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To ask dog owners to keep there dogs away from my my children?

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SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 09:33

I don't dislike dogs what I dislike is dog owners who think there dogs are more important than my children. You dog might be friendly but I'm not willing to test your theory on my babies.
Your dog should never be closer to me/my family than it is you? If your dogs recall isn't good it shouldn't be off lead when other people are around!

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SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 10:59

Quirrelsotherface · 05/01/2025 10:32

my previous response was —slightly— tongue in cheek.
i absolutely agree with you. I’ve got DC and a Ddog. We got him after the children and I only now get, in my 40- something year, how dogs are like family members. I love mine to bits.
however he has good recall and is not a bit bothered by anyone else’s kids as he has 3 of those at home and he doesn’t care for anyone else’s.
if any other dog jumps at my kids I immediately say something to the owner and it’ll get a kick if it doesn’t move.

likewise I cannot stand precious parents who believe that their DC are the first to be born on the planet, ever. Get over yourselves.

I completely agree this is my point if your dog is close enough to my children and not you for me to kick I should be able to. Like wise if your dog is next to you and my children are close to you/your dog you can kick them.
I would honestly be happy for this to be ok!!
Children shouldnt bother dogs and visa versa. This would be the case if dogs are on leads and or have good recall!!

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AlmosttimeforChristmas · 05/01/2025 10:56

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/01/2025 10:39

Yanbu

Dogs should be kept under control and on leads. I'd like to fines enforced. There are too many totally irresponsible owners.

I agree with this too! Especially in busy parks

TheWonderhorse · 05/01/2025 10:55

So people are advocating kicking dogs on here now? Is that where we are? Not only is that awful but also it's dangerous, and absolutely terrible behaviour to teach your kids. The bad dogs might well fight back and you're lucky they didn't, because in my view you've started the aggression there, not the dog.

We have a dog who is pretty good at recall but now and again has been known to lose it (he's part beagle and thinks with his nose). We walk him on the quiet beach near us and keep him on a lead if there are other people around. Mostly because so many people are terrified of dogs these days, he wouldn't jump at anyone but might be persuaded to pay attention to a screaming person.

We don't have a problem with other dogs or other people, my children know to ask before approaching but also know the difference between a dog who wants to play and a dog that doesn't. Most people ask before approaching our dog and even if they don't he's very used to children and isn't bothered by contact. To the children that approach without asking, I tell them he's fine to pet, but other dogs are not so it's best to ask first.

nellythe · 05/01/2025 10:55

SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 10:49

All those dogs mauled my babies unbelievable. I've never heard of a baby attack correct me if I'm wrong!

I would think a proportion of attacks could be prevented if children were better behaved around/didn’t approach strange dogs.

SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 10:54

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 05/01/2025 09:46

My dog is never off the lead around other people.

However, because she is tiny and looks like a puppy I do have to suffer small kids running up wanting to cuddle her. She has never shown aggression to anyone, ever, but there is always a first time. And I have no idea how she would react if spooked. She is fully under my control at all times in public. But I suspect I would still be held responsible of a child ran over, spooked her and she reacted.

So in the same light I'd appreciate it if parents controlled their kids as much as they want dog owners to control their dogs...so how would you feel if I said that to you when your kids come running over to me?

Edited

My point being my children should be closer to me as their dog should be closer to them.

I still think this is saying that dogs have the same rights as humans and I don't think they should.

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AlmosttimeforChristmas · 05/01/2025 10:52

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 05/01/2025 09:46

My dog is never off the lead around other people.

However, because she is tiny and looks like a puppy I do have to suffer small kids running up wanting to cuddle her. She has never shown aggression to anyone, ever, but there is always a first time. And I have no idea how she would react if spooked. She is fully under my control at all times in public. But I suspect I would still be held responsible of a child ran over, spooked her and she reacted.

So in the same light I'd appreciate it if parents controlled their kids as much as they want dog owners to control their dogs...so how would you feel if I said that to you when your kids come running over to me?

Edited

Completely agree with this. I don’t have dogs and always teach my children that they shouldn’t approach ay dog they don’t know and always need to ask the owner first.

Moglet4 · 05/01/2025 10:52

SometimesCalmPerson · 05/01/2025 09:58

I don’t have a dog anymore but when I did it was a small one capable of doing very little damage and never did. I wouldn’t stop a dog from having a run it needs just because a few people don’t like dogs.

