To ask the worst things your parents have said to you?

'You're so fake, aren't you' said by my step dad with a pedantic 😊 on my 20something birthday. Was just chilling in the living room on my phone.

'You're ashamed of your dd' when I was in the midst of a mental breakdown trying to keep it together with a newborn, because i wanted nothing to do with people from my past (again by sd)

You are an accident of birth.
If your dad tells you to jump, you jump - even if it’s off a cliff.
I’ve finished with you - I’ll feed you, and I’ll clothe you, and that’s it (I was about ten).
Of course I don’t have any respect for you! You’ll get respect when you’re married with a family of your own.
When I told (my godmother) I was pregnant, she said, ‘Oh shit.’
The doctor offered me an abortion when he told me I was pregnant with you.

Oh, there’s loads.

"I rejected you before you rejected me, I rejected you when you were born"

"You don't care about anyone but yourself, as soon as you move out you'll never want to be part of the family again"

"As soon as your DD turns 7 she will won't want to know you"

And numerous variations on me not caring about anyone, being selfish, wanting to cut my family out of my life, being a neglectful mother. None based on my actual actions or thoughts, all based on my parents' paranoia and anxiety.

Fun times.

This is very painful for me to write down.
I lost a little girl at 15 months 30 years ago, not long after me and my sister had a fall out, nothing major but my mum said to me, I know you've lost your baby but she's my baby.(meaning my sister) I was heartbroken by that comment.

mum: I don’t give a sh*t about you.
You’re only a single mum on benefits (my partner had cheated and left me, I worked full time, she wanted to make me feel ashamed)
You’re just like your dad I wish I never had you.
My favourite grandchild is (sisters son) I don’t like the others (ie mine)
Your sisters can’t stand you they hate you (we get on great)
I tried to get rid of you by falling down the stairs at 8 months pregnant
You’re an embarrassment and burden (I hadn’t found a job the week I left school)
she only got a boyfriend to trick him into having a baby so she can give up work.
i was a good parent I potty trained 5 children at 12 months old but your 2 year old is in nappies.
I’m glad your nan (more like a mum) has finally died.
Told a relative I was size 22 to make me feel shit after giving birth and they bought
me size 24 pajamas. I was size 12.
you’re not allowed to breastfeed go and buy formula now.
you’re clearly schizophrenic let us take the baby.
your house is a shithole (jealous of my first house that was new and immaculate).
I’m NC with her now thankfully, she was a horrible neglectful abusive parent who made me mentally unwell and suicidal.
sorry to see many of you went through the same.

I’m the youngest of 3, two elder brothers. One day when I was about 7, my mother said that she didn’t want me, she wanted another boy. Now she is in her mid ‘90’s and terminally ill, guess who is her full time carer whilst neither of her sons has visited in years?

"Don't eat that, you'll get fat:
"Let's see what shrunkenhead weighs"
(Note, I want even fat at this point!)

"If you don't stop crying, I'll give you something to really cry about"

That everything was my fault, e.g. my little brother getting nits was my fault, the bathroom light broke and it was my fault. She once made me feel it was my fault my dad died when I was young, then she realised she'd gone too far with that one.
Always disagreed with anything I said, even changing her opinion on something if it was the same as mine.
She completely dominated me and I was scared of her. Even after I got my own home she spoke to me like I was the hired help.
Any time I tried to confide in her, she said Don't be so soft.

Some of these are truly awful and heartbreaking.

I do wonder, when people go on about how much mothers naturally love their children and childless people will never know love like it, how come there are so many mothers out there who don’t seem to love their children at all. It obviously isn’t a given that a woman will feel that way about her children.

Huge impact on my mental health and self esteem. I am taking all sorts of medication and it just takes the edge off that's all. I am so sorry to read all of the comments. Sending you all love x

Sorry didn't link to the original comment - it was the I love you but don't like you

Oh this. How could I forget this one

Too much to repeat.

I think up there is my dad repeatedly telling us that he never wanted children and calling us animals.

When I was 14 he sat me down and told me that if I ran away he wouldn't look for me.

Just from my Mum when I was a child:

She wished she'd never had children
She was calling social services to take us away
We were the worst children in the world and what did she do to deserve us
No wonder I didn't have any friends (have no clue what I did for her to say this)
That she was going to leave and never come back (followed by her leaving us in the house alone).

''You are stupid you and always will be'' from my father after failing my 11 plus.
''You are a vain little madam'' from my mother when I wanted to wear girly clothes. She was never cut out to be the mother of girls.

My 11 month old baby had a severe sickness bug (ended up hospitalised with it). As a first time Mum I told my own Mum on the phone that I was worried about him as he’d not moved from my lap for 2 days & was unable to keep anything down. Her reply, “So you’re sat there on your backside getting fatter whilst he gets thinner”. For context, I am and always been a size 10, although at that point I was still carrying my baby weight and was a size 12.

OMG so much

Your fat
Your ugly
Your stupid
I never wanted a girl
If I knew then what I know now I'd never of had you
No one would want you
Your bf is having an affair no one could love you

I wish I'd just replied "of course I am, I have your DNA"

When I went to school orientation they said my gym class was being replaced with a required reading class because of my dyslexia. She turned to me with extreme anger on her face and when we got home she said that everyday I have to excerise and tell her what I did and for how long.

My Mum said ‘I love you but I don’t like you’ in response to me being a very tricky teenager ! I have never reflected on that comment, all my memories of my Mum are good ones .

These nasty parents will get old and be treated as if they've been saints as well. Abused adult children will be expected to bend over backwards to care for these elderly parents and treated like monsters for not having any of it.

When I was 18 and my first ever boyfriend had dumped me after 9 months. It was my first experience of heartbreak and my mum felt it best to console me with: well- you have put on quite a bit of weight since you got together.

Compounded my existing disordered eating even further. Thanks mum. 👍🏼