Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

I did this after lots of "persuasion", after a break up he posted it online. I would never ever do it again.

Dump this loser.

No, don't do it, if you split, anything could happen, about 20 plus years ago I worked with a young guy who used to bring in photos of his naked girlfriend (she worked in a photo developing shop) to show all and sundry, he didn't think anything of it, but I didn't feel he should be doing so, they eventually split, he left the job we were at, had no further contact, and I've heard since (from former colleagues) his marriage (to another) broke up, and none of his relationships have lasted, but has several children, by three different women, a right carry on !

it has become a constant request of his that I send him one. He is insisting that I also put my face in the photo.

He is very persistent on this I must add.

This has crossed my mind too (regarding secretly recording you)

How many signs do you need that this is not a good man? This isn’t a grey area. Anyone who badgers you for something sexual, won’t take no for an answer, or pushes your boundaries is a truly awful person. And you are also wondering if he might record you without your consent, which is crime. Fucking hell OP, you can’t seriously be considering sending this man nudes, let alone ever having sex with him again.

I did when I was younger... we sent each other all sorts of stuff. And we photographed each other.
But it was mutual and we trusted each other.
I wouldn't send him anything now... probably break his phone screen!

It'll end up on something like this, is the likelihood.
www.theguardian.com/world/2022/jan/06/i-have-moments-of-shame-i-cant-control-the-lives-ruined-by-explicit-collector-culture
Bin him

Not in a million years. And he wouldn't ask.

He clearly does not like taking NO for an answer
that's not good !

there are times in life when people need to hear and understand NO...

NO

Personally me nope.

This.

Dh was telling me about someone he knows sent a photo of his wife to someone else, with the expectation that the someone else would send back a photo of his wife in return (he didn't)🤮

Absolutely. And have done. Videos too. I trust my husband though.

Could you ask him to send you a naked photo of himself first? Legs open, pleasuring himself with a large cucumber? Face visible of course to show how much he enjoys himself. Promise him you'll just have a look and delete it. He'll do it if he truly loves you no doubt.

I wouldn't if I were you. Not saying he's a bad lad, but you may not always be together and you know what sometimes happens......

I've been with DH for 19 years and married for 12 and the answer would still be no!

I trust him implicitly but once something like that has been taken, sent, uploaded to a cloud backup etc you never have control.

Yes, it does sound like it’s a trap. How do you rate your chances of getting them deleted if you ever decided to end this relationship?

What do you think is the likelihood that he has a little personal collection from previous sexual partners? What would be their chances of him respecting their privacy?

He has fixated on this, you are in effect his Mark, for him to target in on.
You really do need to give him the boot. He has absolutely no respect for you. He has rejected your No, because he doesn’t respect you or your privacy.

You’ve already said no and he’s being ‘very insistent’ about it. He wants your face in. This sounds very much like a trap. Do not send anything.

No, hell no, and for the love of all that is holy NO.

I've been with DH 24 years, I trust him more than I trust any other human being and I still wouldn't send him naked pictures of myself.

I truly don't think he would send them to anyone, but I couldn't guarantee he wouldn't accidentally upload them to the cloud and make them available on a family link, or forget to delete them from hard storage on a device and then sell the device or get hacked.

Sending naked photos is more likely to go wrong than right, sending photos where you can be identified is even more risky.

So NO, NO, NO.

In the past I have sent those types of photos and videos - it’s something I enjoy as part of sex.

However I have never and will never have my face in them. Which I see you are being asked to do.

If you don’t feel comfortable don’t to it. Don’t let him push you into it.

Having read your other post where he’s wants open legs and face showing
tell him to fuck off

and I would be wary of sleeping with him at his place in case he has set up a hidden camera

if you do go to his place and he insists on keeping the lights on when you have sex he’s probably got a hidden camera in the room

No

I would and have to my husband of 25
years

to a boyfriend no but if I did I would blur out my face so if I did end up somewhere they can’t prove it’s me

or put my face on supermodels body 😂

No and in OP's situation, hell no.

I wouldn't have nude photos out of my control.

He's bugging about it so he doesn't take no for an answer.

Telling you you have to show your face in them I would count as a big red flag.

Lol! 😆
Any way you want. I am notorious flirt at times, but back at the beginning I never considered him for a romantic partner.
I'm sure their are photocopies of my butt still out there from my wild teenage days when my schools IT department was unsupervised... 😁