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Think ive upset my neighbour

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KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

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dimension2025 · 22/10/2025 19:05

I know I wish for an update !

Axolotyls · 20/10/2025 20:43

OP hope you’re still here! I’ve just found this thread and wondered if you ever spoke to said neighbour again 😂😂😂 also, was the neighbour post on this thread real? One of you come back, so funny 😂

Umidontknow · 13/10/2025 21:18

😆😆

ParsonBrown · 12/01/2025 15:26

This is hilarious 😂

Darkstarrheart · 12/01/2025 14:56

Funniest thing I've ever read on here! 🤣

GillianCarole · 12/01/2025 09:00

All the more reason to go round - I'm sure you'll feel much better. We've all done things where we wanted to disappear into a hole!

CrayonCritic5 · 11/01/2025 16:04

SleeplikeababyTonight · 11/01/2025 12:16

@BettyBardMacDonald ahh sorry, I got this one mixed up with the neighbour Christmas card poster thread. A lot of disgruntled neighbours atm 😂

So yes, update please!!

Oh ok 😆

CrayonCritic5 · 11/01/2025 16:03

SleeplikeababyTonight · 11/01/2025 12:04

Op did give an update a little while ago. Click on her name to see all of her posts together.

Hmm i’m confused. I can’t see an update of any significance and you can’t click on a name unless I’m missing something.

SleeplikeababyTonight · 11/01/2025 12:16

@BettyBardMacDonald ahh sorry, I got this one mixed up with the neighbour Christmas card poster thread. A lot of disgruntled neighbours atm 😂

So yes, update please!!

BettyBardMacDonald · 11/01/2025 12:07

@SleeplikeababyTonight

Can you quote it, please? Because i only see two posts by OP, no updates. Thank you.

SleeplikeababyTonight · 11/01/2025 12:04

BettyBardMacDonald · 10/01/2025 21:36

Yes, we need an update, please!

Op did give an update a little while ago. Click on her name to see all of her posts together.

BettyBardMacDonald · 10/01/2025 21:36

CrayonCritic5 · 10/01/2025 20:22

Tell us what she said 🤣

Yes, we need an update, please!

CrayonCritic5 · 10/01/2025 20:22

Tell us what she said 🤣

bagginsatbagend · 09/01/2025 16:38

If you were my neighbour & explained what happened & it was just a brain fart we’d be laughing over a brew before you knew it. The real (even though you’re embarrassed) comes across so much better than weird neighbour interrupts hot tub sesh to ask a favour 🤣🤣 Oh bless you, this is totally something I’d end up doing & feeling mortified over

doormatrevolution · 08/01/2025 08:33
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Swiftie1878 · 08/01/2025 08:18

😂😂😂😂

So funny!

Just tell her what you’ve told us. Hopefully she’ll find it funny too. It could be the start of a beautiful friendship xx

SoInLuv · 07/01/2025 23:37

OtterlyMad · 05/01/2025 20:53

Oh god I’m mortified for you! 😂 I think on this occasion, the truth is less strange than your cover story, so I would go round with a bottle of wine or box of chocolates and just explain what happened - try to make light of it!

Perfect 👌🏼

Ellaelle · 07/01/2025 22:48

Shiningout · 07/01/2025 20:57

I think the neighbour is on here so no need for suggestions any more 🤣🤣 unless it was a joke

Are you serious? I need to go back and read the comment. Lol

Eta: nevermind just seen it lol

Ellaelle · 07/01/2025 22:46

Funniest thing I've read in a while. Read it four times and it still elicits laughter. We've all made some embarrassing gaffs at some point

Shiningout · 07/01/2025 20:57

I think the neighbour is on here so no need for suggestions any more 🤣🤣 unless it was a joke

Stink8 · 07/01/2025 20:31

Emmz1510 · 07/01/2025 19:59

Nope not overthinking, that’s definitely mortifying! I don’t know why it entered your mind to ask her to take your bags to the charity shop? Is this something she has done for you before or does she work in one or something? Cos that just seems so random!

If you can’t face speaking to her text her or put a note through her door saying something like

’so sorry for disturbing you the other day! I heard an unexpected noise and just wanted to check all was ok. I didn’t expect to see you and it threw me for a loop and I just said the first thing that came into my head. I’m so embarrassed and definitely do not need bags taking to the charity shop! Sincere apologies again xx’

Edited

Writing a note would be weird…. Just speak face to face.

Emmz1510 · 07/01/2025 19:59

Nope not overthinking, that’s definitely mortifying! I don’t know why it entered your mind to ask her to take your bags to the charity shop? Is this something she has done for you before or does she work in one or something? Cos that just seems so random!

If you can’t face speaking to her text her or put a note through her door saying something like

’so sorry for disturbing you the other day! I heard an unexpected noise and just wanted to check all was ok. I didn’t expect to see you and it threw me for a loop and I just said the first thing that came into my head. I’m so embarrassed and definitely do not need bags taking to the charity shop! Sincere apologies again xx’

Noodles1234 · 07/01/2025 19:51

Hilarious!
pop over, tell her the truth you’ll both be laughing and opening a bottle of wine!
move done the same thing but I was wearing my bad / holey pjs and the neighbour was in the garden and not a burglar, he was a little surprised!

Stink8 · 07/01/2025 19:43

Just go round tomorrow and talk to her…..I’m sure you’ll have laugh about it.

MyDeftDuck · 07/01/2025 19:39

kaos2 · 05/01/2025 20:49

Go and see her and tell her the truth .. I'm sure she will see the funny side of it .!

This.
There's an elephant in the room and you need to tell her that you heard a noise from her garden and that's why you were peering over the fence but was taken aback by what you saw.
I am sure she will see the funny side once you explain to her.