have a key safe out the front for the cleaner?

EmmaSmiff · 09/01/2025 01:24

This whole thread has cheered me right (elbow) up @AmIJustAPrude
It’s a funny thread about a funny bone 😁

Toenailz · 09/01/2025 00:39

I can not, no matter which way I try to look at this, understand a grown ass woman being offended by a breast (it wasn't, but IF it was). Much less a lesbian.

I've honestly been wondering what in the fuck I have just read, with my head in my hands.

You are just contributing to the sexualisation of women's bodies. Breasts are only seen as sexual because of men - they have a biological function, are a natural part of the human body, although that being said, genuinely ask yourself this OP, if this had been a man with man boobs, would have you written a letter of complaint?

The whole 'this woman looks like a teenager because she has a lean body frame' is an entire other kettle of fish - or more like dangerous fucking sharks.

shuggles · 09/01/2025 00:11

@AmIJustAPrude You're getting old like the rest of us, OP. One of the symptoms of getting old is that you think young adults look like children.

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/01/2025 00:11

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 09/01/2025 00:09

Yep you should definitely have read the full thread….

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Ah yes... I've since seen the replies. Glad we're all on the same page 😂😂

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 09/01/2025 00:09

Jumpingthruhoops · 09/01/2025 00:02

Apologies if someone has already done this, haven't RTFT.
But I've just had a look at S&S website at their 'What is B Corp?' (sustainability) page.
It features an image of a slim (not thin) young woman laying on her front beside a curvier woman, also on her front. Both are wearing only black pants. Is this the image you mean?

From what I can see, the bit you're claiming is 'nipple', I'm pretty sure is actually the young woman's elbow! 😂 And age-wise I'd say she looks about 25, so not a 'teenage girl' at all.

Don't see the harm in any of this at all so, on the basis of all the above, I'll have to say, yes, you are being a prude!

Yep you should definitely have read the full thread….

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 09/01/2025 00:08

You should definitely use the voucher for all the free advertising you’ve given them today! I’d never heard of them 🤣