To have hated every job ive ever had?

I really enjoy my job...... NOW

Now that the useless, bullying, narcissistic fucktard of a manger has gone. The job itself was always lovely but they made it hell.

I was fortunate to be able to afford to drop a couple of grades pay so now I do all the bits I like without having to do the bits i dont.

I like my new manager a lot and have some good supportive colleagues with whom I can safely eye roll with about the colleagues who aren't my cup of tea.

Pay is fine for what I do. I work 4 days a week. I manage my own diary and as long as work is done..no drama. It's a secure job with good benefits.

I could be doing more with my degree and experience but I can't really be arsed.

My issue with jobs has never been the actual work, it's been the stress of having to navigate the social game playing, which just feels so utterly ridiculous to me. I found some people to be so difficult, obstructive and bullying. Then there's the whole 'we are like a family' blah blah which I found to be so utterly disingenuous.

I just want to turn up and do my job well. People ruin workplaces.

You're not alone. I'd much rather spend my time travelling, reading and sitting in coffee shops. We were DINKs for years due to fertility issues and we saved hard in the hopes of being able to retire early. We were lucky to have our baby so plans have changed.

Such a good point!

Isn’t it just something you need to accept and not dwell on? We are paid for it because it’s work? Most (not all) people who work would rather not. But that’s the society we live in? The implication of the work “work” is that it’s something that takes effort. Of course you’ve been happy whilst off with no work. If we all decided not to contribute then what would happen?

Me too.

I like the regular pay check and sense of community with permanent employment but that's about it.

I find that I am actually much happier with freelancing and contracting where I can dip in and out. If a job or work environment becomes too irritating or overwhelming I remove myself from it. I work for a few organisations and sometimes removing myself is temporary.

I'm also working towards being self employed this year and taking on my own work. I'm at the age now where no one is ever going to promote me so I might as well run my own empire. I'm fed up of other people running what is usually a very bad show.

At least we don't live in the olden days. I hate to think how I'd have coped pretending to be passionate about being a scullery maid or whatever.

Sounds like you struggle with pressure, which people feel more acutely if they lack confidence. The more confident you are that you will be able to meet the demands, the less pressure you’re under. Would you say you lack confidence generally / socially / at work?

I think it is about the jobs surely, but mostly about the people.

I get you!
Im in my 50s and have always felt like this, and it’s not because I’m in the wrong job - I’ve worked lots of different roles ranging from cleaner, call centre staff, shop staff, office admin etc etc. I just hate work! I love being at home pottering about and joke that I wasn’t born to work😂

A lot of research and data analysis is all about deadlines and pressure to deliver.

I find the constant interaction and pressure to deliver exhausting.

So, some kind of research job, maybe? Data analysis?

Wtf are you talking about?

You do right. You can only laugh at people who post condescending stuff like that 😂

I expect you'd hate not having an income more.

I am the same OP.

I did OK at the beginning of my career because I worked with decent organisations and with good teams for about 10 years.

After that it all went downhill in my sector, with poor pay, bad managers and one person expected to do a job that would requite an entire team to deliver.

My current organisation is the worse ever: misrepresented the job at interview, back-stabbing colleagues, very inward looking with too much politics, complete chaos and an appalling staff turnover because of it all.

Add to that the stress of long commute (lied to at interview about the fact that I would only need to be in the office once a month, if that). I now absolutely hate every single day I work for them.

Like you I suspect that I am nerurodivergent and I struggle with noisy environment and the transport system. Current employer was completely unsympathetic when I ended up having a complete breakdown last year and I had to get Occupational Health involved.

So I am now looking at leaving that sector and working fully remotely.

More generally, I really don't think humans were made to spend such long hours in front of a computer, stuck in a room either.

Making more profit for corporate companies and more taxes for governments should not be our main purpose in life. Perfectly fine to feel that you don't fit in that scenario...

“Normcore typey typer stuff” is going on my CV for my last job description 🤣

Sorry to hear about your passionless existence.

Yep! I do alright for the first 6 months and then begin to hate it.

I have a pretty cushy job atm, wfh decent enough pay and relaxed management, but I'm starting to hate it.

I just don't like working full stop. In fact I fucking hate it.

Depending on your department in the civil service you can get a neurodivergent needs assessment which can suggest reasonable adjustments that make work more bearable (more time working from home, change in the way you work etc) and you don't have to be diagnosed to get one. I felt the exact same way until I started putting adjustments in place to help me stay in work. That plus decreasing hours/dropping a day has dramatically changed my attitude to work, now it's just a small part of my life that I have to do in order to be able to do the rest.
It's definitely worth exploring if you believe you may be neurodivergent.

"normcore typey typer"?

Are you always this much of a twat?

I belittle people who are passionate about a normcore typey typer job, sorry.

By all means be passionate about nursing or postdoctoral research into something world changing or being CEO of a wine or chocolate company.