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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

431 replies

Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

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Lentilweaver · 07/01/2025 18:53

Any time a woman does not do what a man wants- because it's usually that way around- it's prudery.
No one should be shamed. But I have told DC not to do it and why.

Nanny0gg · 07/01/2025 18:52

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:15

I am pretty old and honestly surprised how worried folk are about this. There's no shame in nudity!

It's not the nudity - it's what happens to the picture when it's 'out there'

Don't you get that?

Tootiredmummyof3 · 07/01/2025 18:51

I have sent them to my husband. I trust he won't show it to others and I know there's a risk but it's a small risk.
I wouldn't have sent them before he asked and at that stage we'd been together for about 7 years.
I would only do it in a long term relationship where I trust the other person totally.

Nanny0gg · 07/01/2025 18:51

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 20:29

Why is this better? Sure teach them to make good decisions but they'll inevitably sometimes make wrong calls. It's just prudery ruining young lives.

Why would not putting naked pictures that you have absolutely no control over be considered 'prudery' ?

And in what way is it ruining their lives FGS?

ThxForTheFish · 07/01/2025 18:49

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 06/01/2025 21:57

I was about to say that. No woman would say such a thing.

I’m a woman and I’m inclined to agree. 🤷‍♀️

ThxForTheFish · 07/01/2025 18:48

Porkyporkchop · 06/01/2025 18:23

Please don’t do this. If it ends up on the internet, your employer and everyone could end up seeing this and you’ll be sacked and humiliated

Not sure you’d get sacked for someone else’s offence! You might well be humiliated though.

Rinkytoo · 07/01/2025 18:46

Nope de nope nope nope!

Khayker · 07/01/2025 18:40

Doodleflips · 07/01/2025 18:20

Not with consent it’s not.

Sorry, you are right was thinking young people. However unless you are really on board with it (not on a forum asking if you should), it can be evidence of coercive control if someone feels pressured into doing it and that is a crime.

GoldFawn · 07/01/2025 18:28

No, no, no, definitely No!!

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 07/01/2025 18:21

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/01/2025 17:59

@YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan - as I said earlier, even if you are right that no-one would care about someone’s leaked nudes, and it couldn’t affect their job - what about the effect that leaked nudes have on the person themself? As @mlc0’s account shows, the effect on a person can be devastating. People can and do feel betrayed and humiliated by leaked nudes - and their feelings are entirely valid. People have even committed suicide, when being blackmailed by people who have got them to send nudes and are using the threat of releasing them online to make the person do even more revealing/humiliating things.

Of course online blackmail and doxxing is wrong, as well as revenge porn sites. So like I've been saying all along, if you're going to send a nude picture, make it one you aren't going to shit yourself if everyone sees.

I've sent them myself in the past - I wouldn't care if they were leaked. You either can't tell it's me or I look bloody good and it's of the softer variety. Some people seem to feel like I'd never work again if an employer saw them - they wouldn't. Random pictures of naked people aren't hugely interesting to the general population.

Doodleflips · 07/01/2025 18:20

Khayker · 07/01/2025 18:16

Absolutely not, it's illegal to send sexually explicit photos to someone, whether you want to or not.

Not with consent it’s not.

12purplepencils · 07/01/2025 18:20

Is it? Can you link to the law? Am surprised it’s illegal between two consenting adults

Khayker · 07/01/2025 18:16

Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

Absolutely not, it's illegal to send sexually explicit photos to someone, whether you want to or not.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 07/01/2025 18:15

I've done so in the past but never with my face in

Sometimesright · 07/01/2025 18:11

Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

Don’t! That way it can’t ever come back and haunt you! You don’t want to, your instincts are shouting don’t do it or it will have been done already. Always listen to your inner voice!

sloanypony66 · 07/01/2025 18:05

No No No never

Candy999 · 07/01/2025 18:05

Me and my partner have been together 12 years with 2 kids and I wouldn’t send him a picture of this sort. I’m not a prude or have anything against people that do but in my eyes you just never know what can happen. Revenge porn because you’re no longer together, hackers gaining access to it and it ends up somewhere on the web, someone going through their phone and it getting into the wrong hands, accidentally being posted somewhere etc. If you’re both in a normal relationship and not long distance etc then I don’t see the point in it? As a nurse my job relies too heavily on my reputation/what is put in public about me, so yeah it’s a hard no from me and not worth the risk

Crazierthanye · 07/01/2025 18:03

I send my husband random nudes or pics of my legs in stockings etc and have done fairly regular, but no so regular that he expects them since not long after we started seeing each other 15ish years ago. I trust him, always have and to be honest I’m not Kim Kardashian but I’m confident in how I look even with my stretch marks and wobbly bits and I genuinely wouldn’t care if they did end up on the internet, it’s just a body at the end of the day.
BUT I totally get lots of people would rather not take the risk of their parents/aunts/uncles/kids etc randomly seeing them in the buff on the internet.
Do what you’re comfortable with, the fact you’re asking should you do it makes me think you probably shouldn’t at the moment.

