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To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this

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DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

OP posts:

oakleaffy · 06/01/2025 23:50

AuntieSoap · 06/01/2025 23:37

Which of the umbrella children should have been left out instead of your DD?

The children should be like penguins, each taking turns to be on the edge of the huddle, where it's colder.

oakleaffy · 06/01/2025 23:48

HPandthelastwish · 06/01/2025 22:15

Your problem suits your user name!

Do you really think teacher actually saw your DD and thought "Ewww Mini Drama Lama is getting too close, she's a pain in the arse. I'll switch hands / do a 360 so she gets wet and let these other children stay dry"

Or do you think her thought process was more

"Fuck me it's pissing down out here and freezing! Where are the parents for these children so I can go in and have a coffee and get dry. I guess at least some of the can fit under here that's a bonus but they're all getting a bit close."

Edited

Absolutely this! 😆🎯

ChimneyRock · 06/01/2025 23:44

Choccyscofffy · 06/01/2025 23:12

If you’re sure it was deliberate then I would have a word with the teacher about your concerns about dd being left out.

If there is anything like going on, at least the teacher will know you’re on to her.

No!! Do NOT do this.
Well, not unless you want to be the talk of the staffroom with them all thinking you're a loon.

AuntieSoap · 06/01/2025 23:37

Which of the umbrella children should have been left out instead of your DD?

Foostit · 06/01/2025 23:36

Oh FFS! 🙄😂
If this is a serious post then the fact that you have taken the time to write this post is even worse than you actually thinking this in the first place!

CustardySergeant · 06/01/2025 23:30

WashingDryingForEver · 06/01/2025 22:43

If she did a 360, she would have been where she started.

I was going to say that.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 06/01/2025 23:26

Very appropriate username OP

viques · 06/01/2025 23:25

How long did you stand and watch umbrellagate unfolding OP? Why didn’t you rush forward with your own umbrella to rescue the situation before your daughter literally drowned before your eyes?

Flatandhappy · 06/01/2025 23:24

You really need to just let stuff like this go. It’s going to be a long slog getting through your kids’ school years if you get so wound up over such trivial things.

fairycakes1234 · 06/01/2025 23:24

WashingDryingForEver · 06/01/2025 22:43

If she did a 360, she would have been where she started.

That's so funny🤣

Ausish · 06/01/2025 23:20

Here, let me hand you a grip. You really need one.

The world is not out to get you. It is not out to get your child. Teachers are not standing around the playground or classroom deliberating on ways to ostracize or hurt children in general or your child in particular.

Shit happens. Get over it.

saraclara · 06/01/2025 23:19

At the end of the day there are a million things going on in a teacher's head. Frankly I would not have had the headspace to find room to deliberately avoid a particular kid being under my umbrella.

Though actually I never bothered taking an umbrella out to protect the kids, so she's a more thoughtful teacher than I was.

justthatreallyagain · 06/01/2025 23:19

as lovely as teachers are - a full day of 4/5 years old they are likely exhausted and not completely tuned in. I remeber my son at 5 coming out of school so exhausted the teacher had hung his school book bag around his neck so it was hanging in front of him. I was furious - especially since he ended up having a 40 degree temp. Another time my daughter also 5 came out squishing in her shoes - she’d wet herself and was drenched but no one noticed. It’s upsetting but teachers only have two eyes and thirty kids they are going to miss stuff

Onelifeonly · 06/01/2025 23:18

You do know teachers have a lot on their mind all the time? They really don't have time to deliberately decide to exclude one child from the shelter of an umbrella. They were mostly likely trying to check for parents arriving, watching the other children didn't leave without their adult and noticing that some other children were getting wet. Your child momentarily wasn't in their mind. Teaching really isn't the best job to choose for vindictive sorts who hate children and like to wind up parents.

Your point of view as a parent who only sees their child's needs and assumes the teacher is only thinking about their child, and only then to be mean to them, is ridiculous frankly (but sadly not as uncommon as it should be - yes I'm a teacher.)

rainbowstardrops · 06/01/2025 23:14

It is incredibly stressful at the end of the day and making sure you send each child to their waiting adult. Even more so when it's pissing down with rain and everyone has hoods and umbrellas up!
I expect the teacher just wanted to send the children out as quickly as possible and go and have a well deserved coffee knowing no child will turn into a pumpkin if they get wet.
Like a pp said, it's no wonder teachers and TAs are leaving in droves when this is the kind of shit they get moaned at for.

Kibble29 · 06/01/2025 23:13

montelbano · 06/01/2025 22:59

Think I am beginning to realise why so many teachers are leaving the profession

My thoughts exactly. Who could be fucked with this.

DaisyDumplings · 06/01/2025 23:13

For goodness sake get a grip @DramaLama0 your username is very apt!

Choccyscofffy · 06/01/2025 23:12

If you’re sure it was deliberate then I would have a word with the teacher about your concerns about dd being left out.

If there is anything like going on, at least the teacher will know you’re on to her.

RafaistheKingofClay · 06/01/2025 23:10

Tim’s highly unlikely this was done on purpose and much more likely this was accidental.

Presumably your DD has feet, eyes and the ability to think for herself so could have moved in to find a new space that was under the umbrella if she was very wet.

BaldingMum · 06/01/2025 23:09

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

And what was the teachers response when you queried this unfavourable behaviour towards your DC?
Obviously no one here was present to witness what you saw, so can only offer possible reasons, as they have done.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 06/01/2025 23:08

Did she also scream "No young Llama, you are not allowed under here. Stand and freeze" so your daughter got the message?

DinosaurMunch · 06/01/2025 23:05

Why don't the children and teacher wait inside the doorway? The children get sent out one by one once the teacher has spotted the parent. All standing in the rain seems mad.

catphone · 06/01/2025 23:04

DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 22:06

Yes warm coat and hood but so did the other Dc and there wasn't many of them left, enough room to all fit under the large umbrella but teacher moved so it was covering the others but not my DD

Maybe this is a stretch but does your daughter have any behavioural issues or are they a minority in any way

DoggoQuestions · 06/01/2025 23:03

Jesus fucking Christ 🙄

CarpeVitam · 06/01/2025 23:02

Oh dear OP, sorry but you need to get out more! 🙄

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