To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

These are heartbreaking. I hope you all have found peace, or are at least close to it.

My mum has constantly said horrible things and seems to recently delight in trying to embarrass me with any stories from my teenage or university days.

Around 8 years old, she said you’re horrible just like your father ( they were divorced)

I asked her to please get some scissors for me one time as I was doing something with my hands full and she said “no wonder you’re so fat you’re so lazy” I was a size 12.

A few years ago she said she hoped my daughter would be as nasty and horrible to me so I would know how it felt. This came after she was Contradicting my parenting and I said that I was the mother and to back off.

now she is going deaf she misheard something on Christmas Eve about her garden fence and kicked off. The difference was this time I pulled her up.

my DH says it’s because she is getting older but she has always been this way however social isolation during Covid has made her bitter and meaner. I’ve been LC and lived overseas limiting interactions in the past and I wish I could be NC.

• I'm selfish
• it's my fault I am a single parent
• my children will hate me

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#1) has been my whole life
#2&3 have been in the past 6 months

And then wonders why I've gone low contact

That’s awful wellington I hope you are ok!
my dad said to me “I can’t walk you down the isle or say nice things about you when I don’t mean them”

this was a response to me choosing my friend instead of my sister as my bridesmaid and then saying they were not coming to my wedding. Despite me explaining my choice which was followed up by a “I don’t believe your reasons it’s just selfishness or jealousy..”

I told my parents I was raped at university ten year after it Happened. I finally gathered up the courage to talk to them about it. They replied by saying “ we are sorry this has happened, but it’s too late now, you should have told the police, what do you expect us to do about it” needless to say my whole perspective on who they are as people has dramatically changed as a result

When I was 24 weeks pregnant my mum said 'don't buy anything yet, we don't actually know for sure if you'll get a baby at the end of this'. This was my miracle pregnancy after years of infertility. My mum is autistic though and she's really an absolute sweetheart, she'd never want to hurt anyone but she doesn't have a filter and that was like 'ouch'.

And I was never any trouble as a child. Never put a foot wrong, worked hard at school, did whatever I was told so she had no reason to be like that.

Said to me by my Mum when I was 16...'You bitch! You fucking bitch!' said with such venom.

My 'crime' was showing her the way to my new consortium 6th form (that I'd only been to once before) and directing her down the wrong road by complete accident. It was the next road down that we needed to take.

When the family court judge ordered that she be removed from the house, I was 19 years old. As she left the house for the final time, she turned to me and said 'This is all your fault!'

I mostly have had very little to do with her since then.

My parents divorced 30 years ago. The last time I briefly met with her, she said that she predicted that my Dad was dying.

She's always claimed that she has no idea why I don't want to see her and can't understand what she did wrong.

I suspect an element of narcissism...

hard choice between 2
no 1 That she was seriously f*ed off I was born a girl so she had to have another one to get the boy she wanted (I’m number 2 of 3). I was about 16/17 when she said that - 30 years later her son is still the love of her life 🙄
no 2 when I was about 9 dad was seriously ill in hospital for a few months we were shuffled between aunts for a few weeks and then went to say with paternal grandparents- she’d wanted to put us in foster care as it was too much hassle to look after us
now that I am a mum and also went through serious illness etc with my husband I can never imagine wanting my children to be anywhere other than with me to hold them and reassure them and love them all equally

Look at your massive roll of fat (about my waist, I was in my 20's and a size 12, she was a LOT bigger than me)
What if she's absolutely gorgeous (about my new BF's ex)
Got me to lie to my Dad as a little kid about where we were going so she could see her boyfriend
All I could hear all night was your voice and you laughing really loudly ( I was about 13 and had some friends over for the evening. I still don't think anyone wants to hear what I've got to say nor that it's important.)
Told me many times that I was adopted (I wasn't)
Look at your broken veins
Look at your grey hairs
I hate the school summer holidays (said to me when I was a kid, many times)
She was very, very nasty when she was drunk.
... just a taster, I could go on ...
She died five years ago. I don't miss her.

Many occasions telling me that I was a waste of space. Still hurts.
I was a fairly good teenager, never caused any problems, did well at school. Still can't think why she'd ever think it was justified.

These comments growing up affect me more now as an adult than what they did when i was on the receiving end as a teenager

I wish you’d never been born. My mother used to say that a lot.
Never once told me they loved me, either.

My darling mother had a family house party. I live in the same town and was invited over for "coffee". At noon sharp my mother told me I had to go home as she was taking everyone out for lunch. Everyone but me. My cousin spoke up and asked why I wasn't invited. My mother replied there wasn't enough room in the car for me. My cousin pointed out there were five cars available to take 11 people and surely there would be room for me

My mum was caught outright in a lie and started backtracking. She also continued to be horrible to me whilst out for lunch.

It was then I realised how very much I dislike my own mother

@BradleyGreenToes well frankly, my sister and I only went to my mother's funeral to make sure she was cremated!! make of that what you will!

These are the worst things my mother has said. My Dad hasn't really said anything awful.

When I was raped by a masked man who broke in to my house at night holding a knife to my throat, insinuated it was my fault as I was sleeping naked in my bed that particular night so he 'couldn't help himself. Also the fact he'd broken in in the first place must have been because I'd been walking round the house naked and he'd seen me. I didn't but even if I did it didn't make it my fault.

Told me I was being ridiculous when I found out the father of my 2 children and partner of 25 years was having an affair with a family friend and walked out. I was distraught but she told me I was being ridiculous and needed to pull myself together as we weren't even married.

Actually maybe the worst thing is what she didn't say. She didn’t believe in praising children. Apparently it makes them big headed and stops them working hard 🙄. This meant throughout my childhood all I heard from her was criticism and negativity.

My brother and sister were her blond little angels, ‘I suppose your alright. Hearing last year I was having rape counselling, you need to get over this it’s not like he killed you did he? All from my mother

No man will ever put up with you

Our marriage is happier when your not here

Stay in an unhappy marriage until my child leaves school because that’s what she did.
Child is 9…
She’s still in her unhappy marriage because the time wasn’t right to leave…

fuck off with your post that is full of apologies and excuses for horrendous parent. You must have no empathy to have posted that.

OP, I’m sure you know this already, but none of those things that were said to you are true. I don’t even know you and I’m sure of it. I’m so sorry that you had to hear those things from people who purported to love you. Christ on a bike, it is just awful to see it written down in black and white - the things that your family have said to you, and also the things that PPs family have said to them. You all deserve better. Hell, most people deserve better that have to hear that crap.

My mother used to say to my siblings and I that we all “wanted deprived childhoods” when we tried to talk to her about why we weren’t in regular contact after leaving home. Three out of the four of us siblings made a conscious choice not to have children, rather than risk becoming the type of parents that ours were. This way, it stops with us, and is absolutely not irrelevant or a failure. Much love to you OP ❤️