I have a 4 month old who has never been a great sleeper and is just getting worse actually. God I get so much judgment.
Friends are getting annoyed at me not coming out for coffees or dinners more often. I can manage 1 or 2 socials a week but not more. I'm bone crushingly tired and breastfeeding, I don't want to do my makeup, drink alcohol and stay out late. It's been 4 months, I'm not exactly missing out. I'm mid 30s but none of my friends have babies yet, they have no clue.
Family keeps asking every day how did baby sleep last night. I keep getting told stories about x and y whose baby slept 12 hours from 12 weeks. They have so much garbage advice. I'm at fault apparently because I am with him too much. Where the fuck am I going to go???
My mum thinks I'm too affectionate with the baby. Apparently I kiss him and hug him too much. OK.
None of these wonderful relatives have held him for more than 2 minutes or babysat even once. The last time any of them spent more than an hour with a baby was 35 years ago but that somehow makes them experts.
I can deal with the sleep deprivation. But why does everyone insist on making me feel shit about it????
And don't get me started on breastfeeding - my dad recently said "you'd better not be breastfeeding after 6 months, he doesn't need it anymore then".