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My aunt and her daughters PIP/ benefits

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Whatyearisit20 · 05/01/2025 23:04

my cousin has been on dla most of her life, not diagnosed with much but symptomatic of a lot. She does have an autism diagnosis however this is not the main cause of why she was on dla.
she is now moving over to pip and will be able to claim her own UC.
she went to through main stream education and did not require an ehcp of any kind and is a very capable person.
she spend quite a lot of time at our house with my kids because I think she just enjoys the hustle and bustle of it so I know her very well !
i receive Dla for my eldest and aunt rang me to see if I knew any information about how she could be the one to still receive cousins pip ( was dla ) and her universal credit due to her being incapable.
I was slightly taken back by this rightly or wrongly they got my cousin a cash in hand job that she works at Saturday and Sunday perfectly able and take 20 percent of her wages for rent.
she is fairly independent and travels her self, shops her self etc
so I highlighted that I didn’t think this was reasonable and if cousin is entitled to it then she should now receive her money.
I spoke to cousin about what she wanted and she said she wanted it to come to her.
she is very capable I just don’t understand it.
aunt is now annoyed at me and said that daughter was fine with it until I spoke to her and is furious but I just feel like cousin needed to know all
options and is capable of making her own decisions.

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Lovelybitofsquirrel3 · 08/01/2025 23:36

x2boys · 06/01/2025 09:45

I'm not using it for my personal use I'm using it to benefit my son taking him to groups and activities would be of no benefit if he didn't have a roof over his head or not being fed would it i suggest you read it again.

I want you to read this all before you respond.
Every child should have a roof over their heads and be fed, those are basic needs that parents should be meeting anyway - along with any other needs the child has, they have more than basic needs, even before disability comes into account.
However, like you said, often parents can’t work, which limits household income. And universal credit doesn’t cover basic costs.
in an ideal world you’d have the disability money spare after essential costs but you don’t and that isn’t your fault.

Walkacrossthesand · 07/01/2025 13:43

It's real, @vegtrug, and it happens. Only the OP can know if that's what she's uneasy about, hence my post.

Mockingjay876 · 06/01/2025 20:39

So your 16 year old cousin is still in full time education, mum receives child benefit etc for her because she is still a dependant, but then charges her rent from the money she makes at her weekend job? I’d also be suspicious. A 16 year old in full time education with a little weekend job should not be paying rent. Give it a bit longer. She’ll probably move in with you permanently and then she’ll have the support she needs to achieve independence as an adult.

Miley1967 · 06/01/2025 20:25

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:23

@Miley1967 I've been on PIP since 2013 and DLA prior to that and they've never once asked me if I'm working....?
However they have for my LCWRA assessments

Ok that's fine but I have supported a lot of people through PIP assessments and each time they have been asked if they are working and what job they do. I have also seen it asked at tribunals by the panel. I guess people do have different experiences though. Of course they will always ask you at your LCWRA assessment because that is a work capability assessment.

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:23

@Miley1967 I've been on PIP since 2013 and DLA prior to that and they've never once asked me if I'm working....?
However they have for my LCWRA assessments

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:21

@Walkacrossthesand How fucking DARE you make such wild assumptions about a disabled teenager who you've never met and haven't even been told how her disabilities affect her, just what she's been diagnosed with... Wow. The most ableist post I've ever read on Mumsnet and that's quite an accolade

Flopsythebunny · 06/01/2025 20:19

Livelovebehappy · 05/01/2025 23:54

I’m guessing the cash in hand part time work isn’t going to be disclosed………

Pip is an in work benefit.
But, it may be that the job that she does contradicts the difficulties your aunt put on the forms

Miley1967 · 06/01/2025 20:17

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:12

PIP is nothing to do with working! It's not means tested and is paid for the added costs of being disabled. It's not an income replacement

I am well aware of that thanks. However I have never sat in on a PIP assessment where the assessor has not asked the claimant if they work and if so what type of work they do which is the point I was making in my post.

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:16

@Agix Absolute nonsense. That's only relevant to the care component and even then it's not that clear cut. I get enhanced pip mobility and standard care and I don't have any carers!

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:13

See my above comment. You can work and receive pip. Even millionaires can receive pip

VegTrug · 06/01/2025 20:12

Miley1967 · 05/01/2025 23:25

As above she may not even be eligible for PIP. the criteria are very different to DLA. Can she was and dress herself, engage with others, get herself out and about in public, on public transport , cook a simple meal ? And to claim UC she will either need to pass a work capability assessment to show she isn't capable of work or is limited in type of work or hours she can do, or she will be expected to look for full time work. PIP assessor may well ask about her part time job, does she need extra support etc.

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PIP is nothing to do with working! It's not means tested and is paid for the added costs of being disabled. It's not an income replacement

WaitingForMojo · 06/01/2025 13:53

BobbyBiscuits · 06/01/2025 13:44

She will do the pip assessment and unless she lies, the money will go directly to her. If she gets any. If she's capable it will come out in the forms and interview so nobody else would be taking the money.

This isn’t accurate. The appointee process is completely separate from the PIP application itself.

BobbyBiscuits · 06/01/2025 13:44

She will do the pip assessment and unless she lies, the money will go directly to her. If she gets any. If she's capable it will come out in the forms and interview so nobody else would be taking the money.

JetskiSkyJumper · 06/01/2025 13:32

Am the only one wondering why a 15/16 year old still in education is expected to pay board?

