To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

I like this. I was set to drag some shit up and I’m not going to now.

Hugs to everyone who has shit parents.

I wish you had died when you were born, said many times by my mum when growing up

No, I'm not gonna go back to this shit I got from my emotionally abusive parents 30 years ago.

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Be strong for yourselves.

Really sad to hear all these anecdotes.
My mother does care but seems to struggle with parenthood generally. A few examples;

1. putting me on a diet aged 8 because she was worried I would ‘get bullied for being overweight’. I became anorexic briefly. I wasn’t particularly overweight.
2. telling me the reason for my siblings significant mental health problems was because ‘I demanded all the attention’. sibling was born when approx 3 and a half years after me so silly me wanting attention for those first few years! I then looked after them, had their back with bullies etc and cooked their tea when I was still primary age, so hardly a bad sister.
3. has rarely spent any birthdays/Xmas’s etc with my own DC. Has gone away every year bar one.
4. has told me to eff off on the phone when I was desperately asking for help and trying to explain DC’s issues. Can’t deal with any stress and takes it out on others.

My Mum called me a slut multiple times. I was so upset about it and confused. She once came into my bedroom and started picking up clothes from my floor and cups on my bedside table saying 'I'm not your slave, you need to change your ways - you're a bloody slut!'.

I was about 16yrs and I lost it with her and started shouting back - how does me having a messy bedroom got anything to do with sleeping around?! I'm still a virgin! Why are you saying I'm a slag?'

She was confused, I was confused. This was in the 90s.

Turns out that 'slut' for sleeping around had a changed definition. Bit like gay used to mean happy and changed to homosexual. Slut used to mean slovenly/untidy and changed to describe a woman who slept around and she genuinely didnt know that.

She was apologetic and said 'obviously I don't think you're a slag or a slut if that's what it means - I mean your bedroom is a bloody mess and you're very untidy'.

There was no easy access to the Internet to fact check that, so I was still upset about it for years. But turns out she was telling the truth - for her generation it just meant a messy/untidy woman.

Slut (woken up being hit by my mother because I came home late at 18!)
Slut and slapped round the face by my father,
I'm not surprised you haven't got any friends - when I was experiencing bullying at school - mother
Glad he's taken her off our hands (wedding speech). thanks dad

Absolutely nothing. If I had to pick something it would have to be "tidy your bedroom"

I should've sat on you at birth.

I should've just aborted you.

You're a slag (for going on a date when i was 17)

Fuck off and get out (just because she was in a mood) I was 15

The list is endless.

Men only want to fuck a slim body, Gepilli, so sort your weight out.

From my mother when I didn’t invite her to something: ‘You’re so selfish, maybe I had you too late’ (she was 37) and she told my brother that I should think myself lucky because she ‘could have had me adopted’.

My mother used to call me disgusting names all the time, "vindictive" "malicious" were 2 favourites. But when i was about 13 or 14, she said "you're not classically beautiful, you're not even pretty really, but you'll never have a problem getting men" I had no idea what she meant at the time, it always stuck with me and affected me. The following year, she threw me out the house and I never returned.

Goes without saying, I haven't had contact with her in many years and I've kept my children away from her.

To address those horrible comments and counteract them:

You're not a slut, you're a lovely respectable person

You're not a failure, there will be people in your life who will consider you their friend and I'm sure there are people who you care for too.

You are very relevant to those who matter in many ways and a full and complete person who is enough just as they are (with or without children we are all worthy, special and important)

Take care of yourself OP ❤️

When my mum told me I should have had my daughter adopted if all I wanted to do was go out

Hard to choose really. Strong contenders would be:

‘I love you because you’re my daughter but I often don’t like you’

Calling me a slut any time I was slightly untidy or messy

Telling me the whole family treads on eggshells around me and talks behind my back about how they have more fun when I’m not there

When I was sad not to have been invited to a party by my friends aged about 11, ‘It’s probably because you smell bad. People don’t like being friends with the smelly girl’. She had NEVER discussed personal hygeine with me before or told me I needed to wear deodorant before that point.

Calling me a dirty little slut when our dog stole a used sanitary pad out of my bedroom bin and chewed it up.

She would swear blind I had the happiest, most idyllic childhood 😂

near constant weight related comments in my teens and how i looked in clothes. I was super fit and super slim but very curvy. Gave me an absolute complex about food, the size of my arse and so on. I now understand these are her issues and i should ignore but the damage is done. She did however make one comment to my niece - I am still amazed that I didn’t make the 10 o’clock news with my reaction. Not on my watch.

Once you turn 18, you're not entitled to unconditional love from us.

I guess mine was pretty mild in comparison but it is etched in my memory. I am about 8 years old and washing the dishes. My dad (drunk) is standing over me shouting that I am, and I quote, "washing clean dishes with a dirty sponge" (yeah, didn't make sense to me even at that age) and that I am "dumb like a pawn". Yes, I am aware that he used the idiom incorrectly. I also stopped speaking to him at the age of 11 so, luckily, I grew up knowing that he was out of order and his comments are no reflection of me as a person. But the memory is still there...
My grandfather told me on my 13th birthday that he loved me even though I don't deserve it. It ruined our relationship and probably a lot of my romantic relationships as well. It was more unexpected seeing that he was absolutely wonderful to me throughout my childhood and up until that point. It was a lot more impactful to me than my father's drunk outbursts.

I feel the same way about my so called mother, I hope she dies alone with the realisation that all of her children hate her. She's a vile nasty bitch who spent years traumatising her children, I hate her.

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I'm sorry to all those who have had horrible comments, though there is some solidarity in knowing it happened to others as it's something that's not really talked about - I think a lot of people can't comprehend there are women who aren't naturally maternal (though somehow people accept that dad's can be shit!)

Mine were similar to some on here -
Never wanted you
Never wanted a girl
You ruined my figure
Your dad left because you came along and he changed his mind (often linked with 'and that's why we're poor')
No one will ever want to marry you (ultimate insult, as she held male attention as the ultimate aim in life)
You're boring/ugly/have bad teeth/have bad eyes just like your father
I don't like your name your dad chose it
You're weird if you don't want to fit in
'why do you always do this to me' - response to everything, from asking for dinner money, to arguing with siblings, or doing well in homework (the last one made her feel stupid apparently)
The best/worst one as you see fit, was telling me repeatedly when I was 14/15 that I needed to be less frigid and go to parties and sleep with boys otherwise no one would like me.

I left as soon as I could and never looked back. Didn't cut contact completely as knew it would cause a lot of stress for my siblings, but I did move a long distance so that it was easier to avoid her. She died bitter and angry, after pushing a lot of people away.

Oh God...where to start...

My mum to me age 12: "Get upstairs with your ugly face and your silly little hormones"....my mum to my 5 year old brother about me when I was 12: "Did you know she has a hairy fanny?" My mum to me age 14: " I should have aborted you" my mum to me age 14 "To think I always wanted a daughter and I got you"....

These are just a few....some are too dark and disturbing to share....she's better now, a "reformed character"....but my twin girls are 13 and I can't imagine treating them the way she treated me....a part of me will always hate her.