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To ask dog owners to keep there dogs away from my my children?

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SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 09:33

I don't dislike dogs what I dislike is dog owners who think there dogs are more important than my children. You dog might be friendly but I'm not willing to test your theory on my babies.
Your dog should never be closer to me/my family than it is you? If your dogs recall isn't good it shouldn't be off lead when other people are around!

OP posts:
Sasskitty · 07/01/2025 14:03

Peoples children and peoples dogs - feelings run high ..

pumpkinpillow · 07/01/2025 14:01

This thread has turned really nasty.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 13:48

Moglet4 · 07/01/2025 13:12

It would be very interesting to compare how many little old ladies get knocked over by scooters versus how many dogs run at random people - I think we know which is the winner by a long, long way. Of course scooting in a supermarket is unacceptable behaviour - but it’s rare - unacceptable canine behaviour is rife as are the injuries caused by them.

I don’t dispute that (and in any case, it being rarer doesn’t mean that I’m wrong in saying that both parents and dog owners need to be considerate).

I was simply responding to the person who said that children being out of control can never cause life-changing injuries to other people, which is untrue.

henlake7 · 07/01/2025 13:39

I have had my chihuahua picked up and cuddled by random kids many times over the years.
Also one one occasion my chi x dachshund (a mix of 2 of the most likely to bite breeds) was scooped up by a man and put in a pram alongside his baby!
We'd never met before and both my dog and I had equal 'WTF!' expressions. Thankfully for all involved both my dogs were soft as shit and loved kids.

Equally Ive had my dogs terrorised by off lead dogs owned by twats who thought that the entire world and everything in it was just there for the entertainment of them and their dog.

In other words there are morons everywhere....

Sasskitty · 07/01/2025 13:18

Child owners - please keep your grotty little child/ren away from my gorgeous dog. Thank you.

Moglet4 · 07/01/2025 13:12

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 10:55

Tell that to the elderly person who gets knocked over by the kid scootering in the supermarket. A childhood friend's grandmother went into hospital with a pelvic fracture after being knocked over in those circumstances, completely lost her confidence, and had to be admitted to a home after discharge.

Everyone needs to be considerate, frankly, and that goes for parents and dog owners.

It would be very interesting to compare how many little old ladies get knocked over by scooters versus how many dogs run at random people - I think we know which is the winner by a long, long way. Of course scooting in a supermarket is unacceptable behaviour - but it’s rare - unacceptable canine behaviour is rife as are the injuries caused by them.

Mandoidi · 07/01/2025 13:01

Blades2 · 07/01/2025 10:11

My dog is more important than you and your family. She’s mine, I don’t know you or your kids.
once your kids have the same recall and have manners to ask to pet my dog before grabbing at her with sticky kid paws I’ll have the same respect.

My flu is receeding but I'm still stuck in bed so I'm back on this thread.

Can I ask everyone making this kind of point (I just chose this one post, sorry!)

...regarding the 'my dog is more important than you or your child' type arguments- in what regard is it that the dog is more important than the child?

i.e. is it more important that my dog can run around wherever it likes than having to be tethered/under strict verbal control?

Or
My dog hates wearing a lead so his personal wishes are more important to be upheld?

Or
My dog gets really upset when asked to heel because he knows he's a good boy and he finds it really patronising so I would rather not ask him to?

I'm just struggling to see what it is in the context of this discussion (please keep dogs under control/away from children- and do not allow them to approach) that can possibly mean that the dog is more important.

I've taken on board the 'don't let kids approach dogs' argument and put that to one side, because:

  1. I agree and have made that point already, as have many others
  2. It's just a different point to the one raised by OP and therefore isn't a direct argument to what is being discussed.

But I want to make it clear that in the case of a kid approaching a dog, I can understand the dog becoming more important, just that's not what we are discussing here.

Mydogisamassivetwat · 07/01/2025 12:33

Mere1 · 07/01/2025 12:31

You are required by law to keep your dog under control.

I wish it was law to keep children under control too.

(Yes, I have children).

Mere1 · 07/01/2025 12:31

Blades2 · 07/01/2025 10:11

My dog is more important than you and your family. She’s mine, I don’t know you or your kids.
once your kids have the same recall and have manners to ask to pet my dog before grabbing at her with sticky kid paws I’ll have the same respect.

You are required by law to keep your dog under control.

Lovedogwalking · 07/01/2025 11:37

Another dog owner here ( dalmatian so very exciteable and crazy) totally agree with you. Mine is reliable until something or someone exciting comes along so he's mostly on the lead.

There has been a surge of new and inexperienced dog owners due to lockdown, and the upsurge in rescues from overseas with hard to handle dogs being sent to inexperienced families.

I keep my dog away from children and dogs, because I am trying to encourage calm behaviour. He's very friendly and good natured but every single dog is unpredictable, so it's not worth the risk.

I agree, it annoys me when other owners have dogs off lead, who come running up, shouting "its ok he/she is friendly", that might be the case but its hard for me to then contain a large breed dog who is tempted to play.

so YANBU, it's an issue I struggle with too, in a different way

fitzwilliamdarcy · 07/01/2025 10:55

Sally20099 · 07/01/2025 09:00

and here we have the problem which causes all the issues… no child is going to suddenly cause life threatening or life changing injuries to you or your family or your dog.