No one here can determine if she's entitled to pip. At 16 I was the appointee and had it in my account as my child was still in full time education and I still paid for everything. Once he left we changed it so it goes directly to him and he now pays board. 16 is still quite young but the fact her mum charges board when she's still in (presumably due to her age full time?) education concerns me.

WaitingForMojo · 06/01/2025 13:14

@BrightYellowTrain also knows what they are talking about.

WaitingForMojo · 06/01/2025 13:13

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/01/2025 12:20

Yes ours went up as in many cases neurodiverse kids simply aren't capable of being independent even if there are no physical disabilities.

Personally I think 16 is far too young to expect children with additional needs to manage their own finances.

I agree completely. It should absolutely be 18.

WaitingForMojo · 06/01/2025 13:13

x2boys · 06/01/2025 11:57

Indeed but the criteria is different to DLA I know quite like a few young whose rates have gone up when transferring to PIp
Yet others have lost an award entirely

This is absolutely true. Some will be eligible for DLA but not be eligible under pip criteria. For example, young people with Type 1 Diabetes are usually eligible for DLA as the care component is based on hours of care required. PIP is based on a series of task descriptors so they usually only score one point for needing assistance to manage medication. Even though that is a round the clock job. They can qualify but it’s usually based on anxiety and psychological needs rather than the T1D itself. It’s unfair, but that’s the system.

Equally, PIP assesses 16 year olds as adults, so the expectation in terms of independence is the same as a fully fledged adult. So some autistic young people can score higher on PIP due to needing prompting and supervision with most activities of daily living and being unable to plan and follow journeys without support.

That’s a simplistic example and won’t apply to every applicant. But the criteria are so different.

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/01/2025 12:20

x2boys · 06/01/2025 11:57

Indeed but the criteria is different to DLA I know quite like a few young whose rates have gone up when transferring to PIp
Yet others have lost an award entirely

Yes ours went up as in many cases neurodiverse kids simply aren't capable of being independent even if there are no physical disabilities.

Personally I think 16 is far too young to expect children with additional needs to manage their own finances.

BrightYellowTrain · 06/01/2025 12:07

I very much doubt that a parent of a disabled child who is eligible for dla, is spending less than the dla money on that child.

Especially when Scope’s latest disability price tag research shows on average disabled households need an extra £1,010 per month for the same standard of living as non-disabled households. This figure would be higher on if it was adjusted for inflation.

WaitingForMojo · 06/01/2025 12:03

BeLilacSloth · 06/01/2025 09:34

I am not scaremongering, in my DLA contract it states they have every right to carry out random checks. If you are spending DLA money on yourself and not the disabled child entitled to it, then you are wrong.

Nobody’s saying they are spending it on themselves.

I’m a welfare rights lawyer and I promise you that it’s fine for DLA to be used in any way that benefits the child. Including providing a suitable environment for them to live in, and food.

I very much doubt that a parent of a disabled child who is eligible for dla, is spending less than the dla money on that child.

x2boys · 06/01/2025 11:57

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/01/2025 10:25

Well we'll just have to agree to differ.

Of course it's not impossible that the aunt is scamming the system but it's incredibly unlikely. The vast majority of parent carers make enormous personal sacrifices to ensure their kids have the support they need.

She won't have got the DLA in the first place without an abundance of evidence and you know that.

Indeed but the criteria is different to DLA I know quite like a few young whose rates have gone up when transferring to PIp
Yet others have lost an award entirely

BrightYellowTrain · 06/01/2025 11:54

x2boys · 06/01/2025 08:45

But the main criteria for PIp is that you are not capable of caring for yourself independently and need help with washing ,dressing ,cooking and cleaning and navigating independent travel ,.

Someone can be eligible for PIP and still be independent/not require care from someone else. They could needs aids to do the daily living activities.

HollyKnight · 06/01/2025 10:46

Cooking for herself and travelling by herself isn't enough info to judge her needs though. My autistic brother can prepare food, travel by himself, go shopping, look after a child for a couple of hours etc. On paper.

But in reality he can only make the same 5 simple meals, he can only travel on routes he knows, he can only go to the shops he knows, he could watch a child but wouldn't know what to do in an emergency etc. Any deviation from what he knows results in an anxiety explosion and a meltdown. He works 5 days a week, but he can not handle his own finances. He doesn't understand bills and budgeting. He isn't able to fill in his own forms or advocate for himself. He definitely wouldn't be able to complete a PIP form himself. He will always live in supportive housing and needs other people to help him and keep him safe.

Looking in from the outside isn't the same as living with it.

Whatyearisit20 · 06/01/2025 10:38

Anothernamechane · 06/01/2025 10:33

If your cousin leaves education and works she'll need to pay your aunt digs of more than the £70pm she's currently paying. Your aunt is in a difficult position financially and obviously relies on the DLA.

If she's capable of managing her own money she's capable of paying her own way.

Yes of course she is only paying 70.00 now because she is still a minor at school and her mum still receives child benefit , child element and dla for her and she stays there 3/4 times a week.

I didn’t say if she decides to stay living with her mum and working or receiving her own benefits that she wouldn’t have to pay her mum anywhere ‘

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Whatyearisit20 · 06/01/2025 10:36

I don’t know whether she will get pip or not and she may work full time who knows she can’t right this second because she needs to finish her education first. It might take time to find a job.

I don’t think she will stay at home much longer in the sense and I think she could hugely benefit from having her own money if needed.

since she was 14 she started coming over more and now just stays most of the time. Most of this time I don’t have any contact check in with aunt.

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