To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

Awful examples, difficult read. But you know what? My aunt and her husband were old first-time parents. They worshipped their daughter, literally, from birth. She was told 24/7 that she was the most beautiful, talented, amazing person requiring no improvement and that any person would be beyond lucky to be around her. She grew up into a fat slobby person convinced she was beautiful and even irresistible. Did not bother to study well at school - why, she was already amazing. Dropped out of uni, treated boyfriends like dirt, encouraged by her loving parents, as no man was good enough for her. Dropped her music lessons, dropped her horse-riding. Never heard a simple 'no' from her parents, and never heard a word of criticism from them either. She is a bewildered miserable person now, uncle died, lives with her mum. The other aunt had criticised, belittled and even slapped her 3 children into high achievers, well adjusted and happily married people. Strange thing, unconditional love, I think.

It has to be what my dad said to me on a regular basis.
I should have beat her until she lost you.

"If any of you are gay, you're disgusting and no longer part of this family" (to me and my siblings)

When my parents split up my mam took it really bad and was out drinking a lot. I was 11 and my younger brother was 7. She came home one night in a state and woke us up, my brother started crying and could hear her giving out to him. I remember charging in and roaring at her to leave him alone she could say whatever she wanted to me but not him. She told me to pack my suitcase and go live with my dad she didn't want me.
Still remember it clearly now, she sorted herself out and is grand now but I can't be around her when she drinks she is twisty.

Mum to me : The only difference between you and your cousin (who was a prostitute), is that she charges!
When I got in late after being raped aged 15 she made me strip off in the passage (in front of my dad) and said it wasn't rape.

Told my young sister, whose 6 month old baby died of cot death, that it must have been her fault because she'd probably used fly spray around her.

Told my sister that she was the reason that she argued with our dad all the time, making my sister feel really guilty. They had been arguing and fighting for years before they had my sister.

When my sister finally killed herself (years after our dad killed himself), my mum blamed me for her death, saying I must have said something to upset her.

“Either you throw him out (my parents lent me money from my trust to buy a half share in a flat, while I took out a mortgage to pay the other half); or we’ll throw you out. We don’t want mixed race grandchildren!”

My boyfriend was Chinese!

“No daughter of ours is marrying a Catholic!”

Another boyfriend!

Sorry to read everyone’s responses, nobody deserves any of it!

My mother has come out with some quite poisonous things, but one that keeps popping into my head recently is when I was about 6 and she said really viciously “you don’t deserve friends.” She has this way of hissing things through gritted teeth that still makes my stomach church. I think it was because I was too anxious to pick up the phone to someone. Wonder why!

I must like making everyone miserable - I was 11 and had just started experiencing anxiety and panic attacks
I was an evil, selfish little shit
They are too old and too tired for my drama - they are in their 60s and me and my children were going through a horrendous time and they let us down big time

NC?! You have done well not to murder her! Well done on seeing her for what she is and moving on with your life. You are amazing and if being like you is called being ‘mentally ill’ then we should all
aspire to it!

My mum has called me a cold-hearted parent as I don’t parent exactly the same as her or more likely, I don’t do what she tells me and she takes that as a personal slight.
Has also threatened to ruin my marriage if I mentioned something trivial about a sibling.
Nothing in comparison to some of the examples here. Why are some parents so evil?

Wow weird to read this, my mum used to say similar to me when she was annoyed with me - "no wonder you have no friends" or "no wonder [boy I liked] doesn't like you".

She also used to constantly tell me I was "showing off" in front of other people to shut me up if I was doing/saying something she didn't like.

She'd never admit it now, to be honest she probably genuinely doesn't remember it/has blanked it out, but I remember. I really hope never to be purposely spiteful to my own daughter, even in moments of anger.

I have a good relationship with my mum and she'd never acknowledge any of this now, and it was all done in the trenches of parenting a teenager, but I still hope to do better myself when the time comes.

Here comes moby dick!

I was 10 on a family beach holiday, slightly over weight child. Never forgotten my mother saying it.

Where to start.
I was so happy when you were born. They told me I had a baby girl and I thought she’d be pretty, she’d have beautiful curly hair and I’d dress her in lovely dresses. But I got you.

Couple of years later aged 6-7 I’d run away from home to my best friend’s house. Her dad drove me home, of course. My parents very all nice and smiley with him then my father backed me into a corner and told me if I didn’t want to live with them that was fine they could easily put me in a children’s home like they’d done with P ( child they’d fostered)

And these really weren’t the worst.

-I wish she’d just piss off.
-Oh Blueberrybandana you look like a girl for once! (Loudly in a full restaurant, I was 35)
-You've lost/put on weight (alternate and repeat at each visit)

That no one likes me.
She only went to my wedding as she felt obliged.
I'm not clever enough.
I lied about my life threatening illness and treatment.

That's some of the stuff she's said to my face. The stuff behind my back is worse.

Oh so many things...

She said 'Go on cry let's see how much you hurt' (my ex was violent and I'd just split with him, thankfully)🤬
Your house must be crawling cos noones been in it - my friends have but she is scared of dogs, we have 4 of them, 2 are big guardian dogs and dogs are great judges of character so they would be sizing her up the whole time. Best not to upset my dogs.😁
Your DD needs to get a job and stop asking you for money (DD has just been taken off the red list ref suicide) she works for my company when she is well enough.
There's something wrong with you - all the stuff you're doing to your face - I have lost about 10kg so my double chin is almost gone 🥳 I have a facial every 4 weeks, Korean products and have just got into facial yoga so my face is changing but not due to botox, fillers etc 🙄.
She is so toxic even my old school friends have told me they were scared of her as children. 😱
I have many times not seen her. I had to drive 125miles to pick my dad up and take him for a meal so he could spend time once a month with me and the kids. He had a 5 valve bypass surgery and I had to visit him when she wasn't there!😤

We can't choose our family. I am blessed to have good friends.😍 I hope you too have good friends and your own family around you x

“I hope you have children like you you’ll get what you deserve”

except I do have children like me and they are so wonderful and so so easy to love. They made me realise I wasn’t the problem.

I was told multiple times my mother wished I'd never been born.
When I finally disclosed SA at the hands of my dad she told everyone was lying (despite him writing a confession... she burnt it) and then told me "you and your father have ruined my life".

DM called me a bitch when I was 12 and said she wished everyone knew what I was really like. I'll never forget it.

"If you'd been another boy I would've had you adopted". From my mother. Also, when I was put on the pill by the doctor at age 16 because of crippling periods- "You're obviously sleeping around".

She also used to tell me that she was sure that the brother that sexually abused me when I was 10 was sorry (he wasn't and isn't).

She used to go on and on about how my Dad used to like 'dipping his wick' all throughout their marriage (aka having multiple affairs. He denied it to the day he died.) She was tremendously bitter about their divorce until the day she died.(30 something years after the event). She always thought that she'd be able to alienate us from our Dad- it backfired stupendously though. We actually came to understand why he left.

She blamed me for a huge phone bill at a time when I was only ever allowed access to the phone after 6pm. She accused me of being an 'alcoholic' because I had a couple of drinks at a party.

She was not a nice woman and the peace since she died has been wonderful.

I miss my Dad though. He was my no.1 fan.

My mum called me and my sister sluts when we had crumpled up clothes on ( I was 11, can't remember how old my sister was)