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Think ive upset my neighbour

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KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

OP posts:
Ghostin · 05/01/2025 21:00

This is so funny 🤣 I’m mortified for you but you didn’t do anything bad, it’s a benign mistake! I agree with PPs to pop round tomorrow and explain, you’ll feel better for it.

PreferMyAnimals · 05/01/2025 20:58

She's probably confused. Just tell her the truth.

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 20:58

Honestly I'd just tell her exactly what happened , she will understand if she is a decent person.
I remember having to go into nursery to look at my daughter work . I remember (like it was yesterday ) her having a tantrum and lifting up the back of my Gypsy skirt , I was so upset and embarrassed I told my DP about it as soon as I got home as I was worried people had seen 👎🫣😳 it was fine , no one said anything or laughed when I was about . But yeah I can understand that mortified feeling .

Joelle84 · 05/01/2025 20:56

😂

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 05/01/2025 20:54

I totally agree. Take a bottle of wine over, come clean and have a laugh about it together … “Bloody hell Wilma, I’m so embarrassed about last night. Of course I don’t want you to take the stuff to the charity shop for me, I just opened my mouth and those were the words that fell out. Your new bloke seems nice though!”

Flipslop · 05/01/2025 20:54

Sorry you’re beating yourself up over this but it’s really made me giggle as it’s the type of thing I’d do myself. Put your brave pants on and go and see her and tell her you’re mortified, you already said she was laughing at the time, you didn’t do anything nasty, go and clear the air, I can guarantee you’ll be relieved and realise you’re totally overthinking this x

OtterlyMad · 05/01/2025 20:53

Oh god I’m mortified for you! 😂 I think on this occasion, the truth is less strange than your cover story, so I would go round with a bottle of wine or box of chocolates and just explain what happened - try to make light of it!

Journeyintomelody · 05/01/2025 20:53

I agree with the PPs. Tell her, it's funny and innocent.

RaininSummer · 05/01/2025 20:51

That's hilarious. I actually agree that you should speak to her. Just knock on the door and apologise and tell her the actual truth that you were looking for innocent reasons and then panicked and something mad.

Pillarsofsalt · 05/01/2025 20:51

Haha this is so funny. I agree just tell her exactly what happened and have a laugh over it. Poor you 😂

kaos2 · 05/01/2025 20:49

Go and see her and tell her the truth .. I'm sure she will see the funny side of it .!