Parents need to teach their children not to approach dogs, and how to say hello if they have the owner’s permission.

Pets are a part of normal family life in the UK and there is plenty of space for both dogs and children.

That is extremely selfish. There’s nothing wrong with a dog running but the second it approaches a stranger, child or otherwise, and jumps at them, sticks its nose up their crotch, barks at them or sniffs at their feet then it needs to be called back.

BogRollBOGOF · 05/01/2025 10:51

From the government website. Just in case there are any owners that need reminding anout the definition of control.

I don't hate dogs. I like well-trained dogs with responsible owners.
And when an owner has responded to my presence by recalling their dog, standing aside or distracting, I thank them. I appreciate the work they put into it.

To ask dog owners to keep there dogs away from my my children?
To ask dog owners to keep there dogs away from my my children?
Bubblesgun · 05/01/2025 10:50

100% agree with you.

could I ask that you keep your kids/babies away from me? If your child(en) cant listen dont take him/them to a restaurant.

sitting in a restaurant booth 2 days ago and the kid behind us keep standing up looking on our side and wanted to talk to us. The parents found it adorable. I didnt and so did my teens with whom we wanted to spend quality time.

thank you

SparklyPeachMama · 05/01/2025 10:49

BrightLightTonight · 05/01/2025 09:44

As long as your child has a similar recall! Many a time, I have had to ask the parent to stop their child hurting my dog.

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All those dogs mauled my babies unbelievable. I've never heard of a baby attack correct me if I'm wrong!

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Muffinmissedhernap · 05/01/2025 10:45

And the dog that came over from a neighbouring table at a cafe yesterday. To watch every bite my 3 year old took. Owners werent too happy when I suggested they move the dog away.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 05/01/2025 10:45

RocketPanda · 05/01/2025 09:58

I love dogs and foster rescue dogs and I agree that dogs with poor recall should not be off lead. Unfortunately lockdown lead to lots of people getting pups and not training or socialising them and just kind of expecting them to know how to behave. I've also found that if a person encounters a poor recall dog they tend to flap about and try and kick or hurt the dog and thus their children do the same.

I've also found that if a person encounters a poor recall dog they tend to flap about and try and kick or hurt the dog and thus their children do the same.

Last year, a dog jumped on my 2 year old niece and knocked her down. My niece was doing nothing wrong, just running in a park. Damn right I kicked that dog to get it away from her. The owner tried to say something about that but they caused the situation and could deal with the consequences.

I would never usually do something like that and wouldn't allow the children to either. That situation was extraordinary circumstances and my priority was her safety.

pumpkinpillow · 05/01/2025 10:45

Chatting to a friend in town and her great lab (on a lead by her side) jumped up on me. I'm not afraid, but I do look after my new jacket that I spent over £100 on.
Likewise dogs jumped on my Sweaty Betty leggings. It makes me cross when dogs damage my clothes.

MummytoE · 05/01/2025 10:45

SometimesCalmPerson · 05/01/2025 09:58

I don’t have a dog anymore but when I did it was a small one capable of doing very little damage and never did. I wouldn’t stop a dog from having a run it needs just because a few people don’t like dogs.

Parents need to teach their children not to approach dogs, and how to say hello if they have the owner’s permission.

Pets are a part of normal family life in the UK and there is plenty of space for both dogs and children.

Selfish

BogRollBOGOF · 05/01/2025 10:42

I've never had children run up to me, jump up and smearing me with mud or scratching me while I've been out running. The same can't be said for dogs.

DS1 doesn't need teaching about not approaching dogs. He wants to avoid dogs having been scared at a young age from raided picnics, noses getting into his face in the push chair and being bowled over. As a teenager being bigger than dogs, he's now calmed to standing still until the uninvited dog buggers off. As a younger child, it was bloody hard trying to coach him to calm his reaction with the dog fussing and the owner (if present) trilling the inevitable "it's OK! He's friendly!" DS very clearly was not friendly with dogs. I've come to the conclusion that this type of owner is shit at training because they can't even recognise basic emotions in their own species.

DS2 wants to like dogs but is nervous after the picnics/ bowling over etc. If a dog is calm, he does manage to ask owners before approaching, but he's still easily startled by dogs bolting around.

My children have never jumped up at random people walking around in public, or stolen their food.

