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To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this

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DramaLama0 · 06/01/2025 21:54

Waiting to be dismissed at end of the day and it was raining heavy. Teacher had a very large umbrella. A few children were there including my DD. DD and some others moved and starting moving towards the umbrella to go under and all of a sudden teacher saw and did a turn so that the other children were under it but not my DD. It didn't matter too much as she was going to be dismissed soon anyway but not until she had seen me. I felt sad that she was the only one not under it and the teacher seemed to move with purpose so she couldn't be under it, but the other children left to be dismissed were?

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saltandvinegarchipsticks · 07/01/2025 00:22

MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/01/2025 00:19

All I can hear is "I will fond you and I will kill you"

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To be annoyed that my DD teacher did this
DoloresODonovan · 07/01/2025 00:21

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 07/01/2025 00:16

Anybody else got that singing in the rain dance or Mary bloody Poppins stuck in their head now, with all this 360 degree umbrella twirling?! 🌂

Yes! with Tom Holland then him breaking out into Umbrella the lip sync battle,
one of the most watchable vids on You Tube

Kibble29 · 07/01/2025 00:20

Do teachers have WhatsApp groups where they moan about parents?

MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/01/2025 00:19

CoraTheExplora · 07/01/2025 00:16

@MartinCrieffsLemon 🤣 it is giving taken vibes isn't it?

All I can hear is "I will fond you and I will kill you"

4forksache · 07/01/2025 00:18

The teacher would have had her mind full with dismissing the class, remembering to speak to mum x about child x, and mum y about child y etc. I doubt your child and the umbrella were even on her radar.

DoloresODonovan · 07/01/2025 00:18

MadnessIsMyMiddleName · 07/01/2025 00:06

I simply can't believe that you're posting about something so ridiculous OP! If you get yourself in a tizz over something like this when your child is 5, I doubt very much that you will survive her teenage years. Get a grip!

and have to stand up in assembly as a disciplinary measure or something similar? tsk

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 07/01/2025 00:16

Anybody else got that singing in the rain dance or Mary bloody Poppins stuck in their head now, with all this 360 degree umbrella twirling?! 🌂

CarrotsAndCheese · 07/01/2025 00:16

MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/01/2025 00:15

Alright Liam Neeson

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I will find you.... 😂😂😂

DoloresODonovan · 07/01/2025 00:16

if at first you don’t succeed, just keep trying,

are all schools and colleges back in tomorrow

CoraTheExplora · 07/01/2025 00:16

@MartinCrieffsLemon 🤣 it is giving taken vibes isn't it?

MartinCrieffsLemon · 07/01/2025 00:15

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

Alright Liam Neeson

JimmyGrimble · 07/01/2025 00:14

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

And there we are. Everything that is awful about teaching today. Words fail me.

Redfox · 07/01/2025 00:13

Everyone has said it above and I echo it all- get a grip.

Christ who would be teacher with parents complaining their previous child got a few drops of rain water on them...

Kibble29 · 07/01/2025 00:11

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

😂😂

You cannot be a real person.

MadnessIsMyMiddleName · 07/01/2025 00:06

I simply can't believe that you're posting about something so ridiculous OP! If you get yourself in a tizz over something like this when your child is 5, I doubt very much that you will survive her teenage years. Get a grip!

whippy1981 · 07/01/2025 00:05

JayJayEl · 07/01/2025 00:03

As an ex-Reception teacher, hometime is, by far, the most stressful part of the day. Have you ever had to dismiss 30 4 and 5 year olds whilst checking they have all their things (which is a LOT in the Winter - book bag, reading book, lunch bag, water bottle, jumpers, coats, hats, scarfs, gloves, notes for the parents, knickers, heads screwed on...), greeting care givers (often unknown so password/phonecall needed), trying to avoid the rain, passing on important messages to some care givers, ensuring every child and care giver have actually seen each other before you dismiss the next child, worrying about timings as you have a meeting 5 whole minutes after dismissal time has started, saying goodbye to the children...
And all with a smile!
No, you haven't added to do that?? If you had experienced it you would understand that the absolute last thing on a teacher's mind is excluding/ostracising a child. Never mind the fact that - as a teacher - the last thing they would ever want to do is ignore a child!

