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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

431 replies

Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

OP posts:
Gloriousgardener11 · 06/01/2025 18:27

No,no and no.
Protect yourself at all costs.

Bobbie12345 · 06/01/2025 18:27

Hard no from me.
I live by the motto of only having photos that exist of me that I would be ok with my grandmother and my boss seeing (without anything more than a mild embarrassment).

Hoppinggreen · 06/01/2025 18:26

Not a bloody chance

GiddyRobin · 06/01/2025 18:26

Nope. I trust my DH implicitly but I don't like the idea of it at all. Everything about it makes my skin crawl - probably due to men asking in the past. DH has never asked and never sent me pictures of himself like that, either. I'd be concerned about him losing his phone, or something happening to us both and someone else going looking through our pictures. Just nope.

Evaka · 06/01/2025 18:25

I do with my longterm partner but never showing my face. We were long distance for a couple of years so it was a bit of fun for us. All initiated by me (female) for the record.

Daleksatemyshed · 06/01/2025 18:24

No Op. Too many men use private pictures for revenge if you break up or share them on online sites. He has a memory, let him use it

RosesAndHellebores · 06/01/2025 18:24

No. TBF I've been with my DH for 35 years but in about 1976 when I was about 16, my mum said boyfriends sometimes ask for a naughty Polaroid or topless photo and the only answer was no because nobody could be trusted with something like that and certainly not a boyfriend.

DD's 26 and I had those conversations with her when she was much younger along with other keeping safe on-line conversations.

@Interestingone no and no some more. If he needs a photo to remind him of your gorgeousness, he's a frog. Chuck him back.

Scirocco · 06/01/2025 18:24

Not a chance.

Information security is not perfect. Why risk it?

Sazzerss · 06/01/2025 18:24

No. He wouldn't ask. Even when I was on🔥....still not too bad😉

WeirdBarbieKenergy · 06/01/2025 18:24

Never, and I've been married 24 years.

I trust DH with my life but he could lose his phone, get hacked etc.
It's not worth the risk.

AllTheMiceGoClang · 06/01/2025 18:23

No. My rule of posting anything on the internet is to gauge whether I’d send it to my elderly mother.

I’ve worked with enough men to know that they show others what you send them, even the nice men who’d never do that.

murasaki · 06/01/2025 18:23

Nope, and he's never asked. But then he gets to see me naked as we live together.

Porkyporkchop · 06/01/2025 18:23

Please don’t do this. If it ends up on the internet, your employer and everyone could end up seeing this and you’ll be sacked and humiliated

StormingNorman · 06/01/2025 18:23

No. I trust my DH but phones can be stolen, hacked etc. someone could see it over his shoulder.

Retrospeaker · 06/01/2025 18:23

Nope. Never.

Iwiicit · 06/01/2025 18:22

DO NOT DO IT

Christmasgiraffe · 06/01/2025 18:22

I do it all the time but don't do it if you're not comfortable and fully okay with it. It doesn't sound like you are so I wouldn't.

Didimum · 06/01/2025 18:21

Nope. Never.

Brefugee · 06/01/2025 18:21

Nope. And i would discourage anyone else from doing this. Ever.

OkayLetMeKnowHowItGoes · 06/01/2025 18:20

“I’ll only look at it once, and then I’ll delete it”

Bullshit. Then there’ll be those drunken nights at the pub where he shows his mates and asks for discretion.

GingerLiberalFeminist · 06/01/2025 18:20

No. Never ever ever. Not worth the risk.

pinkyredrose · 06/01/2025 18:19

Only if it was a stable relationship and he sent me a full frontal of him first.

Mrsttcno1 · 06/01/2025 18:19

It’s a personal decision really, I have done it, only with the man who is now my husband and never had any worries about it really, he has also sent them to me, I trust him. If I was single again and met someone who was asking immediately then it would be a hard no.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 06/01/2025 18:19

Have you had sex with him yet?

Because if so, I'm sure he can remember what your bits and bobs look like.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 06/01/2025 18:19

No. But he wouldn't ask.

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