My dog has disgraced herself this morning.

Thats a bit much
That poster is a bit of a fun sponge and I was amongst those who hoped they would bugger off BUT this is quite nasty

But you commented on a popular thread where everyone was enjoying talking about their pets and retelling stories and pictures of their personalities.

Whether you agreed with it or not what did think you were going to achieve by coming in with an unpopular opinion in the midst.

Hope to kill the vibe of the thread?! Make all us reckless owners see the error of their way and reflect of what a burden our dogs behaviour are to society (this was never going to happen!) start some kind of reform and boycott us all out?!?

It was a thread with lots of cute pictures of dogs and a funny story about an opportunist pinching a carrot and I will end our lovely chat as I started.

Sometimes you just have to think these are not my people and scroll on.

Tbf I didn’t appreciate it was on AIBU, I just spotted it on trending this morning and it made me smile until I got to the bit where people started ruining it.

Maybe I’m too old in the tooth now but regardless of where a post is, I just wouldn’t have the energy (or the heart) to come on a fairly joyful thread and try to make an unpopular point just because I could.

I’d either scroll on or write up my own.

Again then: it is NOT joy to those of us who don't appreciate this bad behaviour. That's the point of my commenting on this very thread. You can see why so many of us are disliking dogs these days.

But it wasn’t relevant and you do seem to have quite a lot to say about it.

It was thread full of joy and the funny natures of peoples pets not one to barge into passive aggressively with an unpopular opinion and expect people to bow wow down with the error of their way.

As you can see, it’s not gone very well.

Will also laugh at the thought of all our 4 legged friends with their cheeky pinched carrots being anti social ASBO hooligans for the rest of the day!

The fact that it's on AIBU would make it likely to encourage heated debate, that's the nature of the beast. If you wanted to keep it happy, funny and exclude those who are "not your people", surely you'd get a better response if the thread was started within The Doghouse...? That's where most of the seriously doggy people are.

Then people would have complained about it being a TAAT. And really, I don't want to spend all day chatting about dogs. I wanted to raise a couple of points on a relevant thread where dog owners are talking about anti-social dog behaviour although they don't see it as such. I don't want to talk in an echo chamber.
And it's not in the dog section.

Right but there is cool feature on Mumsnet that lets you start your own thread…

It means you can discuss themes that you care about and will likely draw others in that feel the same. In this instance that might have been the better option for those who did not find the above 4 legged sausage roll, carrot and show assailants neither cute or funny.

My guess is this might be met with, “this is an open forum, my opinion is valid as anyone else yady yady ya” but sometimes you just have to go with these are not my people and scroll on!

I have great empathy for your son, I really do. I’ve worked through extreme anxiety in my own life and my DC’s life and come through the other side. It’s no fun having a kid go bright red, stop breathing and then vomiting everywhere because their anxiety is triggered.

However it is not all dogs fault that your son has this anxiety. As you said dogs are everywhere - as was the trigger for my son’s anxiety. It was going into shops near closing time should you wish to know. I’ve had to work through explain and explain and explain and hold his hand and reassure etc. etc. etc. I can’t avoid going into shops near closing time (and when I say near I mean 3 hours before), and I can’t demand that shops don’t close, therefore I’ve had to work around it.

It was a shop that switched off the lights 10 mins before closing that triggered this anxiety. However I know that’s not the underlying issue, and I expect the same will be true of your son.

At the moment it’s quite clear that your anxiety about your son’s phobia is feeding back to him - and you need to deal with that. You need to teach him to be calm and collected and LOGICAL in his assessment of situations. Calm dog on lead - no danger. Massive dog running wild out of control barking with tail down and ears back - danger.

I honestly suggest you create a new thread elsewhere and ask for advice. This was a fun lighthearted thread about dogs doing daft things, and the fact you can’t see the difference at the moment is why I’m telling you that you need to deal with your anxiety first. I’ve had to do it, it sucks, but it’s the only way forward for you and your son.

