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Is 6-8 months too soon to get engaged if you're mid 30s?

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Wooooah · 07/01/2025 18:16

Or at least saying you want to be engaged soon?
If i were in my 20s I would definitely wait longer, no children on either side but both want children.
Don't want to fall into the pattern I did with my ex of living together for years with no commitment as he was never ready.

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CheshireCats · 07/01/2025 18:21

We were living together after 6 months and engaged shortly after that. Married 18 months after we met. We've now been married over 20 years, so I would say, if it's right, it's right! We were early 30's.

TangerineClementine · 07/01/2025 18:21

It's normal for things to move faster if you meet in your 30s rather than your 20s. 6 months does seem very quick though! Are you saying that you'll propose after 6-8 months and finish with him if he says no?