Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

@LoopyLoo1991 not sure where to start with this 🤣 😳

I sent nudes and lingerie photos to my boyfriend years before we started going out and he saved them for me online, as at time I wasn't sure how to do it safely.
I transferred the nudes back to my phone & my email around a year after were started going out.
Sure the lingerie ones are on phone still phone as he asked to show them to our mutual female friend 18 months ago. They are buried deep in his private Facebook gallery as well. Hardly the raunchiest photos on FB!

Nudity has never been an issue with us as I stayed at his place when I knew him a few months. We lived in same block of flats, and he let me stay after a flood and my electrics were drying out for a couple of weeks. In such confined places it wasn't practical to worry about too much privacy & his shower/bath taps are a nightmare to use unless you know 'just how' to do them.
We got on extremely well from the start & him "being different" to every guy I ever med - ASD Aspergers - he's never been a creep to me or any other girls. Overall for me and him it's a non issue.
He's never asked for nudes, most I get is a 'show us your tits' when we've not seen each other in a couple of weeks (we don't live together) . Friends have flashed him theirs to get a reaction and he often hardly blinks.

Obviously I have no idea of your husband's motives. Perhaps an underwear pic and see how he goes with it?

Absolutely no face face, please. So many people regret it. Pictures get shown to others. Uploaded places.
His persistence is off putting, and likely never stop.

nope

No. Never

Short answer NO.
He has no respect for you and if you have to ask you already don't feel comfortable with this.
He insists ... well he can fuck off as this level of disrespect when not in a relationship the way you want it is a major indication of the level of control he will try to press on you going forward!
He's a prick.

@BobbyBiscuits - @Interestingone‘s partner is already pressuring her to send the pictures. From what she has said in her updates, it sounds as if she has told this man that she isn’t entirely comfortable with sending the pictures and he has pushed back, with the demand to make the shots very explicit - legs akimbo genitalia shots - and including her face. He is not respecting her or her boundary on this.

If he is willing to ignore her discomfort on this, and to pressure her to do something she is not happy to do, should she really trust him to keep these very explicit pictures ‘for his eyes only’? I certainly wouldn’t trust a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer on this.

I couldn’t agree more, @JHound.

I would, yes. I think. But I'd be surprised as he's never requested it before. If he was my monogamous partner and I trusted him and he would also send pics at my request, then I guess it would seem ok. But if you're uncomfortable then just refuse. Don't let him press you to do it.

Are you quite young OP?

Seriously OP men who refuse respect women’s boundaries are huge red flags. You have told him no and he won’t accept it.

That alone is grounds to end a relationship.

I have also spoken to him about it as it has become a constant request of his that I send him one. He is insisting that I also put my face in the photo. As he wants "EVERYTHING" (his words).

Put him in with the non-recyclable waste materials and wheel him out for collection on bin day.

@Interestingone absolutely do not send him a naked picture. As soon as you send it you have no control. Just think about your mum, dad, nan and your boss/neighbour looking at that picture as revenge porn is a thing and does happen.

PLEASE DON'T

@Interestingone - I agree with the previous posters who have said that this man is a massive parade of red flags! Insisting on graphic shots of your genitalia, with your face in shot - despite you not being comfortable with the idea - this is a very clear signal of his lack of respect for you as a person.

Please, please, please do NOT send any photos, and consider seriously whether you want to be in a relationship with someone like this.

I am willing to bet that, if your daughter/sister/friend told you that their boyfriend was 'insisting' on a legs open, full frontal photo including their face, you would be appalled and telling them that they deserved SO much better than this. You deserve the same respect and care you'd give a friend or loved one.

Agree with this! You’re clearly uncomfortable and any man insisting on anything like this wouldn’t be a man I’d want in my life moving forward. Pressuring you into doing something you’re not actively enthusiastic about is a red flag.

I agree with you @Teanbiscuits33 but I don't think the Op sees it that way. If I thought @Interestingone was seeing this for the red flag it is I'd have been blunter and said he should have been dumped the first time he pushed his luck

I call bullshit, 16 pages in?

Dump him. He's not a good man. He doesn't respect your boundaries and he's deliberately trying to push you into things you're not comfortable with. Major red flags here.

Yes, but that's MY decision and what I feel comfortable with - if it's not your thing, for whatever reason, the person who's asking needs to accept that THE FIRST TIME YOU SAY NO.

He shouldn’t need to ask again for her to dump him, she should have dumped him when he first started insisting. He’d be gone quicker than he could muster the energy to say ‘send a naked photo’ if it was me. Who the fuck does the loser think he is!?

OP I have for my husband but the difference is I wanted to, we were and are in a serious relationship, I’m not at all against it and as I say I have done it BUT in your situation I absolutely wouldn’t. The bottom line is you should never ever do anything you are not 100% comfortable with, this isn’t something you are happy to do and so what anybody else has or would do is irrelevant, it’s not for you and that is absolutely okay. If he can’t respect that then he’s not the one for you!

He won't take your No for an answer, for me that's a big red flag Op. If he won't accept it then how can you trust him not to take pictures without your permission?
He doesn't own you Op, tell him No and mean it and if he asks again dump him

OP, following your update there is only one course of action for you here - DUMP HIM AND RUN FOR THE HILLS. honestly, asking once is one thing but to keep pushing after you've said no is extremely disrespectful and also shows he does not have good intentions.

Please do not let desperation to be in a relationship cloud your judgement here. This guy is bad news, he couldn't wave his red flags any clearer. It's concerning you can't see this.

This is so unsexy, crude and disrespectful. I can't believe you are still asking.
Bin this loser.