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Father’s behaviour towards child

114 replies

Questions112 · 07/01/2025 20:47

Posting for traffic.

I am after some quick opinions on a situation this evening.

4 year old was in the bathroom before bed, and ‘D’P decided it would be funny to lock them in from outside. I asked him not to but was ignored. Unsurprisingly, 4YO got upset and cried when they realised they couldn’t open the door (they could have unlocked it from inside, but panicked).

4YO ran straight to me afterwards as they knew DP had locked the door. DP then told them they weren’t a baby anymore and should think about the situations they are in and not cry (to clarify - DC IS FOUR YEARS OLD!).

I’m just left with a really bad feeling and don’t know if I am overreacting.

YABU - totally fine and normal behaviour from DP
YANBU - not normal and cruel

OP posts:
bombastix · 07/01/2025 20:56

The biggest red flag going. Leave this shitty bully now.

Timeforaglassofwine · 07/01/2025 20:56

Wow, how to give the kid a future phobia. He sounds like a dick and I would be thinking about my options.

nomoremsniceperson · 07/01/2025 20:56

Bizarre, cruel and genuinely worrying behaviour. Is he your DS's dad?

DorothyStorm · 07/01/2025 20:55

Yep he is a bully. Now you know that, can you think of other occasions when he has been an arsehole?

UghFletcher · 07/01/2025 20:55

Lock him outside and tell him he needs to think about situations. What a prick.

That is nasty, bullying behaviour and not on at all.

ManchesterPie · 07/01/2025 20:55

Utter bellend

Mopsy567 · 07/01/2025 20:54

That's incredibly mean. Your child might get nervous using the bathroom again with his idiot dad around.

Maybe you and DC could lock your partner somewhere and just tell him to grow up when he shouts to be let out?

Rhaidimiddim · 07/01/2025 20:54

Penguinsmum · 07/01/2025 20:52

Bully. Nasty bully.

Agree.
Psychopathic behaviour.

Penguinsmum · 07/01/2025 20:54

Protect your son

fragglerockrocks · 07/01/2025 20:52

What exactly did he think anyone would find amusing about a grown arsed man locking a child anywhere? I'd not accept that behaviour being directed towards me let along towards a small child.
It's utterly dreadful.

Penguinsmum · 07/01/2025 20:52

Bully. Nasty bully.

toomuchfaff · 07/01/2025 20:51

DP then told them they weren’t a baby anymore and should think about the situations they are in and not cry

What a prick. I don't actually have any advice because the only thing going through my head is what a prick.

rockingbird · 07/01/2025 20:49

WTF 😬 4 years old..

ChocoChocoLatte · 07/01/2025 20:48

He's a bully. End of.

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