To think I’m not doing anything wrong

Good point, reminds me of an actual situation!

@GoldsolesLugs A friend in my old area lives a literal 5 minutes walk from the hospital (less if you were running there as you may in an emergency). She does not own a car as can't afford to run one.
Both DP and I did, and still do, have our own car. Even with completely empty roads and driving at the speed limit, I would have been at least 15 minutes getting to hospital.

Is my friend still creating more risk by not having a car?

As driving is statistically one of the most dangerous activities performed by man (or woman (other genders are available) drunk or sober) you could argue anyone without a car is at reduced risk compression to those with one.

Ok well you admit that you shouldn't eat marshmallows when you're alone with children because there's a chance you will choke to death, so that's a risk to your children.
And you definitely shouldn't have a bath when you're alone with the children. You could drown, or slip. Also you shouldn't drive with your children. Definite risk there.

You can't just pick one perceived risk and focus on that to judge. Do them all.

I don’t even drink and I think he’s being ridiculous, never mind now he’s back have another one if you feel like it. I’m sure a couple of glasses of wine over the festive period is not actually one step away from being an alcoholic.

They'll also be 'slightly more at risk' than people who live directly opposite a hospital 🤷‍♂️

if you actually have any knowledge/training of risk then you’ll find the definition of a qualitative risk is the potential consequences x the likelihood of the event happening. Yes any of those scenarios could happen (potential consequences) but the chances (likelihood) of them happening during the short window OP is drinking is minuscule. So even the most simple risk assessment (like the one you in your head 20 times a day as a parent without even thinking out it) would conclude the risk to having a glass of wine is vanishing small.

I love how so many assume everyone drives and everyone has access to a car 🤣

It's SO Mumsnet.

How?

Silly comment. What if you can't drive anyway? Or is it ok to have a drink then?

How exceedingly joyless.

Following your logic no parent should ever drink, no matter what the time, as they made need to take a child to hospital.
I presume you never drink a single drop so that you can follow your own words?

You enjoy yourself op, sounds great

More than what? Maybe she lives next to the hospital. So it's your children more at risk, because you'd have to drive them.

See how it works? Calculatung risk is not easy.

What nonsense. With that thought process, you would never drink.

You seem to want to claim that the increased risk is the glass of wine, but actually you keep mentioning not being able to drive.

So if OP’s DH has the car the risk of her having that glass of wine hasn’t changed anything then, has it?

Unless you were trying to argue something different specifically about drinking a glass of wine in which case what was it?

I'm only arguing this silly and pedantic point because of hyperbole like this - I've nowhere said that it's a serious risk or that I'd judge anyone for taking it. I just want people to accept that it is a risk.

I hope you have a spare car just in case yours breaks down when if the DC need to get to hospital.

And then a spare in case the spare breaks down.

And a lightning conductor on your roof just in case.

And a fire extinguisher in every room

Don't forget, nothing requiring gas in case there's an explosion

👍

Yes, but your children are slightly more at risk because you don't have a car.

Do people arguing about a possible need to drive not realise that many of us don’t have a car. We manage. Even in an emergency.

OK, so we have covered the risk of the OP having a glass of wine while Dc are in the house wrt hospital, and the possibility of OP getting a carcinogen-caused disease from her glass of wine...but has anyone mentioned the PRINGLES?

An obvious UPF. Risk of obesity, cancer, heart disease, diabetes, hypertension and kidney issues from the salt etc.

DEADLY.

No! I made no prescription at all - do what you like. I just don't like people saying that it doesn't increase risk at all. I understand why they do it; it's because drinking is very, very, very, very slightly putting your interest ahead of your child's and they think this makes them bad (or at least look bad), so they have to insist that there's no risk at all. Sorry, I won't redefine reality just to take care of your feelings.

No it hasn't. Child has accident, long wait for ambulance, you have two children there ..what kind of accident do you think needs immediate rushing to hospital, with one adult and an extra child? Because anything I can think of would require two adults, one to drive and one to hold/treat/monitor this terribly injured or ill child that can't wait for a taxi or the assistance of anyone else.
I'm still waiting for an example that would require an immediate drive to hospital without anyone to help.
Is the "risk" zero? No, it never is. But it's so small.as to be not worth thinking about.

@Viserrisk YANBU.

I can think of nothing nicer, on such a cold winter’s day as this, snuggling up with a good book and glass of wine. You’re on holiday. Would it be odd to do so on holiday elsewhere? Would he find it odd you had a glass of wine while reading by a pool?

The ages of your kids, they hardly need constant vigilance and attention at home. I guess your DP has a different view, which he’s entitled to if he doesn’t like to drink when alone with the kids. But, frankly, it’s none of his business. You’re not being neglectful or irresponsible.

As for it being weird to drink alone in the house (which you weren’t), does that mean the many, many people who live alone, or are alone because everyone’s away or out, should be abstinent? How preposterous!

There is a risk to absolutely everything.

Risk of choking while eating. Risk of falling down the stairs. Risk of making a cup of tea and dropping the kettle and scalding yourself.

Are you saying you don’t do any of these while looking after children?

There is risk in everything. If I drive my child to hospital there is a risk a distracted or drunk driver will crash into us.
There is a risk the first time you take any medicine as you may be allergic.
There is even risk in OP or anyone having the children on their own at all as any one of us could simply drop dead, leaving them unattended.

It's a small increase in 'risk' to drink a glass of wine, and not worth worrying about. Otherwise our lives would be very limited and filled with worry assessing the negligible risk of every small action.