To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

Is that what you’re wearing?

"i didn't like you until you became pregnant"- then said it was a joke apparently and I take things to heart for looking shocked.

My son was born with severe Sen and I was told
"you ruined that boy" because he used to love watching peppa pig from 1 year old and apparently that caused his autism and other neurological issues.

edited as I thought of another one. I was also told "I wish I strangled you at birth" when I was a teenager. I wasn't even sure what I'd done 🙃

My dad once told me he hoped I was raped and murdered on the way to an afterschool club because I left my room in a mess. I was 13 or 14.

My mother was always awful - my brother was 7 years younger than me and she'd beat me if I wanted to play out rather than look after him whilst she was in bed or hadn't read with him or washed his clothes or if I hadn't cooked tea for me and her (from aged 6!)

The most recent:

My brother moved 6 hours away and was due to get married but 6 weeks before he passed away unexpectantly aged 31 with no health conditions (now been put down to SADS).

She was away when I rang her to tell her and waited 4 hours for her to get home before I drove us down there (she can't drive). She wouldn't speak to my and my Ex Step Dad had to repeat what I said and she'd answer him.

During the 2 days we were there She told me repeatedly that I should have been the one that died and not him and that she had nothing to live for as me and my 5 children weren't important to her.

Last December (20 months after DB passing) she told me she needed to work on her grief and as such she wanted no contact from me or my children. 1 year later she still hasn't bothered despite my eldest DD having her first baby and my DH with a cancer diagnosis (she knows this as my cousins wife works for me)

At a family wedding, where we saw a lot of family we hadn't seen for years, I overheard my mum being asked if she had to look after my children much while I worked. She said no she didn't, because I "don't work". The truth was I had set up my own successful business when I had children so I could set my own hours around school days. I worked all hours and weekends around the kids. The next year both her and my dad asked if they could have several years of my pension credits to top up their pensions, which I had accumulated through this "not work" 🙄

‘ Just because you’re my daughter doesn’t mean to say I have to love you’ said to me aged 10. As I got older the situation escalated and included preventing my dad giving me away at my wedding and on the birth of my first child saying ‘other people have grandchildren but I don’t’ …I have been NC for 40 years now. Sometimes you need to accept you cannot change the situation and walk away.

Wow.

Just. Wow.

Difficult to choose one....but the front runner is probably the time she threw my brother and I out in the middle of the night on NYE when I was eleven. She made us pack all our stuff into boxes, while she prowled around lashing out physically and saying things like "you've never brought me anything but heartache" and "your fucking father is welcome to you". She then drove us down to my father's (uninhabitable) house and dumped us in the garden in the pissing rain. Dad (on leave from his job in the Middle East) was out getting shit-faced, so we just sat on the boxes all night getting soaked. In the morning, she turned up and made us load all the stuff into the car, then drove us home again. The only thing she said to us was "Sprigatito'sBrother, you can leave whenever you fucking want. Sprigatito - you're not going ANYWHERE." I actually think that was the most chilling bit.

You’re a wild girl and one day you’ll give your father a heart attack and kill him.

I was much milder than my siblings (however was adopted and they were all biological children) and other than a phase of being rebellious as a teen was a quiet obedient kid. Siblings were all certified wild, in trouble with the law, needed constant bailing out of every situation they got into. That was okay, but when I acted out at a fraction of them, it wasn’t.

A few years later during their second split as she was flagrantly cheating again they had a huge argument and he did have that heart attack and died.

And I got to watch her play the piteous widow, it was fucking disgusting. I’ll never forget her hissing those words at me and to think how wrong she was…

When a teenager. Father: 'too childish to smoke a cigarette', 'has an arse like two eggs in a handkerchief', 'dresses so plain only elderly people would be interested', 'not interested in your education as you've already had a better start in life than I had.' Mother: 'hypochondriac', 'has got brain damage from going out in the evenings to night clubs with other people from school'.
I think they got lucky I just became an alcoholic and didn't end up serving life for something or other.

My Mum - "I wish you had died and your brother was still here instead."
I was about 8 at the time and I've never been able to forget those words.

