Why do i feel like reporting was wrong

He'll get his devices back once they've got the evidence. He did this to himself with his awful behaviour - you didn't do it to him. It's a crime. You did the right thing. But when he sees that this attempt at manipulation and getting his way hasn't worked, he'll try another. And probably another after that. He may go to the other end of the scale and beg and cry and act vulnerable and pathetic etc. Don't be taken in.

So your ex husband threatened to blackmail you with indecent images of his child's mother because he didn't want to financially support his own child? That's a lot of very, very fucked up stuff in one sentence. And you're sorry in case he can't see your child?! He doesn't sound fit to be within 5 miles of your child - or any child. Dear god. Do you really want your child to be under the care and influence of anyone capable of this vile and criminal activity? I'd be worried to death in case he actually obtained access.

You did the right thing. He was threatening you and trying to blackmail you.
Hopefully this will be a wake up call for your ex and he will be more aware of his potential to cause and get into trouble.

Oh, and to answer your question - you feel like you’re wrong bc you are probably a very nice empath type - the type these men latch onto - who has been bullied and manipulated for years into thinking you are wrong to react to his abuse. You’re still letting your heart catch up with your head, but you’ll get there.

Well done for reporting him op - you did absolutely the right thing.

Look at it this way - if you hadn’t reported him he’d be pulling shit like this all the time. You’ve simply said “no, that’s not happening”.

You’ve gotta love these men who go to the mattresses when they’ve lost control and think they’ll get away with continuing to abuse the mother of their children. It’s like a 6ft toddler having a tantrum on the floor and tearing at their hair.

Well done for getting away ❤️

He deserves everything he gets. Why would you want a monster like that around your child?

Reprehensible bastard. I'd be devastated that my child had to spend any time at all with someone who thinks that's OK.

Social services would not stop all contact. The tactics he is trying on you to get you on his side to manipulate your feelings and to make you feel guilty or feel sorry for him. He will try in different ways to do the same on future meetings with your child but be prepared for that. Write down and date anything unacceptable the child tells you he says to manipulate or cause emotional upset and make the social workers aware. He might try for full custody or a retaliatory behaviour as he seems to have form for that.

What about your mental health OP?

Fuck him and the horse he came in on, and congratulations on having him out your life.

I do hope your parents gave him short shrift when he phoned them up. Jeez if someone did that to my daughter and then had to cheek to phone me up, I'd bloody call the police and get him done for harassment.

He brought this all on himself!

Imagine what your mental health would be like after he released all your pictures.

Imagine your mental health if you'd given in to his threat, then struggled to afford your joint children.

Imagine what your mental health has been all the time he's been abusing you.

Those are the things you should worry about, because he sure as hell isn't bothered about ruining you.

His crying down the phone to your family is just another part of him manipulating you. He did this to himself.

Why on earth would you waste a single second of your life caring about his wellbeing when he just rode the shite over yours?

Stuff his mental health and find your anger! He sure as hell didn't care one damn about your mental health when he did what he did, and is still doing!

Your parents are mad to even speak to him - if you were my daughter, the fucker would be blocked!

He must suffer the consequences of his actions.

His problem, not yours. You did the right thing.

He’s a vile piece of shit to threaten you. Do not feel sorry or guilty because he will only care that he’s been caught.

Stop feeling sorry for him. He's an adult who made the choice to be abusive and threatening towards you and is now having to deal with the consequences of his actions. Hopefully he'll learn the lesson not to do it again.

You are NOT responsible for anything that is happening to him now - he is. Your responsibility is to take care of yourself and your child and make sure that this abusive man doesn't have any influence in your life from now on.

He is an abuser and a blackmailer - anything that happens to him is a direct result of his own actions. If he is unhappy with the outcome he should have thought about the consequences of blackmail.

He did all of this to himself. You are not to blame for any of it.

I hope your parents gave him a piece of their minds. The temerity of the man to phone and complain to them!

You feel like it's wrong because that's how you have been conditioned to feel.

He is obviously abusive and manipulative.

You need to put you and your child first. Think about his happiness as much as he thinks about yours.

You did the right thing
stopped him before you could share the pics and vids and get himself in deeper trouble

You didn’t do it. He did. His actions got him in trouble. Not you.

I’m guessing this isn’t the first time he’s used emotional abuse. He’s conditioned you over the years and that’s why you feel sorry for him, guilty he might do himself harm etc…. His crying to your parents, to my mind, confirms this —- poor me, I’m not a bad person, like me or you’ll feel very, very guilty.
He’s your ex for a reason. He’s an adult and takes responsibility for himself , just as you take responder your own actions.
You did exactly the right thing reporting him.
And I do understand how you feel. I had a husband who threatened suicide when he couldn’t get his own way and threatened to ruin my career.
Please see a good counsellor, contact Women’s Aid for advice. Talking will help.

Good! He sounds like a right nasty piece of work who's about to get what he deserves.