Are people rude or just oblivious?

These comments wouldn’t bother me

. . . and for those saying 'it's just my opinion / I say it, like it is'.

No it's not - it's just being a cunt.

Yanbu I hate it when something nice is happening to someone and others feel the need to be negative about it iv had this multiple times with things and it's just unnecessary and it's not you being oversensitive it's them being rude and mean. It's like sharing you've booked a holiday and someone saying it's crap their. Or buying something new and someone telling you how you got ripped of. Or like one of my friends everytime she comes round telling me how much smaller my house is then she remembers every single time and goes on an on about it why she's here but it's really backhanded comments like it's so cosy, it's so cute, it would be nice if you had a .... but I suppose you wouldn't have room for it anywhere, it must drive you mad the kids running about in such a small space how do you cope I just couldn't.

and not only unnecessary, but unnecessarily hostile

If people make comments like that to my response to their questions, I just reply "Good for you". It shuts them up and isn't rude.

'Ah well, it'd be a bit dull if we were all the same, eh?' is a good reply. 🙃

People are allowed to give opinions without being asked for them 😳

I think it's ruder to assume they need an invitation from you.

People just talk for the point of talking - they don't think about the words coming out of their heads and the effects the pointless words they say have on others.

So many emotionally unintelligent numbskulls around.

In my head I'd be thinking - 'I couldn't give a shit what you think.'
Imagine saying that out loud 😆(what's wrong? it's just my 'opinion')

Honestly I think it depends where you are from.
I moved from the North where we called a spade a spade. I have found now I am in the South it’s softly softly catchee monkey.

Wilfully missing the point here, but did your hairdresser happen to mention what she bought that was as good as the Airwrap but cheaper? Enquiring minds need to know...😄

People don’t have basic manners any more. Manners are all about making other people feel comfortable, which often means smiling and nodding and keeping your mouth shut, instead of voicing a contrary opinion that might cause offence.

Neither of those examples are what I would consider a put down.

The comment about the AirWrap was perhaps a put down directed at the AirWrap - but not at you personally.

The comment about leave is a commonly held view - lots of people think why waste their leave at that time when it will be quiet with few people in work, and you can probably get away with shorter days? Save your leave for another time! Didn’t stop me from taking two weeks off though!

Neither of those examples are putting you down. It’s just a different opinion. Probably more polite just to say “oh that’s nice” though!

Well red wine, cheese, beach walks… but driving through Yr Wyddfa is up there!

I find “really how interesting” makes them buckle down and repeat themselves and often look uncomfortable as they register their comment themselves.

Surely just a difference of opinion and not rude? I know people with expensive handbags and I would never buy one myself because I would only drop it in a puddle, have my pen/drink explode all over the interior. Doesn’t mean I don’t understand why other people want them, I just wouldn’t want one for me. In the same way I love my car, but it’s not to everyone’s tastes - if someone told me my car was too flashy and expensive then that’s their opinion, they don’t have to drive it. I do thousands of miles every year and I love travelling in comfort. Nothing makes me happier then winding my way through mountain roads with my favourite music on and at the wheel of my car.

I find that people are pretty thoughtless in what they say. I'd find those comments a bit snide.

I think my biggest revelation in my life is learning to laugh off peoples comments, when i was teen to mid twenties i was so affected by everyone around me! a mildly rude shop keeper with a tone would send me spiralling for a day thinking i have some kind of repulsive aura.
But now I'm a little bit older i just laugh it off and think 'God, aren't people strange?' And to put it in perspective youve probably said lots of things to people where they've thought the same as you now. I don't even think half the time people know how they come across, recently at a works-do after a colleague complimented how shiny my hair is someone butted in and said I mustn't of washed it for days! It was very rude but I just laughed because what an odd thing to say!
just try not to take it personally. I know it's hard but we're all odd creatures sometimes.

Both.

They shared their opinions though. People are allowed to disagree.

Both examples are very blunt - some people have no filter. I had the 2 weeks off at Christmas and was told the same thing by a colleague who uses most of their leave taking a Friday off. I have never commented to them

Hairdressers make a lot of comments that make them seem
completely oblivious. It’s weird for a profession that is known for being friendly and chatty.