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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

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Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

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Teanbiscuits33 · 08/01/2025 09:37

Interestingone · 08/01/2025 09:24

Would you with your face showing?

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Why do you feel the need to ask, OP? I find it quite worrying that you’re having to ask others opinions on this. Do you suffer from low self esteem or have trouble setting and maintaining boundaries?

The man is a selfish arse with no respect for you. He’s showing a massive red flag. It doesn’t matter what others would do, what matters here is that it’s clearly making you uncomfortable because you’ve already said no and you’re second guessing yourself enough to have posted here.

Don’t do something you’re not comfortable with to please someone else. He has no right to demand what you do with your own body. People never respect you that way and it’s a very slippery slope. You don’t need this loser’s approval. Dump, block and move on to find the respect you deserve.

littlemissprosseco · 08/01/2025 09:29

He’s not a prince @Interestingone!
A real man who cared, really wouldn’t even ask once.

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Interestingone · 08/01/2025 09:24

Bumblebeestiltskin · 08/01/2025 07:53

I said upthread that I would, and I do, however you're not comfortable doing it and he absolutely should have accepted the first time you said no, and not mentioned it again. The fact that he's continuing to ask is a major red flag!

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Would you with your face showing?

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Bumblebeestiltskin · 08/01/2025 07:53

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 20:44

I don't want to be too graphic but he has told me that he wants a naked photo with my legs open, he wants everything in the photo and "of course my face."

I have no words! 😅

He is very persistent on this I must add.

I said upthread that I would, and I do, however you're not comfortable doing it and he absolutely should have accepted the first time you said no, and not mentioned it again. The fact that he's continuing to ask is a major red flag!

rwalker · 08/01/2025 07:34

Asking advice about this is pointless your ether ok with it or not

PortiasBiscuit · 08/01/2025 07:25

Tell him you want a picture of him in full drag with his tackle out and two fingers up his bottom…. As insurance first

Uol2022 · 08/01/2025 07:22

Oh Lord no! If he’s pushing it like that, after you’ve hesitated, that’s a no to both the picture and the relationship.

CrowleyKitten · 08/01/2025 03:58

I mean, MY husband, yes, probably.
BUT.
I'm very laid back about nudity, so unless it was graphic opening of the genitals stuff I wouldn't care if anyone else saw it. if it was just me naked, no biggie. when I was growing up, my family were naturists.

and he's not really got that many male friends, or even time away from me (I'm his carer due to mental health issues) so I don't think he'd be showing anyone.

in my family, we're really casual about that sort of stuff. when my stepdad had a cancerous testical removed, he showed us after surgery. yes, he cupped his knob in his hand, but he showed us what the single testicle looked like, and the scars from where they removed it.

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 08/01/2025 01:46

He doesn't sound like a keeper. Continuing to pursue anything you've said you're uncomfortable with is a very bad sign. What else is he prepared to get pushy over? Not good

Khayker · 08/01/2025 01:45

Any man that puts pressure on you to do something you don't want to do in a relationship isn't worth hanging on to. Huge red flag sorry

LifeExperience · 08/01/2025 01:36

No, nor would I stay in a relationship with any man who asked for one.

SheSaidHummingbird · 08/01/2025 01:24

@Interestingone Get rid of this one.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 08/01/2025 01:18

I just saw his request. Hell no.

He does not need a pic of that with your face in it. Red flag.

Gremlins101 · 08/01/2025 00:44

To my husband, yes. Although prob not now our kids look through our phone photos!

A new partner definitely not, not a hope.

hoxtonbabe · 08/01/2025 00:30

HollyKnight · 07/01/2025 21:50

Snap! This has been my unfortunate experience though 😂

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Ha! Even that frankfurter is being generous🤣

fridaynight1 · 08/01/2025 00:11

No. Just no. Totally ick, ew and gross.

Merida46 · 08/01/2025 00:05

DON'T do this!!!

Currygirl · 07/01/2025 23:54

Hell.....no!
No danger......

Shabzzz · 07/01/2025 23:52

No. Absolutely not. Use your brain. You are not an object. Phones get Lost or Stolen. Pics and videos get 'accidentally' shared. You could break up on bad terms and he'd share your pics and videos to family, friends and the Internet forever! With your face and other body parts clearly visible! Please don't!

Longwaysouth · 07/01/2025 23:47

Never. Why does he need a photo if ge can enjoy the real thing?

fluffyblanky · 07/01/2025 23:45

My DP and I have sent photos and videos. Hundreds of them 🫢

Ijustwanttobehealthy · 07/01/2025 23:43

Interestingone · 07/01/2025 23:34

This has crossed my mind too.

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That says a lot @Interestingone Trust your instinct on this one. Get rid of him. This is not the type of man you should have a relationship with.

PLHJ84 · 07/01/2025 23:41

No. Never would & i’ve spent halt my life with him!

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Interestingone · 07/01/2025 23:34

Ijustwanttobehealthy · 07/01/2025 22:03

Yep, I'd be concerned if OP categorically tells him no, that he'll hide his phone somewhere and record them having sex. He sounds disgusting.

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This has crossed my mind too.

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Flibberteegibbet · 07/01/2025 22:50

Absolutely not! If he asked and I said no and explained why and he asked again that would be the end of the conversation or the relationship.

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