Name with 2 pronunciations

Both our sons have names which make sense both in the UK and in DH's ancestral home country, but the ways they are said are both different.
In DH's relatives' homes and country, they are always pronounced in that way, and it hadn't confused either DS that I've noticed, and it's nice to have a name which makes sense in both countries / cultures / religions. Both of them use the foreign way of saying it when speaking in that language and the English way otherwise.
I do think you might be making life more complicated for yourself (and for DD) in wanting to use the Italian pronunciation in the UK, though - if your DD appears and sounds (accent etc) to be a native English speaker, people are going to pronounce the name in the English way.

And they definitely don't rhyme with an Italian -a ending.

These can't rhyme in my accent because of the r at the end of builder

In Celtic Dorset, Gillingham is pronounced with a hard G. In Anglo-Saxon Kent, Gillingham is pronounced with a soft J. Gillian may be pronounced Jillian in some parts, but in Wales Gwil is hard. I would look at the name and ask, because I wouldn't know what sound your DD prefers from reading the name.

I think it depends where in the country you are how much of an issue it'll be; South East is most likely fine but less so elsewhere; 15-20% of the population were born overseas though, so kids these days are very accustomed to a range of names and pronunciations / and unexpected mispronunciations crop up regularly too. As someone with a name that can be pronounced 2 ways, other kids/ adults correcting randoms is just as annoying as errors though, so I'd suggest a different name.

My son's name is pronounced completely differently by my husband's non English family than it is by my English family.
We also call him Spiderman. He seems to understand all of them so Id just go with the name you like.

If you love the name, just correct people when they say it!

We've just had a baby girl - fairly common but we've had to correct people already as they automatically add an 'ia' at the end of it (when it's just 'e'!). So don't worry about having to correct things - I'd stick to the name you love and just remind people in the UK if they pronounce it wrong :) good luck!

I think if you are planning on staying here you are setting yourselves up for a lot of correcting.
My family is from Italy and all my children have Italian names but I discounted a lot because I didn't like the pronunciation here.

My name is Italian and I think pretty straight forward (female head of Versace) but my god does it confuse some people!

If you are just planning on staying here for a little while I would go for it.

Another think to think about is the English love a nickname. Do you like Gill and Gilly (which are often used as shortenings of Gillian) here?

I don't think it would be confusing, I know a lot of children with dual nationality whose name is pronounced differently in English and they got used to it very quickly. It's not confusing at all.

I wouldn't go with the name unless you're happy with both pronunciations though, particularly if you're planning to live in the UK.
Unfortunately we've had to exclude loads of names we liked for that reason.

My own name is foreign and not easy to pronounce for English people, I'm fine with the alternative and don't really care, but even if I wasn't I don't think it would be fair or healthy to correct everyone constantly.

It's one of those things that will depend on the child's temperament - some will be fine with either name, others find having others alter their name very frustration.

Surely if someone introduces themselves, you pronounce it by repeating what they said, rather than by how they spell it.

That should be how it's done; however, it's been very common for me to have people pronounced my name just fine until I spelt it or they saw it written down, then they instantly started using an anglicised pronunciation. For years I've had a pronunciation guide with my email signature and in any virtual meetings & still have issues. I've had people I've worked with for 4+ years, hear me introduce myself regularly to others, and still do it.

I don't think it will be confusing, and if you're happy with the way it sounds in both languages then it should be okay. The two aren't that different really. I think it would only really be a problem if you didn't like the other pronunciation.

Personally I think it's a lovely name in both English and Italian.

It really doesn't matter. Most names will be pronounced differently in different counties let alone countries.
My Dd is Hannah... you've thought Ha-na.... but DFIL was from Bristol... she was always Annur to him.

Exactly! Terrible and so lazy. He was so amazed that I could pronounce it!

It’s a beautiful name. Congratulations.

I more often go by a shortened version of my name too, though I don't get annoyed when the long version is mispronounced. Which is odd, because I'm normally really intolerant! 😁

I smiled when I read that, but it's not actually funny. I mean it takes seconds to learn how to pronounce a name properly, and that's not even a different pronunciation, it's like insisting on calling Sean and Seamus John and James because you can only be arsed to remember the English version!

That's hard. Not soft

I have a French name with three different pronunciations, it is annoying when people constantly get it wrong, so I more often just go by a shortened version of it nowadays. It just became too much hassle correcting people and most of them still mispronounced it afterwards🙄

I am a two-culture and two-pronunciation child too and it’s never been a problem to be, for example, John in English and in Swedish have it pronounced ”Yon”. I wouldn’t worry!

Gilda as in rhymes with builder.

You can pronounce my name two different ways, although I’ve probably heard about 8 different ways 😂
Doesn’t bother me! It actually makes it a very international name
too. Gilda’s lovely

That's a hard G.

In England we would pronounce it with a soft G as in other names such as Gaynor, Gary etc

Very likely. This boy told me his previous teacher called him John for ease!