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Alcohol,police,social services

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Elewina · 06/01/2025 21:35

Hi all i really hope youre well and that you could help me. I'm not proud at all of what I've done, embarased heartbroken and dissapointed with myself
Saturday I was anoyed
with my partner as we going through hard times and he wasn't talking nicely about me to his friend over the phone and i could hear all that. I was still toxicated from friday night we've stayed up till morning. I was so angry at him that and we've started the argument. He didn't do anything bad at all. I don't know why I've rang 999 ,however i hang up. They turned up anyway and before that he took our 3 yo to neighbours so police couldnt see me in that state having a Child at home. But I was trying to take her back home but he wouldnt let me. I've made a scene on the estate was screaming and hit my partner and back home. Police turned in and I told them that I've accidentaly rang them. Anyway they wasn't rushing to leave and was looking around. Long story short I've been arrested for an assault and criminal damage(his phone which he smashed himself) he was begging them to not arrest me but theyve had to after speaking to there's boss. I was discharged after 10hours and now social services will be involved. Monday's gone and didn't hear anything. I'm so nervous what will happening next.
When will they contact me and what can happen?
My child is well looked after. Shes my everything. Nursery can't stop complementing her. No issues with her development either.shes always happy to see me or her dad when colecting her.
Whats the procedure? How often will they visit us. How long will they stay with us for? Will they test for alcohol? I won't touch alcohol ever again as lessons learned(i know too little too late) however i did like my beer in the past and it was quite regular at night time.
I've never been that scared in my life.
Please any help/advise will be appreciated

OP posts:
PercyFone · 06/01/2025 21:41

My child is well looked after

Not if she's witnessed behaviour like that she's not. Shape up your parenting.

Cantgetausername87 · 06/01/2025 21:41

I think PP put it well. I think you need to sort yourself out to be honest. They will want to speak with you and will speak to your child's nursery to see if they have any concerns. Take any help they offer you and be co-operative and honest with them.

HeeleighWay · 06/01/2025 21:38

Whatever involvement they have it's 100% justified. Your 3 year old isn't in the safest hands if you're still intoxicated on a Saturday from pulling an all nighter on a Friday while your child is in your care. Hopefully you get the help you need to learn not to do shit like that, and to not be abusive to your partner either.