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Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

431 replies

Interestingone · 06/01/2025 18:17

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

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CreationNat1on · 06/01/2025 19:27

Yes, I would.

But no issues with anyone else choosing not to.

crostini · 06/01/2025 19:26

I take them because I like taking naked pics of myself Grin sometimes I send them to my husband, sometimes I dont!

I think I look good so in the minuscule chance that they somehow got leaked. I wouldn't mind so much... I don't find it embarrassing or shameful. And if all else fails I could just claim its an AI deep fake 😅

SizzlingPrickle · 06/01/2025 19:25

ilovepixie · 06/01/2025 19:22

Yes I would and I have. Videos also 🫣🫣

Haha same with the vids 😆

LightsAndBaubles · 06/01/2025 19:25

No.
It's a boundary I will never cross.

Velvian · 06/01/2025 19:25

No.

CarmelaBrunella · 06/01/2025 19:25

Pineconesandterracotta · 06/01/2025 19:20

My husband and I do it all the time! I love if he’s working from home, kids all at school and I’m upstairs sending naughty pics. The sound of that laptop shutting and his feet running up those stairs 😂

When he's wfh? That's naughty!

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:24

CarmelaBrunella · 06/01/2025 19:24

I don't think nudity is the point here.

What is? Having sexual impulses? O no what a slag she fancies someone.

SleeplessInWherever · 06/01/2025 19:24

Pineconesandterracotta · 06/01/2025 19:20

My husband and I do it all the time! I love if he’s working from home, kids all at school and I’m upstairs sending naughty pics. The sound of that laptop shutting and his feet running up those stairs 😂

My favourite is when I know it’s an inconvenient time.

Off to Tesco are you? Have this 😂

CarmelaBrunella · 06/01/2025 19:24

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:15

I am pretty old and honestly surprised how worried folk are about this. There's no shame in nudity!

I don't think nudity is the point here.

Dinosweetpea · 06/01/2025 19:23

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 06/01/2025 18:19

No. But he wouldn't ask.

This.

Owly11 · 06/01/2025 19:23

Absolutely no way in hell.

ilovepixie · 06/01/2025 19:22

Yes I would and I have. Videos also 🫣🫣

JustMyView13 · 06/01/2025 19:22

Nope.
And that’s a hill I’m prepared to die on.

Doodleflips · 06/01/2025 19:21

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:20

I include the face tbh. A random guy could take my work directory photo and make it a full porn film if he wanted I don't care if he sees my nicely styled photo for DH. Filters make me feel a LOT hotter than I am... Which is nice 😀

Very true.

Pineconesandterracotta · 06/01/2025 19:20

My husband and I do it all the time! I love if he’s working from home, kids all at school and I’m upstairs sending naughty pics. The sound of that laptop shutting and his feet running up those stairs 😂

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:20

Doodleflips · 06/01/2025 19:17

I’m very surprised too. Taking precautions is sensible (I.e. no face), but it can be a lot of fun.

I include the face tbh. A random guy could take my work directory photo and make it a full porn film if he wanted I don't care if he sees my nicely styled photo for DH. Filters make me feel a LOT hotter than I am... Which is nice 😀

Lentilweaver · 06/01/2025 19:20

No. Phone might be hacked. Also i find it cringe.

curious79 · 06/01/2025 19:18

absolutely not. God knows where it could end up. Imagine he loses his phone, it's hacked, or for some reason you two fall out and he becomes a bit of a see you next Tuesday

erihskreb · 06/01/2025 19:17

Nope - you can never guarantee a phone won’t get hacked or stolen.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 06/01/2025 19:17

DH has never asked, but before DS I had a job where I worked away quite a bit and I would send the odd photo, lingerie not nude though and no face. To be honest there's raunchier stuff on Instagram these days!
By that point I'd known him nearly twenty years though.

Dramatic · 06/01/2025 19:17

I've never sent a naked photo to anyone and I wouldn't ever do it. I'm married but my husband knows not to even ask

Doodleflips · 06/01/2025 19:17

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:15

I am pretty old and honestly surprised how worried folk are about this. There's no shame in nudity!

I’m very surprised too. Taking precautions is sensible (I.e. no face), but it can be a lot of fun.

Deadbeatex · 06/01/2025 19:17

It doesn't matter what I or anyone else would do, it doesn't matter if everyone else on the planet does it, the ONLY thing that matters is if you want to and feel comfortable doing so.

To answer your questions,
It depends on the relationship but mostly I feel comfortable as long as i do from the neck down so my face isn't shown. Personally I enjoy sending and receiving pics and find it a turn on but there should NEVER be any pressure to participate and it's worth remembering that sending an unsolicited pic is a criminal offence as is sharing any pics without consent of the sender

Michellesbackbrace · 06/01/2025 19:16

I have done this and then always regretted it afterwards.

Stuffisperplexing · 06/01/2025 19:15

I am pretty old and honestly surprised how worried folk are about this. There's no shame in nudity!