My Dad, in a text - "Unless you're coming to see me today, don't bother coming again. I genuinely don't want to see you again if you don't turn up today, and I don't want any excuses."
I was 18, having my first miscarriage, and was about 10 minutes late to go see him for Sunday dinner.

I'm NC with both my parents for lots of different reasons, but the best thing they ever did was teach me how words can really hurt a child. I now have three children and absolutely love how close to me they feel.

When I was about 6 my mum couldn't find my brothers school jumper. I remembered I'd carried it to the car for him but couldn't remember what I'd done with it after that, of course this had to devolve into a household screaming match with her then boyfriend getting involved and storming out. She said to me "your father left because you're such a horrible little bitch and now he (her bf) is leaving because of you aswell. Why do you have to ruin my life?"

Go to insult was slut/whore/slag for as long as I can remember. Nobody loved me or cared about me/ she was the only person who gave a shit about me everyone else would be happier if I died.

When I was 20 she was angry at me and phoned me to tell me nobody would care if I died tomorrow. When I hung up on her she phoned me back and told me she had never said that. My boyfriend and his mum had actually heard it so I knew I wasn't lying but she tried to gaslight me and I feel like if they hadn't heard it maybe I would have believed her.

Can't even get into all the things she said when I told her I was pregnant. Basically I was going to have my child taken away because I'm selfish and awful. That comment directly led to serious mental health issues which lasted almost 10 years. I was sure my children would be taken from me at any time and slept on my sons floor for months so I could feel his breathing all night. Just incase.

I wish I had aborted you, like your grandparents wanted.

When I first alerted my Dad that I was being bullied at High School. I had explained it was two girls in a different year to me had no classes with or any reason to speak with me. They randomly started on me at break times and after school. One threatening to beat me up. His response was basically that I must have started it.

trigger warning

I was raped by a friend (a trusted friend) and I was finding it hard to cope,I was just trying to get through the next minute,let alone the day

I'm nc with my family,so hadn't said a word to anyone,least of all them

Of course my mother found out (god only knows how) and dined out for weeks on the details that she made up

One of her friends (who is a genuinely lovely woman) said 'oh Tracy's mum,don't you think she needs support?can you reach out to her?she needs you right now'

My mother-'oh Katherine!she didn't realise she'd been raped until the cheque bounced'

(An unfunny joke from ofah-del says it to rodney)

The lady was so upset,she rang me to tell me (god knows why but she did)

All the 'I wish I'd never had you' 'after everything I do for you' (that was a joke) and 'having you has ruined my life/marriage/dreams' paled into comparison

She laughed when the bastard was found not guilty and was off again,telling all her mates the finer (made up) details

And it's a total mystery to the family why I refuse to speak to them

Screaming 'you're so much like your fucking father' literally centimetres from my face
'Yeah, that's if it'll fit you' after picking an item up in a clothes shop
'What the fucks the matter with you' coming down the stairs after having a nap as I was ill and shattered after cooking for 15 people on Xmas Day
Speaking about my 27 year old daughter who's a bit of a tomboy 'she needs to wear make up, it'll make her more attractive' - she's actually really rather beautiful without it

A few gems there, there's lots more
My Mother is a delight!!

I agree and I would include myself in that category too. I have done my best but I wasn't the sort of mum I hoped I would be and a lot of that was to do with having a bit of a fucked up childhood. my mum was kind and loving but my dad was the opposite

JFC, your mum is pure evil. What a disgusting human being she is. So sorry you had to endure all that.

Of course you've got back ache you spend most of your time on it

She is a failure
you are fat
fat cow

from my my parents/sibling

my dad used to call me the "whore of Babylon" and tell me I was pretty but not attractive and when I got into college said it was a "second rate place that took second rate people". There was a lot of other stuff too but not really fit to post on a public forum and one of insults was alliterative involving using my name followed by a string of nasty adjectives. He thought this was clever and funny. Oh and then there were the months on end he didn't speak to me at all and used to walk out of every room I walked into and at mealtimes would point at me and say "who is that girl, why is she in our house?"

No one told me paid lesbianism was an option before I married a man! 😅 Glad you have no intention of going to her funeral!