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To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this

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DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

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WonderingWanda · 06/01/2025 23:00

Get your dd a raincoat with a hood, assuming you are in the UK, this won't be first or the last time she gets wet at school.

montelbano · 06/01/2025 22:59

Think I am beginning to realise why so many teachers are leaving the profession

Sherrystrull · 06/01/2025 22:54

To add, if I've got 20 children to fit under a brolly. I always pull in the tiny ones prone to shivering, the ones whose parents are always late and who will be waiting a while, the ones with inadequate clothing or the ones prone to running off. One's left outside the brolly are generally sensible, well clothed and picked up by on time parents. We have large classes and try our best.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 06/01/2025 22:53

Precious first born?

fairycakes1234 · 06/01/2025 22:50

Katy232425 · 06/01/2025 22:02

You are massively overthinking. Maybe she misstepped, moved closer to hear a child who was speaking to her, thought she heard someone calling her, just simply didn’t see your daughter or was distracted by trying to keep eyes on children and look out for parents etc etc. Maybe none of them were meant to be under it and she just couldn’t avoid all of them. Or there was no space. Or she felt crowded. Presumably your daughter was wearing a coat?!

Unless you’re going to drip feed that this is part of a long pattern of deliberate unkindness to your daughter I think you need to put it out of your mind as an absolutely trivial non issue.

Maybe she's not overthrowing, sounds quite a mean thing to do, maybe it's nothing more than a teacher being mean, it does happen?

Magnastorm · 06/01/2025 22:50

YANBU. Complain. Go in hard and aggressive and demand her job, it's the least they can do.

Tiswa · 06/01/2025 22:48

I think you have politely what my DS would call main character syndrome where you saw it and immediately made it about your DD and a deliberate act rather than the 90% far more realistic option it was a genuine oversight

Delphiniumandlupins · 06/01/2025 22:48

I think you were watching your DD closely but the teacher wasn't. The teacher may not really have been aware who was/wasn't under the umbrella. Do you think she has discriminated against your DD previously?

BraOffPjsOn · 06/01/2025 22:47

Maybe she knew you were right there so DD didn’t need to go under the umbrella.
Maybe she looked in the direction of your DD but was focused on something else.

Oh the start of term again. I hope my parents stay lovely! 🤞

Teacherprebaby · 06/01/2025 22:47

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

Seriously 😒 🙄

WashingDryingForEver · 06/01/2025 22:43

If she did a 360, she would have been where she started.

RichardGeresTie · 06/01/2025 22:42

🙄

CoraTheExplora · 06/01/2025 22:40

I reckon you should complain and get the teacher disciplined for 'ostracising' your child. Your poor baby getting wet alone in the play ground.

100-% get the teacher sacked

Ablondiebutagoody · 06/01/2025 22:40

Outrageous. Complain to the headteacher

Bumcake · 06/01/2025 22:36

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:56

She did a 360 to avoid my DD going under it.

A 360?

Anyway, not much you can do about it is there?

Allswellthatendswelll · 06/01/2025 22:34

She probably didn't see you daughter was there and moved to try and cover a load of other kids. Or she saw your daughter had a coat on and moved to cover the kids that didn't. Or she saw your daughter was aboit to be picked up anyway. Or she was just a bit frazzled.

Honestly dismissing 30 kids in the pouring rain is no picnic!

litepop · 06/01/2025 22:30

@Sherrystrull - this is the point I was making but explained better!

litepop · 06/01/2025 22:29

You say there was a group of children all moving to get under it and turned to cover the others.
Was it maybe a case of her moving to cover multiple children but in doing so moved away from 1 child?
She was probably drained after a long and desparate to get in out of the rain herself. She perhaps moved to cover the majority and expected your Dd to move with her.

Or was your expectation that she sheltered your Dd and left the larger group out in the rain?

TwattyMcFuckFace · 06/01/2025 22:27

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:58

Btw she is 5

Blimey, teachers are getting younger and younger these days!

Sorry OP Blush

YANBU, on the face of it, it does sound like a mean move.

litepop · 06/01/2025 22:25

I doubt someone who chooses to be an early primary teacher could dislike an innocent 5 year old child enough to be deliberately mean.

I'm guessing there is a back story.....

UnderTheStairs51 · 06/01/2025 22:24

Surely we are talking about seconds here? Is this just the time she looks for a parent to send them across?

Perhaps she's used to you being punctual so just assumed your daughter would be straight off?

I often lose my own child under my feet with an umbrella and I'm only looking for one. They are not really in your eye line especially when distracted by an umbrella

Sherrystrull · 06/01/2025 22:24

Katy232425 · 06/01/2025 22:02

You are massively overthinking. Maybe she misstepped, moved closer to hear a child who was speaking to her, thought she heard someone calling her, just simply didn’t see your daughter or was distracted by trying to keep eyes on children and look out for parents etc etc. Maybe none of them were meant to be under it and she just couldn’t avoid all of them. Or there was no space. Or she felt crowded. Presumably your daughter was wearing a coat?!

Unless you’re going to drip feed that this is part of a long pattern of deliberate unkindness to your daughter I think you need to put it out of your mind as an absolutely trivial non issue.

This. I try and fit as many as possible under my brolly at dismissal but can't. I have to move slightly to look for parents who all look different with hoods up etc. we try our best to keep kids dry but don't always scoop up everyone

Grapesandcheseseplease · 06/01/2025 22:24

You’re really overthinking. There are a million reasons why the teacher could have turned and that minute. I bet my life it was nothing to do with your child.

Growlybear83 · 06/01/2025 22:22

I think you're really over reacting. Your daughter won't go rusty in a bit of rain.

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DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 22:20

Ok, its just she looked and saw her coming and all of a sudden turned, she didn't even offer her to under with the others when there was room, just let her stand and be the only one not under

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