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Was I rude to leave?

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Squidgame12345 · 04/01/2025 16:34

I was at a church service with a friend, it's not my thing but I know she is heavily devout and I go with her maybe once or twice a year.

Another friend of hers who I didn't know came and was sitting on the opposite side. At the end of the service she turned and started speaking to the other friend, I was on the left of her and this friend was on the right.

I thought I better shoot off soon as I had shopping to do. I waited a bit but they were just talking, so after 10 minutes I thought, I'm not waiting all day I need to go now

I tapped her on the shoulder and said, so sorry to cut you both off but I really need to get going now, it was lovely to see you. She looked surprised and confused.

Later on I got a text saying she hadn't expected me to leave so soon and she had only been talking to her friend. I understood, but we hadn't made any plans for after and I didn't know how long they were going to talk for, surely she didn't expect me to just sit and wait indefinitely?

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BettyBardMacDonald · 04/01/2025 17:04

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Exactly. She was rude to let her chitchat go on so long.

HeadacheEarthquake · 04/01/2025 16:37

Why do you go to church with her that's a bit weird. I'd not go to church with any of my religious mates as a social outing... why not just meet for coffee...

Ladybyrd · 04/01/2025 16:37

Maybe she was worried you felt left out? I wouldn't worry about it though. No obligation to sit there all day. Maybe if you arrived there together she was assuming you'd leave together too - really doesn't matter though.

GigglingLips · 04/01/2025 16:37

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IlooklikeNigella · 04/01/2025 16:37

It sounds like crossed wires; your friend thought the meetup was church followed by something else and that you then cut the meeting short abruptly. You thought you'd be saying goodbye after church regardless.

Unless she is usually high maintenance or a pita in general I'd message back and say you're looking forward to hanging out again soon.

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