Nobody fed the baby.

If they had a decent sized breakfast and got a meal at 5 then food wise it’s not too bad as they did have lunch. I would have given more for lunch but it wouldn’t necessarily get eaten so half the scrambled egg might have been enough.

they should have been given drinks though. Were they not given any with lunch?

Yes & no

The baby SHOULD HAVE BEEN FED but obviously mistakes happen & this might be the only time it happens so it would depend on who was responsible & wether it happens constantly

This.

It’s not great, but maybe the adult thought he wasn’t hungry / not feeling great as he didn’t eat the lunch he was given. Do they normally care for the baby? Was this their first time? I don’t think it’s massive neglect, but sounds like miscommunication / someone not used to babies routine. The lack of a drink was very poor. I’d personally be paying for childcare and not using grandparents / the husband (which i’m assuming it was one of)

Scrambled eggs are usually made with milk/water added so I'm sure if the baby was that hungry or thirsty they'd of polished off the eggs.
Can't believe people think this is neglect ffs get a grip.

Goodness it's absolutely neglect. That poor baby must have been so hungry and thirsty. These "adults" are not able to care for the baby. I have 3 kids (one with very significant complex additional support needs) and my kids have never not been fed or given drinks regardless of Joe many comings and goings there are in my house

Yes of course it’s neglect! 100% I would be calling social services. It’s the most basic of care

Really neglectful to not even offer any milk or water. Poor thing must have been really thirsty, why did they not offer the food that was left? I’d be more paranoid with a child that wasn’t my own DC that they were at minimum fed and watered.

As its none of her judgy business

Why are you refusing to say who this adult was?

Very vague story. But all in all - of course it’s neglectful to not offer a 13 month old any fluids in the course of several hours. This is non debatable and I’m quite surprised that some people here do not see this as a problem.

baby should not be left in the care of this person / these people again, as they a) didn’t follow the instructions left to them b) don’t seem to have any interest and empathy in caring for a baby and/or c)have probably let the baby cry … I don’t believe for a second a 13 month old wouldn’t have complained about thirst in some way or the other. So ignoring this comes on top of that.

Sounds like a teenager has been left in charge and has spent the day gaming. However, my 11 year old would not have neglected a baby’s basic needs.

How do you know for a fact that the baby was not fed?

If you were there,why didn't you offer a drink or a snack?

Sounds like my exH. He didn't realise babies needed food, apparently.

Very neglectful not to give a baby fluids especially since 7.30am. Blood relatives neglected the baby. They should never be trusted to care for that poor little baby again.

Nurseries don't do that. They just let you know at pick up, "She still is refusing water during the day I'm afraid, we do encourage her to have a sip but she's not interested." And the same with food, "She only had a few bites of lunch today, does she ever have spaghetti at home?"

DD's nursery did find out that she would not touch even a mouthful of soup so they did start offering her a sandwich if lunch was soup, but that was after a few attempts at offering her soup, and only because she refused to even taste it.

Poor child would have been so hungry and thirsty. Report needed.

Definitely neglect considering food and a feeding schedule were left for the carers for baby. They just didn't give a damn.

Not unless someone effectively forced her to drink. She would wait until I was there and then breastfeed relentlessly until the next morning. It's not unusual for BF babies at that age.

Food for the day and a schedule were left.

This is neglect.

Is it a one off? Miscommunication and everyone's horrified, realising it can't happen again and ensuring it doesn't?

Is it happening over and over again?

Are the parents very young, vulnerable, living in poverty, have needs themselves that aren't being met?

Are the parents abusive, drug users?

Is one parent under the other's control?

Was this a babysitter, grandparent, childminder?

Whatever the situation the child comes first and I would take it further.

www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/neglect/?ac=182421

I see you say adults (plural) were in charge of looking after the baby. If one wasn’t the father and therefore the default primary carer then that is the problem. When more than one adult is left to look after a small child you risk no one doing so as everyone assumes someone else is. They might look after the baby in the moment but not consider broader needs like bottles/food/naps.

My 13 month old ate the following:
breakfast: yoghurt pouch, porridge with banana
snack (while out) a sweet pouch
lunch cream cheese sandwich, 1/2 a persimmon
afternoon milk and biscuits
dinner pasta with vegetables and lamb, a pancake
bedtime milk

I agree if the baby accepted this the baby is used to this (which doesn’t make it right). This is neglect. Is the other adult depressed, unwell?

Maybe a weaponised incompetence control tactic so mum doesn't feel comfortable leaving ths house anymore.