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To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Viserrisk · 04/01/2025 15:12

Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

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Tootiredmummyof3 · 05/01/2025 18:54

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

What? On one glass of wine?

DuesToTheDirt · 05/01/2025 18:50

Grammarnut · 05/01/2025 18:11

YABU yourself. If you are going that route no-one with DC can drink ever - which is utter nonsense. And one glass of wine won't put you over the limit.

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"won't put you over the limit" - depends where you live. In Scotland the alcohol limit for driving is minuscule, 22 micrograms of alcohol in 100 ml of breath compared to 35 micrograms of alcohol per 100 ml of breath in the rest of the UK.

Errors · 05/01/2025 18:43

I usually drop the kids off at A&E first. That way I can come home and enjoy my glass of wine in peace

This made me laugh out loud!!!

I don’t think you did anything wrong OP!! You seized an opportunity so fair play. If you were all out to lunch together nobody wouldn’t judge you having a bit of wine with your food would they?!
Christ there are some uptight people on here

ChristmasKelpie · 05/01/2025 18:21

tell him to hush.

Grammarnut · 05/01/2025 18:16

MauveVelcro · 04/01/2025 15:24

Sitting and drinking a glass of wine at 3pm, when you're in charge of children young enough to sit on the floor and play seems very odd to me.

If I came home to dh in this exact scenario I'd probably be of the same opinion as op's dh. And whilst I wouldn't make a song and dance of it, I'd be secretly watching dh's alcohol consumption in future tbph, in case I'd missed something.

Do get over yourself. That's perfectly fine. I started drinking yesterday at about 3 pm with a G and T - DD and her DP had beer and we spent the afternoon chatting, sorting out dogs, and then watching a couple of films. A glass of wine whilst a child plays on the floor is no issue at all. And weird to think it's weird.

Grammarnut · 05/01/2025 18:11

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

YABU yourself. If you are going that route no-one with DC can drink ever - which is utter nonsense. And one glass of wine won't put you over the limit.

Sharptonguedwoman · 05/01/2025 18:08

MauveVelcro · 04/01/2025 15:24

Sitting and drinking a glass of wine at 3pm, when you're in charge of children young enough to sit on the floor and play seems very odd to me.

If I came home to dh in this exact scenario I'd probably be of the same opinion as op's dh. And whilst I wouldn't make a song and dance of it, I'd be secretly watching dh's alcohol consumption in future tbph, in case I'd missed something.

That sounds a little righteous to me. Whatever the rights and wrongs, I would have to be ‘told off’ by another adult. Just really annoying behaviour from him.

Laura95167 · 05/01/2025 18:04

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

What about parents who don't drive or have cars.

Getting drunk with kids isn't great, but a small drink or two in the safety of your home isn't a big deal

ByHardyAquaFox · 05/01/2025 18:03

Well, that depends. Have you had problems with alcohol in the past? If you have , then it is wrong.

Grammarnut · 05/01/2025 17:56

Viserrisk · 04/01/2025 15:12

Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

It's still Christmas till tomorrow. And what's wrong with a glass of wine? I am going to have one, or maybe two. He's being holier than thou. He went out to do his hobby - that's a bit thick when you have DC, isn't it? 😂

GingerLiberalFeminist · 05/01/2025 14:37

I would say he has issues with alcohol, whether consciously or not. Perhaps an alcoholic in his family, and "rules" that drinking around kids is bad.

I'm aware I'm loony about alcohol being drunk in a house in any situation, it's taken me years to tolerate it, so I'm unsure what the norm is.

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Viserrisk · 05/01/2025 14:29

CitizenZ · 05/01/2025 13:25

I usually drop the kids off at A&E first. That way I can come home and enjoy my glass of wine in peace.

That’s a great idea just make sure you’re not planning on reading a book as well. Mind you your kids will be at A&E so you can read all you like!

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SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 14:20

Lanzarotelady · 05/01/2025 14:15

Jesus Christ! What if your car, heaven forbid, was in the garage? What do you do if you're abroad, what happens if someone else has your car?

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I'd probably drop them off to A&E first, to be honest.

Lanzarotelady · 05/01/2025 14:15

CitizenZ · 05/01/2025 13:25

I usually drop the kids off at A&E first. That way I can come home and enjoy my glass of wine in peace.

Bloody cracking idea

Lanzarotelady · 05/01/2025 14:15

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 12:11

I would never have a child if I couldn't drive it to hospital.

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Jesus Christ! What if your car, heaven forbid, was in the garage? What do you do if you're abroad, what happens if someone else has your car?

WorkCleanRepeat · 05/01/2025 13:56

It's not something I'd have done (but I don't really like alcohol so my opinion probably doesn't count)

I'd have opened a second bottle out of pettiness if my OH had moaned at me about that though.

magicalmrmistoffelees · 05/01/2025 13:37

CitizenZ · 05/01/2025 13:25

I usually drop the kids off at A&E first. That way I can come home and enjoy my glass of wine in peace.

Genius!

wandawaves · 05/01/2025 13:27

YANBU to have a glass of wine, or even two.
YABU to have anything other than sour cream and onion pringles, as they are the best.

CitizenZ · 05/01/2025 13:25

I usually drop the kids off at A&E first. That way I can come home and enjoy my glass of wine in peace.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 05/01/2025 13:20

DowntonShabbie · 05/01/2025 13:19

Yes. But have you seen the very similar comments that are not jokes? You can see why people can't see the humour...

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Exactly.

DowntonShabbie · 05/01/2025 13:20

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 13:20

That's their problem.

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Unfortunately it's everyone's problem

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 13:20

DowntonShabbie · 05/01/2025 13:19

Yes. But have you seen the very similar comments that are not jokes? You can see why people can't see the humour...

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That's their problem.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 05/01/2025 13:20

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 13:18

Mate, it was a joke.

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Good! I've spent some time in the last few days in a rabbit hole of MN absolute fucking mania, and it's hard to tell now.

DowntonShabbie · 05/01/2025 13:19

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 13:18

Mate, it was a joke.

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Yes. But have you seen the very similar comments that are not jokes? You can see why people can't see the humour...

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 05/01/2025 13:18

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 05/01/2025 13:11

This is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on here - and there are so very many batshit things to choose from.

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Mate, it was a joke.