A couple of months ago I pointed out to an owner that he was breaking the law when his barking dog terrified a woman onto a bench. He was slow to recall the dog and then didn't bother to use the lead around his neck. He grudgingly decided to humour me after I pointed out that the dog was meeting the legal definition of being out of control and put the dog on the lead for a minute to shut me up and distracting him from his headphones. Naturally the dog was off-lead when I saw him a few minutes later.

Over the years I've had owners tell me that I'm scaring their dog that jumped up at me 3x because I've told it to get down, and blame me for taking my child to a public nature reserve "dog walking woods" when their dog jumped up and winded my child making him cry. Plus the ones oblivious to jumping and scratching or grazing me with their teeth. And that's just the owners in sight.

I've never had these issues with random children!

Skiptogetfit · 05/01/2025 10:42

achangeofusername · 05/01/2025 09:49

If a dog's recall is good it doesn't matter if they get near you - they'll walk on by no problem. It's usually children who aren't trained properly - they'll stick their hands out to a dog they don't know or straight up start petting them when they walk by.I agree dogs should be trained to recall, but in my experience most are, or are worked on lead

But members of the public have no idea whether your dog has good recall, is cared for, is safe, or even whether the dog is with anyone a lot of the time. We cannot know the recall skills of a dog - and for that reason keep it well away from other members of the public. It’s totally unacceptable for you to assume a stranger knows it’s safe.

Muffinmissedhernap · 05/01/2025 10:42

My children have never gone up to dogs and they are now scared of them. We do have a family dog who they tolerate.

My toddler had 3 off lead dogs run up and jump at him last month when we were at the country park volunteering at parkrun. All with owners out of earshot. And my eldest was playing football in a park when a large retriever came over and pushed him away to get the ball. Apparently the dog can’t resist a ball. Yet is off lead in a village park with a cricket pitch and football pitch. I’ve had dogs in the past and there is definitely an increase in poor ownership.

RedHelenB · 05/01/2025 10:41

BrightLightTonight · 05/01/2025 09:44

As long as your child has a similar recall! Many a time, I have had to ask the parent to stop their child hurting my dog.

Edited

I've never ever seen a child hurt a dog when out and about. Plenty of dogs running up to children though.

ChillysWaterBottle · 05/01/2025 10:40

I'm a dog owner and I agree.

There are a lot of people who shouldn't have dogs. That includes those who dehumanise children or act like their dogs are equivalent.

Willyoujustbequiet · 05/01/2025 10:39

Yanbu

Dogs should be kept under control and on leads. I'd like to fines enforced. There are too many totally irresponsible owners.

Devilsmommy · 05/01/2025 10:37

AluckyEllie · 05/01/2025 09:58

I think it’s a small proportion of owners that are morons but as there are so many dogs now it seems much more prevalent. My child is so frightened of dogs now because two cocker spaniels ran up and jumped all over her, knocking her down. They were then running over her as she tried to get up, sobbing. The owners - ‘ oh don’t worry they are friendly, they just love small children.’ It happened so fast I couldn’t get her away and I had her baby brother in the sling. Absolute twats. Or the people that let their dogs run up to us smiling, as if everyone wants to pet them. Nope. Yes it’s cute but get it away from us.

Please tell me you kicked those dogs

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 05/01/2025 10:37

Yanbu. Dogs shouldn’t be going up to anyone.

I’m a dog owner.

Moglet4 · 05/01/2025 10:34

loveawineloveacrisp · 05/01/2025 09:42

Oh good, another dog bashing thread.

Apparently it’s necessary as the message doesn’t seem to be getting across to an awful lot of owners (apologies to those of you who are responsible)

EmmaMaria · 05/01/2025 10:34

BrightLightTonight · 05/01/2025 09:44

As long as your child has a similar recall! Many a time, I have had to ask the parent to stop their child hurting my dog.

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This. In the past week alone I have had to tell parents to stop their child stroking or playing with my service dog when he is working three times, and on every occasion I was told "they just want to stroke him/ it isn't causing any harm / he's lovely, what's his name" or some such rubbish. I have previously had a instances, for example, of a grandfather lovingly looking on as their child walks up to my dog and tries to hit him with a stick; of children "walking the dog" with a parent who does sod all as their dog drags their child over trying to attack mine.... the list goes on. It happens in both directions, and yes there are irresponsible dog owners I agree. There are just as many irresponsible parents, but somehow we don't have five threads a day about them.

Flowersfield · 05/01/2025 10:33

Nothing irritates me more than a dog owner shouting "oh he/shes harmless" as their dog is charging at you. I don't know that; keep them on a leash.

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