Think ive upset my neighbour

No, definitely do not mention the man! She'll think op was having a bit of a peeping tom moment! 😂

I think this is one of those situations that you have to 'own'. Just be completely honest (maybe leave out this thread though eh :)) she'll probably see the funny side and it may just bring you closer. You looked out for a neighbour and said stupid shit, it's fiiiine.

🤣😂That's given me a good laugh. Thanks, op. You should have just said, "Oh, sorry to disturb you, I heard a noise and was worried it was an intruder, then "I'll leave you to it, sorry again!" She may have thought you were getting at her about making too much noise in the hot tub, but better that, than asking her to take bags to the charity shop!! Or "Oh sorry, I didn't know you were there.I was looking to see if my friends cat was in your garden, because it's gone missing! I'll leave you to it!"
Hindsight is a great thing though, and you were caught off guard, as were they!
I think you need to tell her the truth, or it'll look CF-ish, and that you were infact intruder.

I really don't think it's that deep. Just tell her you thought there was someone creeping about🤣🤣 if you peeked over my fence, and then said that you thought there was a prowler, I would def laugh 🤣

Sounds like a movie start?

🤣🫣

This time next year this will be one of your dining out stories. For now do what everyone else says. Apologise with wine, flowers etc.

This is so so funny. If you think you will trip over your words again, print this out, take a bottle of wine round like another poster said and ask her when she is taking your stuff to the charity shop😂.....kidding, I bet she finds it funny though. If she doesn't, you'll have to move 😂

OP please update us, have you contacted your neighbour? Or did you decide to emigrate instead?

Laughing too hard to type.

"Just wondered if you'd mind taking my charity bags to the shop..."

Oh bless you. Thank you, thank you, I so needed this today.

I am crying so much at this. Hilarious! Op please update us with what you did in the end. And be prepared when you go round that random man might be there again….

If you haven't already gone, take a bottle of wine 🍷 to lighten the apology.

This was just the laugh I needed today 😂

Oh god. Honestly I don’t think anything you could say would make this less awkward or weird. Why would you even look over the fence in the first place?!! Just avoid her in future and try and bury the shame. 😂

Just say what happened, I’m sure she will see the funny side of it, besides you were looking out for her in the first place..

Well, that's bizarre!

How well do you know them?

Why would our neighbour open our bin?
While we were away on holiday over Christmas we asked our neighbour to take our wheelie bin from our garden to the pavement and return it to our garden when collected by the bin men. But on the day that the bin was colllected I spotted on the door camera that our neighbour took a bag from our bin and took it into his garage. It was then returned to the wheelie bin in time for the actual collection. I feel sick that someone opened our bin and I won’t ever trust our neighbour again. Am I being unreasonable to feel completely disturbed by this? Am I being unreasonable that I feel violated that my neighbour has looked through all my discarded rubbish?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

😂😂😂

Yes I agree better to pop round but was thinking that 1) OP's post don't suggest she's comfortable doing that and 2) if I was the neighbour and saw it was her I might not answer the door as I'd think she wanted to drop off the charity shop bags :-D Perhaps as a PP suggested, knock but also have a letter/card to hand in case she doesn't answer.

None of this makes any sense to me. Why would you go and get a chair to look over the fence into your neighbour’s garden at night because you heard voices? Does two people in a hot tub If it had been burglars, do you think you’d have scared them off by waving a binbag at them? And why would you, when your neighbour caught you snooping, then ask her to do you a favour? Why would you recognise the man she was with if she’s single? I get that you were flustered by looking like a Peeping Tom, but do you have a history of saying things that make things far worse when caught off-guard?

Just tell her exactly what you have told us. I’m sure she will see the funny side!

😂😂 just tell her the truth, one way to break the ice op!

I’m just trying to imagine a neighbour that I didnt know well peering over my fence at night and asking me to take stuff to charity shop for her 😂😂 it’s so random and weird!

she probably thinks you’re a perv OP, please let us know if you go around to explain 😂

Wow, the weather was dreadful in my area last night, why would you be in a hot tub !!!!

Ah OP this is hilarious! You have to go round and tell her. Otherwise she’ll (a) think you’re a nutter, and (b) be worrying about having to take your stuff to a charity shop! I’m sure she’ll laugh, and it could be the start of a new friendship for you both!