To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

That she thought she was miscarrying whilst pregnant with me, and seeing how I turned out she wished she had.

She's a nasty, bitter, old bitch. I've got an amazing family who love me. I wish I could be the bigger person and wish her well, but I can't. I wish her many years of misery.

I was born at 27 weeks so spent the first part of my life in hospital, as a child my mum regularly told me that it was so fucking boring sitting next to my incubator all day and she used to pray I'd just die. She also regularly told me she wished she'd had an abortion.

I love you but I don't like you.

Oh I remember another, took my watch (I was about 10) told me I couldn’t be trusted to go out as I hadn’t been honest about losing my watch

My mum used to always say how great her life would have been without children as well.
Saying that about your baby is much worse though.

So many to mention.

someone gave me a pair of shoes ‘she must have felt sorry for you’

’we are just so ashamed of the way you look, don’t really want to be seen with you’

’you are terrible mother’

’you are too selfish’

and the worst was I tried to tell them I had been sexually assaulted ‘that’s not a very nice thing to say, keep your voice down’ (I was 15)

erc etc etc

My mum to me after she had a vaginal prolapse: “it’s your fault”. Right sure it is.

Lots of vile stuff including age about 8 "i love you because youre my daughter but i dont like you", always telling me i was lazy, selfish, ungrateful and a drama queen (ive now been diagnosed as neurodiverse). Constant criticism of every little thing. Told me i had teenage acne because i was dirty and ate too much cheese (one cheese sandwich for lunch). Dragged me, literally to a hairdresser age 7 to have my long hair cut into a horrible brutal style, i cried and begged and cried for about four hours. Called me a "slut" age 11 for having a messy bedroom. Regularly sneaked through my stuff, once even opening a sealed letter id written to my bf (i was 20) then got mad at what was written. She was utterly unhinged. Now shes relatively normal but i think she lives in fear that i will tell my dad about it all.

Not to us, in front of us. 'I wish my kids were like x + y' (our cousins) i think I must have been about 6.

My dad also said 'everything you touch turns to shit' when I was about 11.

That it was all my fault she was unwell and if she had never had me then she would have had a great life.
Also, it was good my little boy died at birth as all the men in our family aren't right in the head, and I wouldn't want a son like that 😭

Both parents told me I was a mistake. I'd worked that out from the short gap between their wedding and my date of birth to be honest!

When I had my first DC, they told all my family that I wouldn't let them see the baby. I had concerned aunties ringing me up telling me to include them. They'd seen us twice a week including being the first people to meet the baby.

And from my dad after my brother died.
'And now we're only left with you'
He didn't say it but I could feel 'I wish it had been you' on the tip of his tongue.

My mother "I wish I'd killed your whilst it was legal", I was 13. Needless to say I have nothing to do with her as an adult

‘Why do people have children?’. 🤔
Thanks Dad .

Amongst the general nastiness, telling me I was fat and calling me a slut my favourite, and how I wished it was true, was that I must have been swapped at birth because she couldn’t have spawned a child like me!

Its so much easier for people like them to blame those they made victims.

Me and my kids play a game of what mental illness my mother will say I have this year.

She gets a certain amount of my life fed back to her, not much because I don't keep in touch with anyone who knows her, but it's a very gossipy area.

So my daughter, a few years back was very ill and in hospital for a few weeks, my mother told everyone she wasn't really unwell, I just had munchausen by proxy (she had sepsis).

Then she heard one of my older dds had a girlfriend and told everyone that I had forced my dd to be a lesbian to cast shame on the family, and also to get money from the benefits office (somehow).

She has also told everyone (including going into several places I've worked) that I'm a sex addict and will try to have sex with everyone to get babies from them.

I also had cancer a few years back and she told everyone that I blamed her and her genetics for my cancer and that my blame was going to kill her, never even thought about her when I was going through it tbh.

As much as growing up with her was traumatic, the shit she spouts now is pretty funny.

She has also written a death letter telling me how shit I am and how great she was and all the awful things about me and how I am banned from her funeral and deathbed (as if I would go) and that's wht she has, apparently, left m in her will. Jokes on her because it will be getting burned. I won't even open it.

Hopefully you get to the point where you can just laugh at the bullshit op 💐

'You're an awful nasty person and people don't actually like you. If they knew the real you they'd know how you're not actually this nice person you pretend to be. I know the real truth about how awful you are' - from my 'mother'

I was so young, maybe 9 or 10. I was, as I am now, an easy, likeable person. I think this was the first time I'd really understood that my mother hated me and begun to understand what a manipulative gas-lighter she was. I'm very grateful she can no longer harm me and is no longer in my life. Good riddance.

Wow
I'm incredibly sorry for everyone on this thread's experiences .
I'm inspired by all of you x

"If you were a proper mother your children would have been brought up properly and treated their grandparents with respect, and I would have a better relationship with them".

From the woman who never babysat once.

Last time I saw her. She's dead now thankfully, but I'll be a long time in therapy. I know now she was a covert narcissist. Horrific.