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Is anyone up. Completely overwhelmed

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Brrrr98 · 07/01/2025 03:07

I just need someone to talk to and feeling completely overwhelmed. I have so much on my mind, single parent, work, my DD isn’t sleeping well and I also now have insomnia and my head feels so much pressure when I try and close my eyes to sleep, I’ve been worried about my health, feeling lonely, feeling so stressed out and it’s making me feeling really panicky and dizzy. I feel like I need some help

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Zapx · 07/01/2025 03:21

Aww bless her that sounds really difficult. And so hard for you as well. Does anything help much, eg a night light in her room? Rewarding staying in her bed etc? A friend of mine’s LO had night terrors for a while and it was exhausting for them, although a lot better now.

XChrome · 07/01/2025 03:20

Brrrr98 · 07/01/2025 03:07

I just need someone to talk to and feeling completely overwhelmed. I have so much on my mind, single parent, work, my DD isn’t sleeping well and I also now have insomnia and my head feels so much pressure when I try and close my eyes to sleep, I’ve been worried about my health, feeling lonely, feeling so stressed out and it’s making me feeling really panicky and dizzy. I feel like I need some help

Is the pressure in the front of your head right above your nose? If so, it's probably your sinuses. I was dizzy when I had my last sinus infection.
See your GP if it continues.
You're also stressed to the max, so no wonder you are so anxious.
Have you ever tried theanine? It has a calming effect. I combine it was melatonin for sleep with some success, though I do have quite intractable, life-long insomnia.
Maybe your GP could give you some anti-anxiety meds to take when these attacks happen. Benzodiazepines have a bad rep which is mostly unearned, because as long as they are taken responsibly they can be really helpful for anxiety. Bonus is they also help you sleep. I have taken them for ten years with no addiction issues, have never even had to raise the dose, probably because I only take them when they are absolutely necessary. It sounds like you are in absolutely necessary territory. I hope you get the help you need.❤️

nomoretreats · 07/01/2025 03:20

Can you write a quick list for yourself of everything that needs doing to mentally free yourself tonight?

Can you put your DD in your bed to help her sleep? Might be easier and help you both sleep a bit better.

Concentrate on your breathing. Deep breath in then release after 3.

Dontsparethehorses · 07/01/2025 03:18

Sometimes stress and feeling overwhelmed can show as physical pain OP but do go to the GP. Sometimes playing white noise gives me something to zone out too (and might help your DD get to sleep)

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Brrrr98 · 07/01/2025 03:16

I will hopefully get an appointment tomorrow as I’m starting to worry about my blood pressure going up and I’m aching, I have chronic shoulder pain that I was meant to get looked at ages ago and it keeps flaring up. I just feel everything is getting on top of me

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Brrrr98 · 07/01/2025 03:14

She is 4 and has been having nightmares and scared of monsters and will want to come into bed with me and says she is scared to sleep. I have tried everything to help her but it’s just a cause of her eventually falling to sleep . It’s been going on for a while. When she does sleep, I just can’t shut off and my head feels so heavy, I will just lay awake and worry about different sensations in my body and think something is wrong with me. I am up in a few hours to do the school run and get to work and it’s so icy out there. I just feel really anxious and alone

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Zapx · 07/01/2025 03:10

Hey OP, it sounds like you have an awful lot on. How old is your DD? Might you be able to get in touch with your gp this week do you reckon?

endofthelinefinally · 07/01/2025 03:10

I am awake. How old is DD?