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Viserrisk · 2025-01-04T15:12:13+00:00

Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas. DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing. AIBU?

CountZacular · 04/01/2025 16:31

GoldsolesLugs · 04/01/2025 16:19

I dunno, I'm not a doctor. It's mind blowing that you can't think about risk - it's either 0% or 100%. I've said the risk is really small, I've said that I wouldn't judge someone for doing it but it's still not enough - I have to deny reality and say that a child being looked after by a glass of wine drinking parent is as safe as one being looked after by a sober parent. It just isn't true. The former is slightly less safe than the latter.

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You are the one repeatedly claiming there’s a risk but can’t actually figure out what that risk might be.

So in my scenario, if DH is at his hobby he has the car. Does that mean he’s taking a risk to my children’s life every time he goes out to his hobby? I should let him know.

Legoninjago1 · 04/01/2025 16:31

Overreactions all round today! One glass of wine?! Honestly! Yanbu.

ueberlin2030 · 04/01/2025 16:31

Coffeeisnecessary · 04/01/2025 16:21

The people that say about needing to drive to hospital, I don't get that- what about when you are home with your dh and you BOTH have a glass or 2 of wine, is this bad? Should one of us always be abstaining in case of emergency?!

At least one of us always refrained from alcohol, not that we drink much anyway.

ThriveIn2025 · 04/01/2025 16:31

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

Such a stupid argument. The same could be applied to every parent who doesn’t drive.

OP I have a hobby that gets me out of the house. I wouldn’t have a problem with DH having a glass during the day while I had left him alone with the DC.

OnceMoreWithAttitude · 04/01/2025 16:29

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

What if they haven't got a car? What if the OP doesn't drive? What if the one car in the family had been taken by the OP's DH to his hobby? Should the DH not go to his hobby in case one of the children needs to be taken t hospital??

Oh! Taxis! Phone! The OP could call her DH and ask him to come home....

EveryOtherNameTaken · 04/01/2025 16:28

Ffs it's the end of your holiday! You have a drink or two and enjoy.

outerspacepotato · 04/01/2025 16:28

You were relaxing at home with a glass of wine. I see nothing wrong with that and I don't drink alcohol. Kids were fine.

Jennyathemall · 04/01/2025 16:28

Frangywangywoowah · 04/01/2025 16:27

Why anyone drinks alcohol which is classed as a carcinogen by WHO and is the 3rd leading trigger for cancer...and just a poison....should be enough to stop anyone drinking!
However I love a drink but I do think, personally it's a bit early and I don't tend to day drink anymore.

It’s already dark out. Good enough for me.

Mydogisamassivetwat · 04/01/2025 16:27

Coffeeisnecessary · 04/01/2025 16:21

The people that say about needing to drive to hospital, I don't get that- what about when you are home with your dh and you BOTH have a glass or 2 of wine, is this bad? Should one of us always be abstaining in case of emergency?!

According to a lot of people on here over the years, yes.

Businessflake · 04/01/2025 16:27

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

Are you suggesting parents should never be allowed to drink?

Frangywangywoowah · 04/01/2025 16:27

Why anyone drinks alcohol which is classed as a carcinogen by WHO and is the 3rd leading trigger for cancer...and just a poison....should be enough to stop anyone drinking!
However I love a drink but I do think, personally it's a bit early and I don't tend to day drink anymore.

Jennyathemall · 04/01/2025 16:26

Sorry it took me so long to post but it took me forever to get the cork out the wine bottle.

Anyway, you did/are doing absolutely nothing wrong OP.

Actually I think I might have sprained my wrist removing the cork - now should I call a taxi or an ambulance?🤔

JoannaGroats · 04/01/2025 16:26

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

What do you think people who can’t drive or afford to run a car do?

GoldsolesLugs · 04/01/2025 16:25

DowntonShabbie · 04/01/2025 16:23

You can't articulate the supposed risk though. You state it's risky behaviour but can't explain how. So it's not a valid point

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The risk is obvious and has been outlined (child has accident, child needs to go to hospital quickly, long wait for ambulance, quicker to drive). I'm saying that there is a very small risk. Making me provide specifics is just sealioning.

