To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

I've always been anti animal testing, always buying cruelty free beauty products (but never shouting about it and completely non judgemental on those that don't)
When I had my daughter my spiteful father said 'if your baby gets cancer it'll be interesting to see your morals then, you'll be refusing treatment will you?'
Interestingly he died of cancer 4 years later - can't say I shed any tears. Horrible man.

Name changed.
'It's all your fault I did this'
This was said to me after her failed suicide attempt when I was 15.

I'll never be attractive or get a man with the way I am..I was 14.

I'll never forget the day she sat me down to explain why my sibling was her favourite🙄

You are too thin to be seen out wearing them (leggings at about 8 years old)

You know what you've done and you need to apologise properly (25 years on still don't know)

I don't want to talk about your children. I don't know them and they mean nothing to me.

Your dad wants nothing to do with you after what you've done (?)

No contact for approx 26 years, sporadic attempts to make contact (see examples above). I have severe mental health problems and can no longer cope with any contact.

Adding to say, what a sad, disturbing thread this is. It feels good to vent a little, it weirdly feels good to know we all weren't alone, but what a sad read it is. Thoughts are with everyone who grew up/currently dealing with shit that our parents should have dealt with themselves before having kids. No wonder mental health issues are on the rise, let's hope we're breaking the chain with the next generation. God knows I'm trying my best to never be like mine.

When I announced my pregnancy after a stillbirth my DM said “well I’m not buying it anything, I wasted my money last time,

From my mum
You are always so weird when you come back from your dad's..

I was 8 years old saw my dad once every 3 weeks.

I get judged by my mum as well as criticism yet people say aww, I hope you will speak to your mum you only get one

If everyone else knew what you were really like, they wouldn’t like you.
I made you, I can do whatever I want to you / it’s not your hair, it’s mine, I made it.

I’m never sure which personality disorder she has, but I’m pretty sure she’s got one.

My mother said it was the reason why my parents got divorced. Apparently I wasn't an easy child and always fought with my sister.

My dad had an affair. My mother was utterly vile.

OP, did our parents attend the same parenting course?

My mum repeatedly told me I didn’t have any friends when I was a kid and teenager. Odd as I had loads and she didn’t have any.

When I did fall out with some friends at school in my teens, both parents were initially very supportive, but at the first small argument – “None of your friends like you”

The other one that stuck from my mum was telling me when I was about 5 that I was just a blob on the horizon and she only had 1 child (that being our grown up brother – she told this to me, 5, my younger brother, 3, while drunk.) Mad stuff.

Sorry you’ve had that experience. I think some people are just very emotionally immature.

Are you in contact with them now?

Many things from both parents (they separated when I was 4 but I've grown up with 'you're just like your dad/your grandma was a horrible bitch (she wasn't), blah blah blah) but the worst was, after I'd been raped as a teen, met a new partner in my early twenties and my mum told me 'dont go telling him your sob story either'. Same mum who, when my sister was scared she was having a miscarriage, was told by our mum that she was busy gardening, so can't go with her to get checked out.

This mum only ever rings when she wants something/someone to vent about how awful said sister is/her medical issues (from a lifetime of smoking and drinking finally catching up to her) then wonders why I've gone low contact. Don't even get me started on dad and my other siblings, we wrote the book on dysfunctional but I'm 'too sensitive' when I call them out on their shitty behaviour.

So many. I can't even type them because they're too awful.

on reflection mine aren’t too bad

Parents are divorced

You’re difficult like your father
you got that (bad) trait from your mother
youre selfish
youre lazy
you stop listening when you don’t want to hear other people’s opinions
you’re too confrontational
you’re too sharp and opinionated
youre not a good parent

Oh where to start with my mother:

You're so fat (many times, including the day before my wedding)
I wish I had never had children because you're such a disappointment (at least a dozen times)
You like your children too much (?!)

Those stick out

I wish I'd never had you.
You've ruined every relationship I've ever had.
Piss off and live with your old man.
Fuck off to school you little scrubber
..all as a young teen.

That our eldest daughter needs to move out of a house we all had moved in with my mum to help her out and make her home a family home again. She fell out with our eldest and said she needed to move out after 4 years so we moved out and me and my eldest no longer speak to her. I still send cards for Christmas and birthdays but won't have a physical relationship with her as I don't trust her.

No- one will ever love you, becausecof the way you are.

Years of therapy to unpack that one!

I went to get you aborted.

Abandoned, in care, sporadic then no contact.

Now her partner - who she chose over me and was a sleaze to me but she still stayed - has died she's tried to guilt trip me. Thank goodness I'm moving soon and she won't have my address, fucks knows how she got it the first place.

It's not so much the nasty (although there are plenty) comments but the lack of any support or advice whatsoever that went alongside it. They didn't like me but never explained why or what they'd rather. Other than telling me which choices I was allowed to take at GCSE/A'Level seemingly to ensure I had a miserable time and couldn't do a job I'd actually enjoy...

My mum used to start her sentences with 'If I was you I'd ... ' or 'I think you ought to... '.

I was always a bit of a disappointment because I'm not ambitious.

We had a major fall out about 20 years ago when I finally answered back. I suspect my lovely stepfather had a word and we worked it out. She accepted that I'm not her and I'm happier than she is. All has been well since.