Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Think ive upset my neighbour

186 replies

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

OP posts:
Rosesanddaffs · 05/01/2025 21:33

@KazMeddy 😂🤣 how funny! You’ve really made me laugh xx

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:32

You can do it OP we are all behind you ✌️ 🤣

Cornecopia · 05/01/2025 21:30

Omg this is sooooo funny. Tell her the truth she will laugh

TwigletsAndRadishes · 05/01/2025 21:29

That made me burst out laughing. 😂It's like a scene from a sitcom. I think you'll just have to knock on her door, explain and apologise. She's going to think you are a weirdo now anyway, so you've got nothing to lose.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 05/01/2025 21:26

I’m so sorry OP but this has made me laugh so much

OneZippyWasp · 05/01/2025 21:23

Lol. I would do what others have said and that is to go round with a bottle of wine or box of chocolates and tell her what you have told us.

PandaChopChop · 05/01/2025 21:23

That's one hell of a brain fart- you've absolutely just got to front it out otherwise she will think you are a right CF 😆
Get some wine in and tell her straight out that you panicked 😆😆😆

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 05/01/2025 21:16

This is the funniest thing ever!!! 🤣
Explain you were surprised and just said the first thing that came to mind.

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:15

I wish I had of been drunk . It would have made it bearable 🤣 but nope just a naughty little 3 year old . She was terrible . So glad she outgrew this stage lol

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 05/01/2025 21:11

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:08

3 years old lol 😂

I genuinely pictured the whole thing as you with your 30 year old daughter, which would have been a completely different type of party bus, and therefore envisaged you and her both a bit pissed, her running off and you falling drunkenly on your arse 😅

Fleurdalys · 05/01/2025 21:10

Sorry
You are going to have to move house
Like tomorrow 🤣

comedycentral · 05/01/2025 21:10

Oh my goodness. You just have to tell her! Otherwise you look crackers.

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:08

3 years old lol 😂

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:07

Bless you Op. my daughter caused me no end of embarrassment over the years 🤣 took her to a party bus party at about 30years old . After we had left she had decided to run off , I ran after her on wet muddy grass , I fell into a massive muddy puddle in front of a little group of teens . I phoned my sister in tears . I was cold , wet and muddy and had to walk home like it .

OverthinkingOlive · 05/01/2025 21:07

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ioveelephants · 05/01/2025 21:06

Omg this is the funniest post I've read in ages 😂😂😂 love it!

XWKD · 05/01/2025 21:06

Just explain the situation to her.

Circumferences · 05/01/2025 21:06

Why the fuck did you say that 🤣😆
That's one hell of a brain fart.

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 05/01/2025 21:05

Flipslop · 05/01/2025 21:03

I’d bet a huge amount that she’s had a good laugh about this. It’s a good way to get to know each other. If i was the neighbour id think you were funny and sweet tbf

On the contrary, I bet she's fuming!

She'll be calling the OP all sorts of cheeky fucker names I imagine.

Let's just hope she's not a Mumsnetter, although I'm going to keep my eye out for the thread Wink

PennyApril54 · 05/01/2025 21:05

kaos2 · 05/01/2025 20:49

Go and see her and tell her the truth .. I'm sure she will see the funny side of it .!

Definitely this. You can have a good laugh about this with her by the sounds of it.

RisingSunn · 05/01/2025 21:03

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 21:00

Thanks everyone, I do need to clear the air I know but I barely know her, which just makes the whole “will you do me a favour” thing even worse

Oh no 😂 😂

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 05/01/2025 21:03

It's not often I say this on Mumsnet but you're definitely not overthinking it!

I'd be beyond mortified too lol.

Flipslop · 05/01/2025 21:03

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 21:00

Thanks everyone, I do need to clear the air I know but I barely know her, which just makes the whole “will you do me a favour” thing even worse

I’d bet a huge amount that she’s had a good laugh about this. It’s a good way to get to know each other. If i was the neighbour id think you were funny and sweet tbf

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 21:00

Thanks everyone, I do need to clear the air I know but I barely know her, which just makes the whole “will you do me a favour” thing even worse

OP posts:
HolyStyleFailBatman · 05/01/2025 21:00

Oh Lordy. Exactly the kind of thing I would do. Go and explain what happened, have a good laugh about it. It might turn out to be a bonding experience.