Because it is NOT light-hearted to those of us who are sick of being irritated by dogs and their selfish owners - I do not want my children having food snatched out of their hands by a dog, and it's not funny - seems many dog owners think that it is. If I have convinced any dog owner to take better control of their dogs and not allow this behaviour, that is a good thing, and why I commented.

I wasn't bothered by dogs until the last 10 or so years, when it seems owners are becoming more and more slack about appropriate dog behaviour.

Well I just sat DDog down and had a long conversation with him about how snowman Jeff must have felt when he got his face eaten and how seeing that happen could have traumatised other snowmen in the vicinity, as well as it being upsetting for any carrots who happened to be passing by.
Sadly I have to report that he seems unrepentant and would most likely do it again - at least that what I assume he meant by licking his privates

I am a dog owner (a carrot loving Lab!) I have children and I can understand that some people are less tolerable or agreeable to the opportunist streak in dogs that others find funny or cute. I would also say I’m a responsible person and most importantly a good advocate for my dog to keep her and others safe and happy…

However I CANNOT understand anyones reasoning to come onto a light hearted thread full pet owners sharing their 4 legged friends and their tales and think Ahh this is a great opportunity to tell all these owners how terrible that are being and expect it be met with understanding and regret.

Would my lab have the opportunity to take a sausage roll out of a baby’s hand in a buggy, absolutely not! Her nature is not one that I would trust anywhere near a baby’s hand or mouth (she was a rescue and is unsure with new people she also is possessive around food) I would not be advocating for her if I put her into a position to do so.

Did I laugh at the lovely little dog above doing similar, the carrot thieves as well as love all the gorgeous woofer pictures?!…

Yes!! Because I read the thread in the tone it was meant, light hearted.

Eh? I’ve not said anything apart from commenting on the photo

Theres also a fine line between valid viewpoint and going on and on about the same thing to the extent that it makes you look unhinged.

FWIW, I agree.

I've had big dogs all my life, but some of what is being laughed about here is antisocial behaviour. Really, your dog shouldn't steal food from someone's child or wee on someone's possessions/clothing. People can claim that the thread is light hearted but is it really?

One post states that the dog is a "spaniel cross not a Cane Corso". How is that relevant? You are actually statistically far more likely to be bitten by a spaniel or a Labrador than by a Cane Corso. Sure, a CC can potentially do you more damage but that shouldn't be seen as an excuse to condone bad behaviour in a smaller dog. The dog size should not be a determining factor as to what is acceptable behaviour. Stealing a carrot from a snowman or nicking an item of food at home is harmless and amusing but taking something from a stranger's child is dangerous behaviour in any dog.

I know I'll come in for abuse for saying this, but think about it - would any of you really see it as funny if a Cane Corso or Kangal dog took food from your child's hand? Most of you wouldn't. You'd label it dangerous. So how is it okay for a spaniel to do it? To a tiny child that can be just as scary.

So I think @PlopSofa has a very valid viewpoint. There's a fine line between cute and antisocial.

I don't think this is cute or amusing. My kids built a snowman and were gutted when the next day, his nose was missing - our Ring camera showed someone had let their dog into our garden to have a run around, piss, then snatch the carrot.

I would be similarly annoyed if someone had come in themselves to take the carrot nose, or destroy the snowman we had spent ages putting together. Botnh antisocial and rude.

As for dogs snatching food from children, again, not acceptable. Those finding it funny are exactly why so many people are growing to dislike dogs and their awful, selfish owners. It has happened to both my kids, both times the owners were oblivious. My youngest has also been knocked over by mid-sized dogs twice, and chased - dog thought it was fun, my child found it terrifying. Just because you find your dog cute, doesn't mean everybody else does. Leash your dog and don't let them come up to anyone without being invited.

And here you are doing the same thing as me. We must all be insane then.

Great 😆🥳

Takes joy in terrorising small kids. Nice.

Then you hoped wrong! 😆

yes, that one.

I thought you might have woken up a bit embarrassed about the tone of your posts @PlopSofa

the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results … just saying …

And it take it you do? Seeing as you’re still interacting I’d say you’re matching my exact behaviour.

Your dog has made my day 😂