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To think my GP just dismissed me

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NuttyNut98 · 08/01/2025 00:39

I went today for a couple of issues which I told the receptionist about on the phone. One was insomnia and headaches. I did explain I was stressed at the moment. Her first thought was to prescribe anti depressants with a sedative effect. Apparently these ones help you sleep quite deeply which I don’t feel too good about as I’m a single parent to a young DC. I also think she didn’t try and get to the cause of why I felt stressed or even do any things to see why I’m getting headaches so often, she just went straight to anti depressants. I also have chronic shoulder pain, which gets worse and when it flares up, I’m struggling to move it. I thought she would have a look and ask me to put my arm into positions so she can see where the pain is. She also didn’t ask me if I’d injured it or try to see why it might have started. I was just asked to self refer to physio. Aibu to feel dismissed?

OP posts:
ruethewhirl · 08/01/2025 00:50

Did she prescribe amitriptyline? If so, she might have been trying to target the insomnia without prescribing sleeping pills, rather than necessarily going to antidepressants as a first resort - it's quite effective for inducing sleep, I'm on it partly for that reason as i have a sleep disorder. I've heard the same about mirtazapine though I've never been on it.

Apileofballyhoo · 08/01/2025 00:47

What age are you, OP? Insomnia and shoulder pain were two of my perimenopause symptoms. Also increased stress. If you're not sleeping it's likely to make stress and headaches worse anyway.

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 08/01/2025 00:45

The headaches/stress - how can a GP help with this?

Chronic headaches seem a perfectly reasonable thing to discuss with the GP. Not least to rule out anything serious.

mjf981 · 08/01/2025 00:44

The headaches/stress - how can a GP help with this? Surely this is on you to figure out the underlying problem and address it. Honestly, sometimes people think GPs are miracle workers.
You should book a separate appointment to address the shoulder pain.

NuttyNut98 · 08/01/2025 00:44

UncharteredWaters · 08/01/2025 00:41

You wanted to talk about insomnia, stress, chronic headaches and shoulder pain in a 10 minute appt?

That was your problem to start with.
Can you even write your history/symptoms and current management attempts for all that down in 10 minutes because I don’t think I could.

Probably not but I did say to the receptionist and rather than say I’d have to make a separate appointment, she said I could discuss all these at the same one

OP posts:
UncharteredWaters · 08/01/2025 00:41

You wanted to talk about insomnia, stress, chronic headaches and shoulder pain in a 10 minute appt?

That was your problem to start with.
Can you even write your history/symptoms and current management attempts for all that down in 10 minutes because I don’t think I could.