To think this Tesco worker was a bit OTT?

OR maybe you could be a bit more tolerant and understanding of ND?
The OP has not said that has she?
You have made that assumption based on your own feelings.
Nobody on here knows if the man is ND and was trying to give advice (regardless of the recipient’s gender) not understanding social ‘norms’, or is NT and being a sexist pig.

People have just offered another take on the ‘mansplaining’ theory.

The OP has every right to be annoyed at being spoken down to by a man on the assumption that woman have no clue about cars.

However, on the flip side, if the OP cannot tolerate a ND person offering a little friendly (and unhelpful) advice, then that says more about her.

No, a shop worker wouldn't do that to a customer.

Are you sure he wasn’t trying to chat you up. 🤣

Painful as it is (and I know will get flayed alive) but ND aside, some men really do think they are being helpful, even if it isn't needed.

@CurbsideProphet Essentially he is saying that even though he is not a mechanic

You don't know that. There was nothing in the original post to say that he isn't a mechanic.

This could be a Daily Mash sketch. I would have been silently thinking just f*off.🤣🤣🤣

Not really mansplaining just offering unasked for advice. After the first comment you could have just said "oh yes I know - not my first oil chamge." Or "yes that's right - i probably know more than you about oil." Whichever style you prefer. Then if he'd carried on you could say it's mansplaining (though in reality there's no way of knowing of he'd say the same to a man or not.)

The parents comment needed nothing more than to bd laughed after. No need to be flustered!!

I thought the same- he sounds autistic rather than purposefully mansplaining. Glad OP wasn’t rude to him as my sons autistic and like this

I saw your post and immediately wondered if it was an Audi. Might just be worth a touch of caution. I do hope that yours is fine.

I would have guessed Audi too. I used to just keep a bottle of oil in my boot for the inevitable light coming on.

I don't know what Tesco is like to work for, but they do seem a very disability aware employer, so I would like to think of a reason for this exchange other than just being an arsehole.

I’m not triggered, don’t worry. It’s just irrelevant to the OP’s feelings.

Maybe OP and others could learn about ND. It may help in not being upset by behaviour they don't understand. You may even grow to like ND people!

Nobody is saying that, why are you so triggered?

@Jezabelle85 same, my local Tesco is very ND positive so not unusual to encounter someone with autism there. Poor guy, he would have thought he was being helpful 😥 hopefully people don't complain about him, he likely is very proud of his job.

I take particular delight in using the kettle for this purpose as without fail you always get a help man telling you not to pour boiling water onto the windscreen! It's worth doing it just for the mansplaining. I do tend to use slightly warm water though, but maybe I just like living dangerously....

Textbook mansplaining

@Newfamilyhome - aside from the hilariously "helpful" Tesco guy (what a dick!) Is that actually right that you are not meant to put engine oil in a car and then drive it? I'm sure I've had to top mine up in the middle of a long journey (it also drinks oil) and it was fine? No one crashed, nothing exploded.

But I'm worried now...

Serious question

One unexpected frosty morning I'd run out of de-icer & didn't want to wait on the windscreen defrosting with the blowers so got the kettle purely for convenience of holding/pouring & chucked (cold) tap water over the windows - the bin man then proceeded to mansplain the effect using boiling water would have!

Pointed out to him that this wasn't my first time defrosting a car & I didn't need a random man to tell me what do because my 2 dads & 6 brothers made sure I was well equipped to maintain my car when I passed my test almost 30 years ago (& none of them spoke to me as if I was thick).

You encountered a professional mansplainer on coke

or just an arsehole. Who knows? Certainly not randoms on the Internet.

This is the first thing I thought too.

My local Tesco’s hires a lot of ND people and people with various disabilities and they often comment on my shopping or give me very obvious advice.

I just go along with them with a smile and they actually often brighten up my day.

Most people serving at supermarkets in London barely acknowledge your presence so it’s nice to have someone being chatty and friendly.

@Newfamilyhome

Not to be an unnecessary negative voice on this one, but we had an Audi which ‘was a bit thirsty’ on oil. Garage said it was fine etc, they’re just ‘thirsty’, well, turned out to be more than that. It became thirstier and thirstier, to the point of a litre every 500 miles. I always had a bottle in the boot.

It was a known Audi problem (which they admitted and paid out for in the US but not in the UK) and a complete engine rebuild. Which Audi tried to charge us for, but in the end they settled for 10% once we could prove every single oil top up had been the correct oil (we had to send receipts, luckily I had the stuff on regular order from Amazon and our mechanic and garage were very helpful too)

I saw your post and immediately wondered if it was an Audi. Might just be worth a touch of caution. I do hope that yours is fine.

Yup. Like being autistic invalidates anything the OP felt

Thanks N16!

could he be autistic? There’s a woman in my local Tesco who will come and tell people how to cook their food, it can be annoying and some people are really ratty to her. She is autistic so most people let her chat away happily

@PeppyGreenFinch no that is a fair comment and completely agree!