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Are people rude or just oblivious?

84 replies

imtoo · 06/01/2025 17:44

I had my hair done the other day, hairdresser asked what I used to dry it and I said the AirWrap. She said I bought a different brand, there’s no way I’d waste that much money on a product when I can get cheaper that’s just as good …

I had the full two weeks off at Christmas. Two friends asked what I’d had off and told them and they said - I’d never take that much time off because it’s a waste of leave ..

Have your own opinions sure but why the need to put someone else down? Am I being too sensitive?

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Ineedanewsofa · 06/01/2025 17:54

People seem to be getting more rude in this way and I think a lot of it is social media giving them the false impression that anyone cares about their opinion/what they would do/their advice (100% aware of the irony here!)
The hairdresser in particular was idle chitchat, no need for them to say anything beyond “that’s nice” or “lovely”

SiobhanSharpe · 06/01/2025 17:52

It's clear that they are giving their own opinions, perhaps they were a bit blunt, perhaps you're a bit sensitive. 😕

Titasaducksarse · 06/01/2025 17:51

I don't see it as rude at all! You shared something and the other person shared their view on that thing. I wonder if you're sensitive/embarrassed/ something about the Dyson cost maybe?

DaisyDumplings · 06/01/2025 17:50

Answer both comments “everyone’s different in the choices they make, I’m glad you like your air wrap/shorter holiday”.

I wouldn’t feel put down with these comments or think them rude but I wouldn’t let them go without an answer either.

AppleKatie · 06/01/2025 17:49

People can be rude yes.

Weyohweyoh · 06/01/2025 17:48

I think people are just operating in their own little bubbles these days and don’t give it much thought beyond how the world affects them.

Onlyonekenobe · 06/01/2025 17:48

I wouldn't feel put down by those comments, I'd just think Confused

PullTheBricksDown · 06/01/2025 17:46

Start saying cheerfully 'Well, it'd be a dull world if we were all the same!'

NoCarbsForMe · 06/01/2025 17:45

Some people have no filter