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Think ive upset my neighbour

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KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

OP posts:
MooFroo · 05/01/2025 22:50

@KazMeddy thanks for the laffs 🤣🤣

are you of an age where you can blame the menopause?!

Avatartar · 05/01/2025 22:43

She may not answer when you go round, thinking you’re reminding her about the charity shop run, so have a card ready to write and put through the letter box if she’s avoiding you. Yes to bottle of wine/ chocs too

RosannaSpider · 05/01/2025 22:42

Like a comedy sketch 😂

artohmyletmehelp · 05/01/2025 22:36

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

Over thinking....quite funny lol, bless...just a rabbit in the headlights thing....

Yahoodotcom · 05/01/2025 22:36

I laughed so much at your post OP,l 🤣🤣. The kind of thing that would happen in a sit-com 😂. I agree with pp's, pop round and tell her the truth.You sound lovely

ReginaPhalange92 · 05/01/2025 22:30

This is the best thing I've read in ages, absolutely hilarious! I can imagine Pamela from Gavin and Stacey doing something like this 😂
Just go round and tell her the truth. Or if you have her number send her a text in case you interrupt her again.

Namerequired · 05/01/2025 22:30

This has given me such a giggle! Definitely go round and explain yourself lol. It might end up in a great friendship. Mortifying, yes probably! But sure we all have those times. Definitely talk to her

Bethany83 · 05/01/2025 22:27

This is THE funniest thing I have read on here and you have really cheered me up, thank you O.P!
I would literally just tell her the truth/show her this thread. The fact that she agreed that she would take the bags to the charity shop sounds like she is a pretty nice person so would understand and even feel the funny side.
Thank you again. I can't stop laughing. I don't mean that in a horrible way. I truly don't think you need to worry. You weren't horrible and that's what's important here. I have said random things like that before in certain situations, we all have so Def don't worry.

TwinklyNight · 05/01/2025 22:24

I laughed so much at this op!😂I'd go over and apologuise, tell her you dont do well with under pressure.
Especially when you asked if you should bring them over now...😂

Flipslop · 05/01/2025 22:19

Tiredofallthis101 · 05/01/2025 22:02

This has honestly made my day- brilliant. Sorry OP. In all seriousness I'd just write a letter explaining the situation, that you thought there was an intruder but it turned out you were the one intruding. Then you had foot in mouth and looked mad. Apologies! No expectation to take bags to the charity shop at all. And perhaps throw in a box of chocolates for good measure, noting they are a bribe to induce her to forget your slip of the tongue and start again!

I’d think she was even more weird to follow up with a letter rather than popping round sorry 😂😂

EdithBond · 05/01/2025 22:17

If you didn’t know her that well before, you do now haha!

If it helps, we’ve all been there saying stupid things.

I’d knock her door, ask if you could have a quick word and explain what happened. Hopefully, it’s the start of a wonderful neighbourly friendship and you’ll both laugh about it in years to come.

mumandmumber · 05/01/2025 22:16

Totally agree you should just tell her. Have you got her number? Can you text her to explain and make a joke out of it all?
“Hey Claire, omg I am so mortified, please ignore what I said about the charity shop! (And then tell the story?)”
I’m sure she’ll see the funny side and just appreciate that you were keeping an eye on her property.

hopes2409 · 05/01/2025 22:12

Totaleclipseofthemind · 05/01/2025 21:40

Upsetting a neighbour with a tacky hot tub in their garden is impossible. Stop worrying. I am sure the random man got his full hot tub service too 🤢

Edited

Someone obviously isn't getting any 🤣🤣

CaptainBeanThief · 05/01/2025 22:09

I think you need to find the cheapest plane tickets and emigrate to a land far, far away 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Topsyturvy78 · 05/01/2025 22:07

Aww that's just cheered me up. 😆

I was feeling sad watching the documentary about the London bomb.😭😔

Sidebeforeself · 05/01/2025 22:03

God no not a letter!

Tiredofallthis101 · 05/01/2025 22:02

This has honestly made my day- brilliant. Sorry OP. In all seriousness I'd just write a letter explaining the situation, that you thought there was an intruder but it turned out you were the one intruding. Then you had foot in mouth and looked mad. Apologies! No expectation to take bags to the charity shop at all. And perhaps throw in a box of chocolates for good measure, noting they are a bribe to induce her to forget your slip of the tongue and start again!

Workhardcryharder · 05/01/2025 22:02

Loved all of this 😂

AUDHD · 05/01/2025 22:01

You need to tell her OP

ScruffMuffin · 05/01/2025 22:00

I'd also get in there sharpish, like tomorrow. If you leave it any longer, you run the risk of her knocking on the door asking about the charity shop bags, at a time when you're unprepared and at risk of blurting out something else memorable! 😂

EmmaMaria · 05/01/2025 21:58

kaos2 · 05/01/2025 20:49

Go and see her and tell her the truth .. I'm sure she will see the funny side of it .!

This. It's a story to dine out on!

PoisonRain · 05/01/2025 21:56

Bahahaha, genuinely laughing here. She 100% thinks you're a batshit CF 🤣

Just pop round (when it's convenient!) and tell her the truth. "God I'm so sorry about the other night, I heard strange noises and peeped over the fence. Faced with you and a bloke in the hot tub I panicked and said the first thing that came into my head. You really don't have to take my charity bags."

Then leg it.

ttcat37 · 05/01/2025 21:55

No this is both mortifying and hilarious in equal measure. You have to go around and apologise/ explain. Take a packet of biscuits and hope she invites you in for a cuppa and a good laugh. It was harmless and will be hilarious to you as well one day so don’t lose sleep over it!

Sazzerss · 05/01/2025 21:55

Bearbookagainandagain · 05/01/2025 21:52

I agree that you have to tell her, the truth is so much better in this case!
Maybe bring a box of chocolate or something.

Definitely this.
😁

BeAzureAnt · 05/01/2025 21:54

Oh, OP, just go over and explain. Your neighbour was amused and bemused. I doubt she is angry whatsoever.