Tell that to the elderly person who gets knocked over by the kid scootering in the supermarket. A childhood friend's grandmother went into hospital with a pelvic fracture after being knocked over in those circumstances, completely lost her confidence, and had to be admitted to a home after discharge.

Everyone needs to be considerate, frankly, and that goes for parents and dog owners.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 07/01/2025 10:38

loveawineloveacrisp · 05/01/2025 09:42

Oh good, another dog bashing thread.

Dog owners I think (irresponsible ones)

MarvellousMonsters · 07/01/2025 10:30

No recall, no offlead. Anyone who just shouts "it's ok s/he's friendly!" needs a poke in the eye, and I say this as a dog owner.

Brooomhilda · 07/01/2025 10:21

I have the oppose problem! I have a tiny chihuahua and the number of times young, unsupervised children have come up and tried to touch him and pick him up is awful. Poor little guy is terrified of kids now and starts shaking once they're near :(

Alina3 · 07/01/2025 10:20

YANBU

I can't bear when people let their dogs near me, let alone my child. I'm not taking the risk. When they say 'oh don't worry, he's friendly!' I just say 'I don't care, get him away from us'

It's the arrogance of presuming someone wants a dog touching them that gets me. No concern whatsoever about people who have allergies, or phobias. I've even had a muddy dog run up to me and put their paws on my clothes, leaving mud, and the owners not apologise.

dynamiccactus · 07/01/2025 10:19

Some parents and children think all dogs are friendly. Not all dogs are friendly

Some owners do as well. Even though their pet clearly isn't.

dynamiccactus · 07/01/2025 10:18

Blades2 · 07/01/2025 10:11

My dog is more important than you and your family. She’s mine, I don’t know you or your kids.
once your kids have the same recall and have manners to ask to pet my dog before grabbing at her with sticky kid paws I’ll have the same respect.

What a stupid comment.

No small child has injured or killed anyone. Plenty of dogs do, it costs the NHS a huge amount treating dog bites and other injuries caused by dogs, including indirect ones like causing someone to fall off their bikes.

dynamiccactus · 07/01/2025 10:16

BeMellowOchreZebra · 05/01/2025 09:38

100%

Not sure how anyone can vote YABU for this as if your dog can't manage recall then they need to be on a lead in public!!

Anyone who disagrees with this shouldn't own dogs.

Completely agree.

Went out for a walk yesterday and encountered five off-lead dogs in the space of a minute (not all with the same owner/dog walker). Most of them ignored me but of course there is always one that doesn't.

Unless you know that your dog will ignore other people (and dogs for that matter) you keep it on a short lead at all times.

Blades2 · 07/01/2025 10:11

My dog is more important than you and your family. She’s mine, I don’t know you or your kids.
once your kids have the same recall and have manners to ask to pet my dog before grabbing at her with sticky kid paws I’ll have the same respect.

Sally20099 · 07/01/2025 09:00

BrightLightTonight · 05/01/2025 09:44

As long as your child has a similar recall! Many a time, I have had to ask the parent to stop their child hurting my dog.

Edited

and here we have the problem which causes all the issues… no child is going to suddenly cause life threatening or life changing injuries to you or your family or your dog.

Wingingit247 · 07/01/2025 08:39

BogRollBOGOF · 05/01/2025 09:45

No, just another irresponsible owners thread. There's a lot of them because there's a lot of feckless owners with ill-trained dogs ruining public spaces for everyone else including children and the sensible dog owners.

This absolutely. People are becoming much less tolerant of dogs because so many are owned by entitled irresponsible idiots.

YeOldeGreyhound · 07/01/2025 00:14

Talkingfrog · 07/01/2025 00:10

Agree with that too.

Some parents and children think all dogs are friendly. Not all dogs are friendly.

Some dogs may be friendly, but frightened by someone getting to close and touching them when they are not expecting it. ( let's face it we wouldn't be happy if a stranger just walked up and gave us a hug, or patted us on the head without warning, do why should a dog be).

Most parents urge their kid to ask permission when they approach my dog. My dog is not the usual cute breed though (as per my username).
I know people with small fluffy breeds, and chihuahuas . They have kids approach all the time, and get pretty pissed off with it too. I know a lady who has a chi who would take your face off if you went near them.

Talkingfrog · 07/01/2025 00:10

GrannyRose15 · 07/01/2025 00:03

Do you know? I feel exactly the same but in reverse. I wish parents would keep their children away from my dog.

Agree with that too.

Some parents and children think all dogs are friendly. Not all dogs are friendly.

Some dogs may be friendly, but frightened by someone getting to close and touching them when they are not expecting it. ( let's face it we wouldn't be happy if a stranger just walked up and gave us a hug, or patted us on the head without warning, do why should a dog be).

Talkingfrog · 07/01/2025 00:06

loveawineloveacrisp · 05/01/2025 09:42

Oh good, another dog bashing thread.

I don't see it as dog bashing. Not the fogs fault, the owner is the one that should be in control, and so therefore making the decisions.

GrannyRose15 · 07/01/2025 00:03

Do you know? I feel exactly the same but in reverse. I wish parents would keep their children away from my dog.

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