ChocolateAddictAlways · 07/01/2025 18:02

Nope! The days of a Polaroid hard copy naughty photo are long gone and I wouldn’t send anything via a phone, Bluetooth or WiFi, I feel once it’s out there, there’s no way to really control it. Too many cases of photos accidentally being shared or deliberately hacked and forwarded…

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 07/01/2025 17:59

@YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan - as I said earlier, even if you are right that no-one would care about someone’s leaked nudes, and it couldn’t affect their job - what about the effect that leaked nudes have on the person themself? As @mlc0’s account shows, the effect on a person can be devastating. People can and do feel betrayed and humiliated by leaked nudes - and their feelings are entirely valid. People have even committed suicide, when being blackmailed by people who have got them to send nudes and are using the threat of releasing them online to make the person do even more revealing/humiliating things.

40YearOldDad · 07/01/2025 17:49

Porkyporkchop · 06/01/2025 18:23

Please don’t do this. If it ends up on the internet, your employer and everyone could end up seeing this and you’ll be sacked and humiliated

Sacked for a naked photo? I'm not saying it's not happend in TV land, but really.

Smokesandeats · 07/01/2025 15:19

No, I wouldn’t. In my opinion, most people look better with their clothes on rather than naked. Sex appeal is usually based on what people think you have rather than the reality!

BabyFever246 · 07/01/2025 15:00

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 21:08

I feel sad for women who are so embarrassed by their own bodies. But furious with those who want to spread some sense of shame across the whole thing. Salem witch trials stuff.

Social media has led to people being held to crazy standards today.

I know of a male teacher that got fired because a student found them on social media, and scrolled down to find a video of them singing a song with friends with a lyric unfortunate by todays standards. It was made and posted when he was in his early teens, and the words did not have the connotations they have today. Showed their parents who started a campaign against having him teaching their kids and was ultimately fired over it.

What if you're a teacher and your ex posts the pics on the school gates, sends to parents of kids you teach, the head teacher?

Or you send a pic to a partner at 20, you break up, in your 30s you get a public role and your ex circulates it for cash?

You make an only fans page in 20s, later become a police officer, and someone you're trying to deal with or arrest recognises you?

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 07/01/2025 14:52

JHound · 07/01/2025 11:52

Stating the fact that you are a man is not an insult.

It’s a matter of fact and fairly clear here. Only a man would be irate at women declining to send nudes and the reason is clear.

It's incredibly presumptuous that you think you have some prescient knowledge of how every single woman in the world would think. Not to mention that you're wrong because I am a woman, and you've clearly massively misinterpreted what I said in the first place.

I don't care who wants to send naked pictures to whom! But it's extremely unlikely you'll be marched out of your job or have a large billboard paid for outside your mum's house. The fact is that those pictures are unremarkable enough that no one would care enough to fire you. As mentioned above, there are women who post naked pictures of themselves on the internet on purpose. They still have jobs. It's a bare arse, not international trade secrets.

And as I'm now saying for the third time, it's not a good idea to send photos of yourself that you are embarrassed by, wobbly bottom or otherwise, to anyone. So no, I'm not encouraging anyone to send pictures they feel uncomfortable in. I take back what I said about your imagination. It's obviously quite vivid...

ItGhoul · 07/01/2025 14:25

It would completely depend on the following things:

  • What the partner was like and how long we'd been together. I would trust my current DP (we've been together over 20 years) 100% to keep a picture private, but there's no way I'd have sent pictures to any of my previous partners
  • Whether I found the idea sexy - basically, I wouldn't do anything I wasn't into
  • Whether he was prepared to send me pics of him too - this would be a deal-breaker for me, it would have to be a fair swap for me to a) agree and b) find it sexy
  • How happy I was with my body at the time - I don't even want to look at my body in the mirror at the moment, let alone commit it to camera
  • Whether my face was in the photo - I'd be much more likely to send a photo without my face in it

I certainly wouldn't send anyone a photo just because they asked for one or because you've been told that 'everyone does it' - even if everyone did do it (which they don't) that doesn't mean you have to, if you're not comfortable with it.

Ultimately there's always a risk that anything you send someone, either electronically or on paper, can be shared if they choose to share it (or lost if they're careless), so you have to think about that risk and whether you're prepared to take it. I would in some situations but not in others.

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