Are you saying that there is absolutely no risk?

Owly11 · 04/01/2025 16:25

Child about to die - call an ambulance
Child needs urgent care - call a taxi, a neighbour or get dh home
Child unwell- get dh home

But really none of this is necessary because it would be ok to drive after one glass of wine.

But I can see that your dh is more concerned that it's weird - what does he mean exactly? I would hate not to be able to relax in my own home. I expect you were enjoying him being out, the kids playing quietly, and wanted to grab a moment for yourself. That sounds lovely to me.

PuppyMonkey · 04/01/2025 16:25

Your DH is right. It’s probably best going forward that he doesn’t do his hobby any more just so he can supervise you at all times as you’re clearly an alcoholic OP.

Boredlass · 04/01/2025 16:24

Nothing wrong with it but people on here will say you have a drinking problem

DowntonShabbie · 04/01/2025 16:23

GoldsolesLugs · 04/01/2025 16:20

That's the thing - it's not horror, it's just acknowledging slightly risky behaviour. I think there's some projection going on in this thread or something as I don't really think I've said anything controversial.

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You can't articulate the supposed risk though. You state it's risky behaviour but can't explain how. So it's not a valid point

magicalmrmistoffelees · 04/01/2025 16:22

devilspawn · 04/01/2025 16:08

I'm Team DH. It's a bit Bridget Jones to be day drinking alone at home.

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Nice bit of casual misogyny.

Coffeeisnecessary · 04/01/2025 16:21

The people that say about needing to drive to hospital, I don't get that- what about when you are home with your dh and you BOTH have a glass or 2 of wine, is this bad? Should one of us always be abstaining in case of emergency?!

UndermyShoeJoe · 04/01/2025 16:21

Chowtime · 04/01/2025 15:17

Yes YABU - what if one of your children needed to be taken to hospital and you were over the limit to drive?

Silly response I don’t even drive so by that logic I can be pissed all day

Baileysatchristmas · 04/01/2025 16:21

Personally, I wouldn't drink if in sole charge of children of the age of yours but I wouldn't judge you for doing it. It's just not something I'd do. But I'm not a big drinker at all and quite happy with a squash or some fancy lemonade.

GoldsolesLugs · 04/01/2025 16:20

Newhi · 04/01/2025 16:19

If her husband went out, it’s highly likely he took the car?!! Should he not have been allowed to go out in case she needed to take the children to hospital?

Let alone people who don’t have a car, are people now supposed to have multiple cars so there is always one car at home with a parent or guardian that has a licence and insurance?

The mental gymnastics of some people trying to make themselves sound justified in their horror of a woman having a glass of wine in her own home with her own children is pretty impressive!!

That's the thing - it's not horror, it's just acknowledging slightly risky behaviour. I think there's some projection going on in this thread or something as I don't really think I've said anything controversial.

GoldsolesLugs · 04/01/2025 16:19

DowntonShabbie · 04/01/2025 16:06

What risk? Please explain what scenario means you have to.urgently drive both children to hospital but don't need an ambulance or assistance? I can't imagine one. And I don't think you can either.

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I dunno, I'm not a doctor. It's mind blowing that you can't think about risk - it's either 0% or 100%. I've said the risk is really small, I've said that I wouldn't judge someone for doing it but it's still not enough - I have to deny reality and say that a child being looked after by a glass of wine drinking parent is as safe as one being looked after by a sober parent. It just isn't true. The former is slightly less safe than the latter.

Newhi · 04/01/2025 16:19

If her husband went out, it’s highly likely he took the car?!! Should he not have been allowed to go out in case she needed to take the children to hospital?

Let alone people who don’t have a car, are people now supposed to have multiple cars so there is always one car at home with a parent or guardian that has a licence and insurance?

The mental gymnastics of some people trying to make themselves sound justified in their horror of a woman having a glass of wine in her own home with her own children is pretty impressive!!