To think very handsome men aren't worth the hassle?

Well my model gorgeous ex boyfriend was one of the nicest people I’ve known. My own DH was a looker when young too and kind and generous to a fault. My own son has done some modelling. Of course I think he’s great! He is conscious of his looks but as a former chubby kid he has endured years of body shaming and works very hard to maintain his physique. He may be a bit vain but that hasn’t affected his open and kind nature.
I find many men pretty obnoxious no matter what they look like, and seem to think they could all pull beauty queens.

I wouldn’t chase a hot man because I assume they are flooded with female attention and would always be looking for the next shiny new thing. However I have ended up with a very physically attractive DP (not just my perception, everyone has ‘noticed’) in quite a natural, slow burn sort of way after meeting out in the wild a few months ago (he’s not on OLD).

So maybe it’s just the hotties on OLD that should be avoided?

Dated a man who was gorgeous and knew it. He cheated on me publicly and humiliated me and left me with an STD.
Whilst heartbroken over him o saw the most beautiful man I’d ever seen. I’m now married to him. He has no idea how beautiful he is despite being told (still) by people all the time. He used to get hit on by both men and women whilst we were out when we were younger. I’d always send him to the bar to get drinks!

There aren't enough of them sadly!

There are huge differences between the way men rate women and the way women rate men. Women rate 80% of men as below average. Men (much more reasonably) categorise close to 50% of women that way.

Also, when scoring out of 10 for looks, women give significantly higher rating to men they know, compared to men they don't. For men, whether or not they know a woman makes no difference to how attractive they think they are.

The statistics show that a tiny minority of very attractive men on dating apps get nearly all the female interest, so those men have a very strong disincentive to commit to any particular one. (This doesn't happen the other way around, men are much less selective and far more desperate than women, so cast their nets much wider.)

The mating preferences of women combined with the infinitely larger pool of men they appear to have access to on dating apps may have the unintended consequence of driving society back towards polygamy. Apparently monogamy is a historical aberration, we may now returning to what has been more normal through-out human history, a minority of desirable men father all the children, and a lot of men have no offspring. I think I read somewhere that we all have twice as many female ancestors as male ones, because historically nearly every woman who was biologically capable of giving birth did so, but a lot of men did not get to have children.

I‘m curious what his message was? How do you convey that in a text?

Yes it was! I let myself be sucked into their hype about how wonderful I was and they couldn't believe their luck etc etc. I'm older and wiser now.

Particularly short ones are the worst. Short Essex boys, the most obnoxious I ever met.

Most men aren't worth the hassle.

Good looking men don’t have anything to prove. I think it’s the ugly ones who are worse

Most men rate themselves as higher in attractiveness than a woman would rate them, of course. There’s some research about that somewhere.

Yes! There are the very odd ones who don’t know how attractive they are. But few and far between.

There is certainly some logic in that!

😂😂 guess they don’t notice you either

No men are worth the hassle in my opinion.

and those of us still waiting to grow into our looks are the absolute peak of loveliness

I think there are two types

Men who grew up good looking, were good looking as teens… generally dicks

Men who were average as teens and grew into their looks … much better

Isn’t it also a bit arrogant to assume someone wouldn’t cheat on you because you don’t think they could do any better than you?

Oh, but we are...bigly time.

People are what they are regardless of looks. When I was younger I made assumptions that less good looking men might be less likely to treat me badly or cheat because they'd be more keen to hang on to me, knowing I'd not be easily replaced. Sadly that wasn't the case. My current bf of 4 years is extremely good looking, as in even men regularly come up and tell him how handsome he is, and women ask him out a lot. But he is a decent person and has never needed to play games and is the easiest person I have ever been in a relationship with because I know exactly what I'm getting.

Beauty is totally in the eye of the beholder. I have no clue what people see in Leonardo DiCaprio - genuinely I don't. To me he looks like Hey Arnold... You can tell me he is objectively attractive, but I don't agree, I wouldn't touch him with someone else's bargepole.

I think the issues more arise where people THINK they are god's gift - and that shows in their behaviour. Surely this is the crux of the crappiness?

The person I have loved most in my life - and found incredibly sexy - has been referred to as follows by people in the past 'He looks a bit like an owl' and 'His voice is a bit camp isn't it?' No one I have met since is sexier, hands down.

We are all strange chemical animals at the end of the day!

This. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My partner isn't classically handsome. He's nearly a decade older than me, is over weight and is full grey haired. He's nothing like my usual type but I fancy the arse off of him

Sorry posted twice!

I think men who think they are very handsome aren’t worth the bother, because they tend to be a) arrogant and b) shallow.

Generally speaking they aren’t particularly clever or sexy, both of which are more attractive than conventional handsome (for me).

But to be fair there are some men who are handsome and don’t know it.