THIS!

CoraTheExplora · 07/01/2025 00:05

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

Christ on a bike

JayJayEl · 07/01/2025 00:04

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

You work in a school and THAT is your response??!! Jesus H Christ.

whippy1981 · 07/01/2025 00:04

At the end of the school day the teacher has to scan the playground for 30 parents (some are different daily) and if it is raining they all have their hoods up so they are harder to recognise. Then he/she has to ensure the children do not wander off while she is scanning for parents and then ensuring the correct child goes with the correct parent. A teacher will hold about 3 or 4 parents in their memory and then call said children. Then repeat multiple times over - often repeatedly for the same children who do not listen. Then there will be parents trying to talk to them as they do this which is a distraction and then some random person will show up who doesn't have permission for the child and they will have to deal with that.

Trust me your child's teacher will not have even registered as this is a pressure point time in the day and so busy that getting them out and with the correct parent is the priority.

JayJayEl · 07/01/2025 00:03

As an ex-Reception teacher, hometime is, by far, the most stressful part of the day. Have you ever had to dismiss 30 4 and 5 year olds whilst checking they have all their things (which is a LOT in the Winter - book bag, reading book, lunch bag, water bottle, jumpers, coats, hats, scarfs, gloves, notes for the parents, knickers, heads screwed on...), greeting care givers (often unknown so password/phonecall needed), trying to avoid the rain, passing on important messages to some care givers, ensuring every child and care giver have actually seen each other before you dismiss the next child, worrying about timings as you have a meeting 5 whole minutes after dismissal time has started, saying goodbye to the children...
And all with a smile!
No, you haven't added to do that?? If you had experienced it you would understand that the absolute last thing on a teacher's mind is excluding/ostracising a child. Never mind the fact that - as a teacher - the last thing they would ever want to do is ignore a child!

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 07/01/2025 00:03

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

😂😂😂

god I hope OP and posters like this are joking, but I suspect not all of them are. Who’d be a teacher, eh?

Copperoliverbear · 06/01/2025 23:59

I'd just mention it to her on the quiet, I'd say I saw what happened you purposely moved away from her, and I don't care wether you have bonded with her or not but you do not treat her any differently from the other children, I will be watching closely to make sure this doesn't happen again and I may also pick her up early sometimes just to check things are going well.
But one thing you should know my child will not be made to feel uncomfortable and will not be treated any differently to any other child, you will remain professional at all times.
Before anyone starts mentioning about the message seeming a little threatening, I work in a school, sometimes people have their favourites and make it clear, there's no way I'd put up with it, 100% it happens I see it all the time

Kibble29 · 06/01/2025 23:56

I hope the teacher reads this and posts her own counter thread.

“AIBU to let a 5 YO stand in the rain on the basis that her Mum is a pain in the arse?”

”Can someone recommend an umbrella that houses one adult and no more than 4 small children at any one time?”

”WWYD - school pupil’s Mum is posting about me on the internet”

”Advice pls - how to get rainwater out of suede boots”

”I just quit my teaching job - AMA”

Happyearlyretirement · 06/01/2025 23:52

Omg, I’m going to follow you for the next 10 years as if you think this is a problem you better get on the gin for the future with children.

Kibble29 · 06/01/2025 23:51

viques · 06/01/2025 23:25

How long did you stand and watch umbrellagate unfolding OP? Why didn’t you rush forward with your own umbrella to rescue the situation before your daughter literally drowned before your eyes?

Hahaha!

I did wonder that myself.

Too busy taking mental notes for this Mumsnet thread, I think.

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