Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

That would be a hard no from me.

You don’t know who he will be showing that to. Not that any other position/way would be acceptable either.

Yep, I'd be concerned if OP categorically tells him no, that he'll hide his phone somewhere and record them having sex. He sounds disgusting.

Absolutely not and his not respecting your boundaries is a massive red flag, he asked you said no. That’s the end of the conversation. You have to think how would you feel if that picture was seen by your friends, family and colleagues.

Snap! This has been my unfortunate experience though 😂

No, no, no.
And once again: NO!!

I have but don't if you're uncomfortable.

And never with your face in it.

To be honest though I wouldn't mind them being leaked in 20 years. I look pretty fantastic. Lol

I would run a mile from him at this point. He sounds horrible.

If you decide to continue the relationship be very careful he doesn’t snap any photos himself when you are having sex. If he is this persistent and determined it feels like something he might either try to talk you into in the heat of the moment, or worse just take a photo without your consent.

I dunno. I’ve had the misfortune of having many a man send me a photo of their washboard abs and 1 single finger kitkat sized dick 🙄 but the majority of the time they won’t show their face, even the ones with a good size will still only show from chin down, lol

There have been some not many but some) braver ones that have shown the whole hog, but they usually are the ones that have the face/body and D all in good order 🤣

Oh! Yuck.

Are you 15 op?

Oh from your update, absolutely not. The way he's asking (and insisting on your face being in it) is really weird.

I have done in the past, including to now-DH, but my rule was nothing identifying (face, tattoo) in anything I would be bothered about being seen by anyone else. There were definitely topless photos with my face in but I'm less bothered about that. I'm fairly relaxed about it in that I wouldn't judge people for e.g. sexting or phone sex or actually having sex, and in a digital age it can be another way to engage with someone on that level, so I don't especially think it's particularly shameful (nor do I particularly think others should).

But that's me - don't do something you're not okay being potentially seen by others, especially not for someone pressuring you to do so, and in a way that makes it 'riskier' for you.

DUMP!!! He does not get to insist you send him pictures of your own body. It smacks of lack of respect for you, and a lack of respect for your boundaries. What a cheeky twat. Please get rid of him.

I was thinking the same too 🤣 how on earth does she take this photo even if she wanted to ( unless he knows she has some tripod set up at home )

Don't send him any pictures except perhaps one of you fully dressed waving him goodbye.

🤣🤣

I fully agree with this! I’m no prude and one can always ask, but this kind of thing really does my head in once they start begging and insisting. Dash him in the bin.

I imagine he would do it. Men think nothing of sending dicks and everything else to women. They don't face the same shame as women do.

Or it could be for his private collection of ‘conquests’. Yuck. Definitely end it.

Nope.

Persistent with what he wants, is he? Tell him you want one of him, full length, including his face, with legs spread, tackle waving in the breeze.. EVERYTHING. And be persistent.

See how ridiculous that sounds? That's how ridiculous it is.

And you still want to be with him ?

He wants it to show people

Don't send

You have no control of who sees it

Ew, no no no, no way.

Tell him how uncomfortable this makes you feel, and that there’s no way you’re backing down.
See what his response is.

I wouldn’t be happy about this at all though, and would seriously consider ending things depending on his response.

I wouldn't personally, and it sounds like it's not in your comfort zone. I've sent sexy pictures, but only when I've been involved a while and nothing as extreme as he's asking for. Generally the partners I have are similar to me, in that it isn't really their thing
Edit: Just seen your update...no way, he's just looking for wank bank material to hold for later

How long does he think your arm is? Or are you supposed to set the phone up across the room, start the timer, then get into position?

From your updates NO please don't send. I'd previously posted saying your choice but nope this is screaming alarm bells to me now!
Listen its fine for him to ask, it's fine for you to say yes or no, but it's not fine for the repeated asking, I'd seriously consider ending the relationship if he continues pushing this

What is the worst that could happen? That's all you need to think about. Perhaps a picture of the house which he won't be living in much longer would be better

Good God, no!

You never know where that photo might end up and once it's out there, it's out there.

Would he send you a naked picture of himself? Very likely not.

He is a creep waving a whole washing line full of red flags.

I hope you dump him.

Don't send him any pictures except perhaps one of you fully dressed waving him goodbye.